Back at day 1
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Back at day 1
I don't know how to do this. I've been trying to get past day one again for the last two weeks. Every day just keeps ending in the same repeat of the day before. I'm embarrassed to admit this.
I can't do AA. This would be so much easier if I could. Some bad things happened there when I was a teen and I just can't imagine being a part of that. What I am doing isn't working. Even from the inside, I can see it for the insanity that it is. I'm stuck on repeat again.
I feel broken and angry and lost right now. I don't have anyone to talk about this with.
I can't do AA. This would be so much easier if I could. Some bad things happened there when I was a teen and I just can't imagine being a part of that. What I am doing isn't working. Even from the inside, I can see it for the insanity that it is. I'm stuck on repeat again.
I feel broken and angry and lost right now. I don't have anyone to talk about this with.
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Since day one seems to be the sticking point, why don't you figure out what your routine is around drinking and make a plan to do other things that won't trigger it. If you're a drink alone at home person (raises hand), plan a week's worth of evenings that get you out of the house and doing other things that don't involve alcohol--gym, movies, museums, whatever. If you're a drink at bars type, make evening appointments for hair, training, coffee with nondrinking friends, whatever fits your life so you know you'll be letting others down if you don't show up.
All of this presupposes that you haven't experienced severe withdrawal symptoms, in which case get yourself to your doctor first and foremost?
And of course, get all of the alcohol out of the house. No saving anything back because it's expensive, or you'll gift it to someone, etc. etc. Out. Down the drain.
You can do this!
All of this presupposes that you haven't experienced severe withdrawal symptoms, in which case get yourself to your doctor first and foremost?
And of course, get all of the alcohol out of the house. No saving anything back because it's expensive, or you'll gift it to someone, etc. etc. Out. Down the drain.
You can do this!
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Thanks columbus. I appreciate the positive reminder. It's so easy to just complain and whine about my situation. I need to get back on my feet and start walking again. The first few steps are the hardest ones.
I understand. Everyday I would say - I'm not going to drink again but by 6 I was finishing work, going to my local shop and buying my usual 2 bottles of wine, not able to look the shop assistant in the eye, hating myself.
I had to change my routine, I took some sick days, I left my bank cards at home and I literally had £1 to put in for the 7th tradition when I attended meetings. I knew I had to do something, sobriety wasn't going to knock on my door and say....I'm here! I had to fight for it.
You can do it. You really can.
X
I had to change my routine, I took some sick days, I left my bank cards at home and I literally had £1 to put in for the 7th tradition when I attended meetings. I knew I had to do something, sobriety wasn't going to knock on my door and say....I'm here! I had to fight for it.
You can do it. You really can.
X
Hi Mangoman,
Glad you are here and posting. There are lots of paths to recovery, AA isn't the only one.
Here is a link that Dee shares it is a good one. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html
Aries has some great suggestions for moving forward one day at a time. Start. Y figuring out what you are going to do to stay sober tonight. If you need to spend the night reading and posting on here.
You can do this.
Glad you are here and posting. There are lots of paths to recovery, AA isn't the only one.
Here is a link that Dee shares it is a good one. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html
Aries has some great suggestions for moving forward one day at a time. Start. Y figuring out what you are going to do to stay sober tonight. If you need to spend the night reading and posting on here.
You can do this.
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Right back in the same place. Wishing I would have taken the time to read these posts yesterday. It was a crazy busy day at work. By the time it was done my autopilot brain had my driving home with a bottle of vodka between my legs. I hate this version of me. I know I can be so much more than this.
I'm going to take the advice of leaving my bank cards home today. That's a great idea. I'll take lunch with me. I'll go for a swim this afternoon to let off some steam. Why does it feel like I'm trying to play trickery with another version of myself? I wake up as the good me, but the other me takes over around 4 PM.
Thanks for the great advice everyone.
I'm going to take the advice of leaving my bank cards home today. That's a great idea. I'll take lunch with me. I'll go for a swim this afternoon to let off some steam. Why does it feel like I'm trying to play trickery with another version of myself? I wake up as the good me, but the other me takes over around 4 PM.
