STBXAH is mad Again
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STBXAH is mad Again
STBXAH called my attorney , yelling profanities. Upset because we had no choice but to subpoena his employer. Well ,I'm sorry when you provide false paycheck stubs isn't that to be expected? What floors me is his mother ( who has went through two divorces) has the galls to say I'm spiteful... Really ? me?
STBXAH is doing everything to avoid responsibility. He is the alcoholic , he is the one who wreck marital vehicles , his credit , this marriage. etc How I'm I spiteful for finally excepting he ran out and i'm putting whats dead to rest.
STBXAH is doing everything to avoid responsibility. He is the alcoholic , he is the one who wreck marital vehicles , his credit , this marriage. etc How I'm I spiteful for finally excepting he ran out and i'm putting whats dead to rest.
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This is addiction. It does everything it can think of to protect itself, and part of that is deluding the addict into believing everything that hurts is someone else's fault. It literally has nothing to do with you.
You do not have to participate in this -- not with him, not his mother. That's what your lawyer is for.
Take good care of yourself! You deserve it!!!
You do not have to participate in this -- not with him, not his mother. That's what your lawyer is for.
Take good care of yourself! You deserve it!!!
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Saving - it is not you, it is his disease and his family affected by said disease.
My "out-of-law" was saying for months to anyone who will listen that "I kicked her poor son out", and now she purchased him a piece of land. He is almost 50. I mean, his family won't even give him a chance to stand on his own with all the hovering and "supporting". She actually left XAHs father who was an alcoholic. I think, deep down, she is on my side lol.
Meh. I no longer feel bad about giving his phone number to bill collectors - he decided to stop paying his credit cards and they keep calling me. Just tune their disfunctional family out.
My "out-of-law" was saying for months to anyone who will listen that "I kicked her poor son out", and now she purchased him a piece of land. He is almost 50. I mean, his family won't even give him a chance to stand on his own with all the hovering and "supporting". She actually left XAHs father who was an alcoholic. I think, deep down, she is on my side lol.
Meh. I no longer feel bad about giving his phone number to bill collectors - he decided to stop paying his credit cards and they keep calling me. Just tune their disfunctional family out.
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See!?! You were so upset when he was smugly lying to the judge's face and saying something about you being able to buy a haircut and he has to cut his own hair LOL!!! That jerk is going to get what he deserves - karma, baby!!!!
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You know, sometimes I think anger is a bad thing, and I will work my way out of it, sometimes, I think anger is a good thing, it motivates you.
No one can answer why they do the things they do !!!!!! I don't even think they know why !!!!!! (lol) My ex is the one that filed the divorce against me, and it dragged on for 18 months. There was nothing to my divorce. He just lied and refused to submit discovery. The judge even got sick of him, and did make him pay $1750.00 to my attorney for the day wasted in court. I also agree, they are just "precious".
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No one can answer why they do the things they do !!!!!! I don't even think they know why !!!!!! (lol) My ex is the one that filed the divorce against me, and it dragged on for 18 months. There was nothing to my divorce. He just lied and refused to submit discovery. The judge even got sick of him, and did make him pay $1750.00 to my attorney for the day wasted in court. I also agree, they are just "precious".
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Ha! Good for you for making him accountable. My STBXAH is doing the same thing...although his employer pays him under the table. We did subpoena his employer but they are close friends so it's just a bunch of lies. It amazes me what these people try to get away with.
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It's going to get better.
Make a plan, man! (woman)
Can you get out to a market or the library or a long walk at a park or beach? That always helps me. Divorce is uncomfortable, but it's all for your good. Hang on! We're with you.
Make a plan, man! (woman)
Can you get out to a market or the library or a long walk at a park or beach? That always helps me. Divorce is uncomfortable, but it's all for your good. Hang on! We're with you.
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I'm sorry, savingme, but things will get better. If it's a sad and lonely morning, so be it. Let go of any expectations of yourself that you can, just for today. Respect your feelings, and take good care of yourself.
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What floors me is his mother ( who has went through two divorces) has the galls to say I'm spiteful... Really ? me?
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