bhudsontuck

How?

Dee74

Hi and welcoem back.
Sorry you're still struggling...

I can only tell you how I stopped.

I really threw myself into this community - I posted a lot, read a lot, and posted to other people a lot. I joined a lot of group threads....

When I wanted to drink, I posted here instead.

I got through one day and then backed up and got through another.

It was hard but I put a lot of effort into drinking, and hiding it,. and cleaning up the mess from it...I put that kind of dedication into not drinking.

If you're worried about withdrawal - see a Dr first.

If you're not sure this site will be enough for you. try other sites as well, or things in the real world like AA or some other recovery group like SMART etc...

If you think you need a higher level than than that, maybe talk to your doc about rehab?

I'm not trying to scare you - just pointing out there's always options - nothing is hopeless

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Red78

It's very individual.. I think there has to be a want to stop.. I think some people have to hit rock bottom before they do stop and some people can make that decision to stop and do it.
But the method I think is very individual..

SnazzyDresser

Glad to have you here, bhudsontuck. It's very doable, quitting. Not always easy, that's for sure. But we're all capable of a lot more than we realize. SR can help you a lot if you use it. People here know what you're going through. You might want to join in the February 2017 thread that's specifically for new people.

hodor

What had to happen for me was to acknowledge that I couldn't stop on my own, and to seek help outside of myself.

I had tried everything I could think of and none of it worked. Nothing kept me from going straight back to the bottle, regardless of the consequences.

You look like you may be at a similar point, as you're reaching out.

Congratulations, you're in the absolute right place! Keep posting, asking for help and taking the advice of those that have had to go through the same or worse. It can only get better from here for you.

I wish you all the best and don't hesitate to reach out directly if you need help.

catlover1989

I'm on Day 1 right now. Like you, I'm wondering how I will be able to beat this thing. But I have to try. I can't keep living like this.

Nonsensical

A good first step might be to state the actual problem. It's not that you don't know how to NOT pour liquor in your mouth. It's more like you don't know how to be happy not pouring liquor in your mouth.

Been there, done that.

I'll tell you one thing for certain - I never would have found my answers if I had kept pouring liquor in my mouth.

Best of Luck on Your Journey.

FreeOwl

Well, if you're stuck trying to STOP.

Then START trying to START!!!!


START - embracing sobriety

START - changing the things in your life that support addiction

START - doing new things that are sober-oriented

START - a clear program of support including physical presence with others who are embracing sobriety

START - a new daily ritual

START - filling up the time in your life with active things that don't put you in a drinking / drugging context

START - exercising

START - meditating

START - a list of things you've always wanted to try....

and START - doing those things

START - a daily plan of action

START - getting involved in service to others through volunteering and adopting a purpose

START - taking time to cherish the goodness life has to offer

START - a gratitude practice every day

START - going to meetings

START - telling everyone you know that you've embraced sobriety and would cherish their support

START - eliminating relationships that are unhealthy

START - initiating relationships that support sobriety

START LIVING

START UNDERSTANDING

START GROWING

START BEING!!!!!

Stop trying to Stop.

START STARTING!!!

aasharon90

Surrender yourself into the hands of
those who have found success in living
their lives in recovery. Those who found
a solution using a recovery program as
a guideline in applying it to all areas of
their lives.

I learned early on that I never had to
go thru this process alone because
others paved the way for me to follow
and learn every step of the way.

They told me to hold on tight and they
would guide me with helpful suggestions,
with knowledge taught to me about my
addiction, how it affected me and others
around me, and achieve health, happiness
and a freedom from my addiction each day
I remained sober.

I was willing to do whatever I could do
to get off that merry go round of insanity
that came with my addiction and never
get back on it again.

I crawled and was carried until I was strong
enough to walk this recovery life on my own.

So can you.

least

You've got to start with a day one. Start today. Just don't drink today. Then tomorrow, do it again. I didn't think I could stop drinking either, but I did and now have over seven years sober. It can be done.

Behappy1

I agree, the first step is putting down the bottle. Get through one day, then the next. I was where you are over the weekend. Hopeless, impossible, not doable. But it IS doable, I've done it before and you can too! That hopelessness that you're feeling isn't you. It's your addiction wanting to keep you feeling this way so it gets what it wants.

BrendaChenowyth

There is no magic pill that will make you stop. You have to decide to stop. You have to practice self control. You will figure out what helps with the feelings that arise when you quit, but to quit, you have to understand that you are the only one who controls whether or not to pick up a drink.

PurpleKnight

Welcome back Bhudsontuck!!

Midwest1981

welcome back! keep posting and reading. SR is a valuable tool!!

Berrybean

Some great suggestions on this post... which did you try so far? Which can you add in for the future?

I thought stopping drinking would be just that. I had no idea of the depth of the transformation that was necessary and possible. I'm 3 years sober tomorrow, and feel like a completely different person. Same job, same home, same partner but so, so different. Life just feels so much easier (even in the tough times). Things do get better, but only when we take action to recover.

Meraviglioso

It sucks but you just have to do it. Start by getting rid of all alcohol in your house and staying away from it for the first few days, build up some time between you and the last drink. That is a good first step. Then you need to really build up a program. Find some support locally- meetings of any sort, outpatient rehab or even consider inpatient rehab. For me it took a stay in inpatient rehab to really get going.