Thanks for the great advice everyone.
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I just looked into this. The only local meeing is a SMART group that is private. This board really has been the best think I have found for trying to have a conversation with others about this.
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For me, being a pragmatic type, it really helped to research how alcohol affects our biochemistry and exactly how it takes over the neurotransmitters on a molecular level. There are so many layers of morality and emotions and societal influences on top of alcoholism that for me, understanding that addiction is at its core a biochemical process really helps. We're not weak and evil...our brain cells are maladapted and the cure for that part is to stop ingesting alcohol.
You can do this.
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For me, being a pragmatic type, it really helped to research how alcohol affects our biochemistry and exactly how it takes over the neurotransmitters on a molecular level. There are so many layers of morality and emotions and societal influences on top of alcoholism that for me, understanding that addiction is at its core a biochemical process really helps. We're not weak and evil...our brain cells are maladapted and the cure for that part is to stop ingesting alcohol.
We've all been there...and it does feel like we're helplessly watching as someone hijacks our bodies. I believe that there's some truth to it, that addiction is on such a primal, survival level of our brains that it overrides all of our higher level mental processes.
For me, being a pragmatic type, it really helped to research how alcohol affects our biochemistry and exactly how it takes over the neurotransmitters on a molecular level. There are so many layers of morality and emotions and societal influences on top of alcoholism that for me, understanding that addiction is at its core a biochemical process really helps. We're not weak and evil...our brain cells are maladapted and the cure for that part is to stop ingesting alcohol.
You can do this.
For me, being a pragmatic type, it really helped to research how alcohol affects our biochemistry and exactly how it takes over the neurotransmitters on a molecular level. There are so many layers of morality and emotions and societal influences on top of alcoholism that for me, understanding that addiction is at its core a biochemical process really helps. We're not weak and evil...our brain cells are maladapted and the cure for that part is to stop ingesting alcohol.
You can do this.
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Oh, so much this. It felt so baffling to want to be doing something different but feeling unable to do anything different. Keep posting.
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For me, being a pragmatic type, it really helped to research how alcohol affects our biochemistry and exactly how it takes over the neurotransmitters on a molecular level. There are so many layers of morality and emotions and societal influences on top of alcoholism that for me, understanding that addiction is at its core a biochemical process really helps. We're not weak and evil...our brain cells are maladapted and the cure for that part is to stop ingesting alcohol.
If you just can't do AA maybe support from a local church would help.
Possibly call one and ask to meet with a Pastor or Elder.
Our church has counseled many drunks and addicts
and we sponsor at this time a couple of men that we helped get into rehab.
Both of those men are now coming up on one year sober.
M-Bob
Possibly call one and ask to meet with a Pastor or Elder.
Our church has counseled many drunks and addicts
and we sponsor at this time a couple of men that we helped get into rehab.
Both of those men are now coming up on one year sober.
M-Bob
We've all been there...and it does feel like we're helplessly watching as someone hijacks our bodies. I believe that there's some truth to it, that addiction is on such a primal, survival level of our brains that it overrides all of our higher level mental processes.
For me, being a pragmatic type, it really helped to research how alcohol affects our biochemistry and exactly how it takes over the neurotransmitters on a molecular level. There are so many layers of morality and emotions and societal influences on top of alcoholism that for me, understanding that addiction is at its core a biochemical process really helps. We're not weak and evil...our brain cells are maladapted and the cure for that part is to stop ingesting alcohol.
You can do this.
For me, being a pragmatic type, it really helped to research how alcohol affects our biochemistry and exactly how it takes over the neurotransmitters on a molecular level. There are so many layers of morality and emotions and societal influences on top of alcoholism that for me, understanding that addiction is at its core a biochemical process really helps. We're not weak and evil...our brain cells are maladapted and the cure for that part is to stop ingesting alcohol.
You can do this.
Mangoman. Hoping it all goes well with you today. I was very much a 'steady' daily drinker (rather than weekend warrior) and can really relate to how hard it is to get to day 1. 'Tomorrow' was always the answer for me. Good idea to leave money at home!
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