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Old 02-14-2017, 07:12 AM
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I haven't posted in a long time. My thoughts are rambling. Divorced for a year now. We share a 3 year old who is the light of my life (his too). I just got a call that he passed away early this morning. Hurting so bad right now. I was detached and happy and rebuilding a beautiful life. He was struggling, reeling. All of the thoughts... thinking about how he broke down when I told him we were legally divorced. How hard he fought... 8 or 9 rehab treatments. He wanted it. Every time. I just think his demons from childhood abuse and losing his own son were too much in the end. More rambling. Posting here because I know someone will understand the hard pain and hurt. I still cared about him so much.
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Old 02-14-2017, 07:14 AM
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I am so very sorry. There are no words. It's a tragic reality that some cannot get past their own inner turmoil.

I send you many hugs, love and light.
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Old 02-14-2017, 07:16 AM
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My empathy, thoughts and support for you.
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Old 02-14-2017, 07:19 AM
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This disease is so sad. Sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.
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Old 02-14-2017, 07:20 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Old 02-14-2017, 07:30 AM
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Oh HH, I am so so sorry.

Big, big hug. Love that 3-year old.
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Old 02-14-2017, 07:36 AM
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I am so very sorry for your loss.

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Old 02-14-2017, 07:42 AM
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oh HHTexas we are never strong enough.. what do you say to someone that has had this type of loss.. Dear Heart you have all of us around you in a circle of life and hope and enough of us in tears so pass the tissue.. get the tea and cookies.. and sing a prayer to the heavens to hear.. you know he now has answers to so much and can see your pain and loss.. and he has to deal with that on another side of this veil... prayers of hope and hands that reach out to catch you and hold you tight on this path of darkness ..
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Old 02-14-2017, 07:43 AM
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I'm so sorry. Please know there is nothing you could have done to "save" him. It would have been so much harder for you and your son if it had happened in your home.

Many hugs and prayers for healing and comfort.
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Old 02-14-2017, 07:53 AM
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Sending you strength and peace, HH. I am so sorry for your loss.
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Old 02-14-2017, 08:11 AM
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I am so sorry, HH. I don't doubt that he was a beautiful soul. May the peace that only God can bring run through you during this time.
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I'm so sorry, HH.
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Old 02-14-2017, 08:52 AM
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Keeping you in my thoughts today. I'm sorry.
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Old 02-14-2017, 08:57 AM
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Old 02-14-2017, 09:13 AM
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Oh, HH....how the heart grieves after the loss...
It was never in your hands, though..
Know that he is, finally, at peace.

my heart goes out to you...
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I'm so sorry for your loss, HHTexas.
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Old 02-14-2017, 09:34 AM
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I understand and share your pain. My daughter-in-law took her life on December 5 and left my 13-year-old grandson without a mother. She, too, had failed rehab 4 times, and the autopsy also showed she had heroin with fentanyl in her system in addition to alcohol and sleeping pills. My son had filed for divorce and she just kept getting worse. Time will help, of course, and I have found peace in knowing that there was nothing I could do to stop it. What a sad ending!
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Old 02-14-2017, 09:45 AM
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I'm so sorry, peace and comfort to all of you HHTexas.
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Old 02-14-2017, 10:31 AM
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My thoughts are with you, HH. I'm sorry for your loss.
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Old 02-14-2017, 10:49 AM
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(((((((Just big hugs to you and your little one, HH )))))))
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