Al31

Well made it through another shift at the bar without drinking.

Despite the fact that a friend was having birthday drinks in there. And someone I've been hoping to date was in, and things were going well till they pulled someone else in front of me. Having to serve them all drink whilst they were all laughing and having fun.

Anyway I literally took it one minute at a time. So home now having a hot chocolate lol. Going to bed soon and waking up to day 5!!

Spartanman

Awesome! I could not trust myself in a bar yet, I think it's great that you survived the shift, you must be really determined. Keep it up and stay strong!

Ghostlight1

Congratulations.
Day four was always a rough one for me, so good going.
Just remember you never have to drink again.
Best to you on day five.

bloss

Congratulations on not giving in to the urge to take a drink, sometimes the urge can come upon a person without warning. Try to be prepared in situations which trigger the urge to drink, have a plan on how you will handle the urge in advance. That way you will not be surprised if it happens...the more times you can push the urge away, the stronger you will become.

Scruffanie

Great work Al!

You may already be doing this but I'm sure working in a bar you've noticed how, as the drinks add up, people change and start making poor choices. How about some 'people watching' through sober eyes? Perhaps see what you no longer have to experience rather than what you feel you may be missing out on? I'm certainly not suggesting you judge others poorly, just observe the effects of alcohol.

Keep up the good work

PhoenixJ

Nonsensical

january161992

great job on another day

Outonthetiles

Great job.
The first few days are hardest, and then it gets easier. There's bumps in the road, but you CAN do this. If I did it, anyone can!

Centered3

Woo-hoo!!
Congratulations!!


I've seen it here on SR before and it helps me so I'm gonna share for you hoping it helps you too:

"Alcohol is poison"

"I don't drink."

If I worked at a bar I think I'd have to repeat those things ad nausea in my head.

And be aware of the AV, the mind, or the ego or whatever you want to call it that is going to lie to you to try to get you to drink.

Incontrol15

Wow. Sounds like a huge win! I bet it's going to be a turning point for you too.

I'll never forget those early battles. Just trying to survive the next minute or crushing the next urge. The first couple days seemed near impossible with the next hour being harder than the previous.

But there comes a point where you manage to push through a very difficult situation very much like you just did which changes everything.

Instead of dreading the moment, or fearing the fights ahead, or the unknown, you feel something different. Something positive. PRIDE.

Once that seal has been broken, that feeling keeps coming back again. Over and over. After each battle won. Small or large.

Soak that feeling in. Really pay attention to it and give it more power. It's that positive affirmation that causes your mindset to change. Subconsciously, you're training your mind that a reward will follow every battle.

Super psyched for you! Enjoy the feeling of victory!

Al31

You are right. Day 5 was much easier than day 4.

Obviously had urges and spent a good hour googling 'can I ever drink normally again' - I know lol !!

At least that's another day done. Tomorrow's my day off and I'm always so much more productive when I don't have a hangover. Get some more job hunting done!

Anyway thanks for the support. It does help