SummerBee

So, yesterday, my poor baby staffie had to be put to sleep due to canine lymphoma which took her life in six weeks start to finish.
We are all absolutely devastated and can't look at anything in the house that doesn't remind us of her. Our other canine guy is pining for her already and this whole situation is awful.
This is the second time in ten years we have been in this situation but it isn't any easier.
I am sure lots of you have been in this situation also and my heart goes out to you if you have, its a very hard thing to deal with especially when you have a heartbroken sixeen year old daughter. Needless to say, I have needed to drink
Thats all I can say today

Caramel

I am so very sorry this has happened.
I hope you can reconsider the drinking, and permit yourself to feel your authentic feelings, which I hope will include lots of joyful memories of your little dog. Sympathy to your daughter too.
Take care.
SR is here for you

SoberLeigh

Iam so sorry, SummerBee.

Hevyn

SummerBee - We've been through it too. Our mastiff & lab were the best of friends & the mastiff got sick & was gone within 2 wks. - it was horrible. I pray the pain will lessen for you - please don't add to your misery by drinking. As we know by now - it never makes things better.

Maudcat

Very sorry for your loss, SummerBee. It's never easy.

Grymt

Boozing to cope with misery is a selfish way to cope.

emme99

Really sorry for your loss SummerBee.

doggonecarl

First off, sorry for your loss. I've said goodbye to two beloved fur companions in the last couple of years. And it always hurts.

Needed to?

In order to recover from my alcoholism, I had to learn to deal with mess life hands us without drinking. I had to learn--and accept--that feeling bad or sad or depressed was part of the process, that I couldn't hide from it. And in most cases, especially in the loss of a loved one or loved pet, grief is completely normal.

Needing to drink, that is not normal for me anymore.

Please put down the alcohol. Find a way, sober, to honor your dear dog.

SummerBee

Thank you every one for your lovely replies. Yes, I know, drinking is the last and least respectful (to my dog) way to deal with this but what can I say ? I could have planned and allowed for this but chose to believe that it would never happen, stupid or sly, not too sure ??

Anna

I'm very, very sorry for the loss of your beloved dog.

You don't need to drink. You need to talk to your daughter and to grieve and to believe that you can get through this without alcohol.

Pondlady

Very sorry for the loss of your dog. IMO, it's a significant loss....just like a family member.

You can get through this without alcohol, you'll just add guilt and self loathing, to your grief.

Ilovemysonjj

So sorry for your loss. I have lost two of my fur babies, and its devastating. Please focus on your daughter and make time to heal together. Also, your other fur baby will be very sensitive to you and your daughter's emotions. Our surviving Lab went into a depression for several days so we just spend a lot of time laying next to him and letting him grieve right along with us.

PhoenixJ

Lots of empathy. That is crap. Know the event.

oakleaf82

I am sorry about your dog, but you don't "need" to drink. What healthy coping mechanisms could you use instead?

Upstairs

Sorry for your loss Summerbee. Sounds like your other dog needs some extra attention too. Take care

Dee74

I'm sorry for your loss SummerBee. Please don't drink tho.

Its natural to feel sad - you may feel like the sadness will overwhelm you but it won''t, we grieve we cry, we process and eventually we get back to something near normal.

Drinking halts that progression in the grief phase...drinking solves nothing,. we just try and push the sadness to one side,...but it always comes back.

we go round and round in a loop with the wound staying red raw.

I'm sure your dog would hate to see you upset and hurting yourself.
Be there for your daughter and your other dog.

You can and will get through this sober

D

Mattq2

My lab passed from the same thing. Four weeks from the first symptoms to the time I had to put here down.

I have tears in my eyes now just remembering it. I felt better knowing, that although her life was short, I gave her a great life full of love and happiness. Many animals don't get that. I am sure you and your family did the same. Like me, given some time, you will only remember the happiness that she brought to your life.

To me drinking will only complicate the process of morning the loss of your lovely dog. Please don't drink. It will solve nothing.

I am sorry for your loss. I mean that.