Letting Go
Nature Girl
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Letting Go
This poem is from my treasures and one that I wanted to share here today. It's been here a few times but not recently, so for the newcomers, old timers and those just dropping by...this one's for you. Enjoy.
~ LETTING GO ~
~ To let go doesn't mean to stop caring:
it means I can't do it for someone else.
~ To let go is not to cut myself off;
it is the realization that I can't control another.
~ To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
~ To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
~ To let go is not to try to change or blame another;
I can only change myself.
~ To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
~ To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
~ To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
~ To let go is not to be in the middle arranging outcomes,
but to allow others to effect their own outcomes.
~ To let go is not to be protective;
it is to permit another to face reality.
~ To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
~ To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them
~ To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and to cherish the moment.
~ To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
~ To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.
~ To let go is to fear less
and love more.
(Author Unknown - Credited in 'The Grace Awakening' by Charles R. Swindoll)
~ To let go doesn't mean to stop caring:
it means I can't do it for someone else.
~ To let go is not to cut myself off;
it is the realization that I can't control another.
~ To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
~ To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
~ To let go is not to try to change or blame another;
I can only change myself.
~ To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
~ To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
~ To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
~ To let go is not to be in the middle arranging outcomes,
but to allow others to effect their own outcomes.
~ To let go is not to be protective;
it is to permit another to face reality.
~ To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
~ To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them
~ To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and to cherish the moment.
~ To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
~ To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.
~ To let go is to fear less
and love more.
(Author Unknown - Credited in 'The Grace Awakening' by Charles R. Swindoll)
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Oh wow. I really needed this today. I have had contact with AH and i have regretted it miserably. I am normally a sweet sane person but i swear when we have contact its like fire and gasoline. I am so angry and can really say some terrible things. I still have so much work to do and thank you for reminding me.
This hit home: ~ To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them
The arguing and scolding only hurt me. He doesn't even hear me and it just gets my blood pressure up. He continues to make bad choices and I have to continue to detach and set boundaries for me that I can stick to.
This hit home: ~ To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them
The arguing and scolding only hurt me. He doesn't even hear me and it just gets my blood pressure up. He continues to make bad choices and I have to continue to detach and set boundaries for me that I can stick to.
Nature Girl
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Location: By The Lake
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~ To let go is not to be in the middle arranging outcomes,
but to allow others to effect their own outcomes.
but to allow others to effect their own outcomes.
Sometimes I will offer my experience, or refer them to something that helped me, but mostly I need to sit back and let people figure things out for themselves...they are smart and they can do it and they learn a lot in the process.
If I ever get a tattoo, I think it will be on my hand, the one I reach out with to "fix" things... and it shall read "Back off! Let Go"
This already is in the Stickies, although a bit hard to find, it's on page 2 of the "Powerful Reading" sticky. When I was mod I had to group a lot of these good reads together, otherwise the stickies would take over the entire first page of this forum, and we need that space for the newcomers to come and ask for help and be seen. You can find this and a lot of other good reading in both parts of the "Powerful Reading" Sticky.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ing-posts.html
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