Kaily

Walk my dogs for miles everyday instead of the bare minimum.

Not let people down due to being hungover/drunk to keep commitments.

Find clubs to join as to make new friends.

Take pride in my house and garden like I use to back in the day.

Help older folks that are lonely and alone.

So much more I could do if only I could get sober.

Please add your own hopes for the future.

MLD51

Kaily - change "if only I could get sober" to "when I get sober." You can do it.

manama

If I could stop drinking I would be able to handle more responsibility. Then I'd take on a job that challenged me to try my best.

Instead of doing work that requires little thought but is rapidly helping my back to deteriorate.

August252015

Kaily- I am glad to hear from you. I was just thinking about you when I logged onto SR earlier this morning.

It sounds like you are still drinking....what's going on? A lot of us followed your story with care and concern not too long ago.

You can make a change. Please stick around and let us help as we can, and consider the IRL help it really might be time to take.

Fusion

Kaily, please stay here this time. I absolutely agree with MLD51.

All those things you've listed, they're proof of the kind hearted, loving person you are. It doesn't have to be this way, you deserve far more,. You can break free of drinking and live your life as you wish - in accordance with your list.

For now, forget about other people's wishes for the future and focus on your own. When sober, you'll be able to help plenty of other folks, in accordance with your list.

Do you have a plan, Kaily, a plan to try, or retry something that will enable you to stop drinking and thereby, be the real, authentic Kaily.

FreeOwl

Let me re-write this for you....


If I just......

Make a firm decision to embrace sobriety and then take ACTIONS like;

Walk my dogs for miles everyday instead of the bare minimum.

Find and join new non-drinking-oriented clubs and activities as to make new friends.

Take pride in my house and garden like I use to back in the day.

Help older folks that are lonely and alone, and engage in other service to others...

And focus each day on So much more I'd like my life to be....



...Then I'll never drink again and will deepen my blessed abundant life every last day I get to Live.



(flip your thinking.... give yourself a new story... you can do this)

Anna

Kaily, you can be the person you want to be. We're here for you!

Solarion

Dear Kaily, you can and you could.

Just keep trying until sobriety takes root, then treasure it and tend to it each day.

Kaily

Thanks for thinking of me.
I am still on the ridiculous merry go round of not getting any help. Currently on a 6 week course called preparation for detox!

JK130

Hey Kaily, Yes, you can get sober, and turn your life around. I want to mention that there are quite a few right here on SR who, like me, are lonely and alone. You can offer encouragement and comfort to others right from your home. Oh, and I'm old too, so triple winner of caring comments! Lol! How is your day going so far?

Avra

Hi Kaily. You can quit, you just need to decide to. It may be hard but its not "cant" but "wont". This is your AV, loud and clear.

I told myself countless times I couldnt, and then i realized the power was in me. I just had to make rhe cecision that no matter how uncomfortabke that decision was, it was a line in the sand nonetheless and it was doable. It gets easier, but you need to get through the early days.

I come here to SR everyday. I dont post alot right now as I am feeling rather introspective, but I read, lots. Find it in yourself to find a support system that works for you, you wont regret it.

AnvilheadII

6 weeks to get READY for detox? what does that even mean?

NOT drinking is actually a lot easier when we DO IT and a lot harder when all we do is think about not doing it. sure staying QUIT is a bugger, but it is done ALL the time. every day, throughout the planet.

Fusion

Kaily resides in the UK, as do I. The U.K. does not have the same healthcare system regarding addictions, as the U.S.

Kaily has, if you read previous posts, repeatedly requested assistance from the GP (MD) to no avail. If detox is now available in six weeks, that's progress; compared to Kaily's earlier posts reporting on the dire experience in the U.K. healthcare system.

Dee74

There are many folks here from the UK who have gotten sober and stayed that way, so the outcome is definitely not hopeless, no matter how wanting the healthcare system might be

Whats involved in this course Kaily?

Are you doing anything else for your recovery?

D

BrendaChenowyth

When I stop drinking, I will...

Ultramarathoner

Great List!

"I have chosen to live alcohol-free so I can . . ."

Fly N Buy

I discovered that I don't need to be perfect to help another. I don't need to win the lottery to lend a helping hand. We are hurting healers. Getting out of myself helps me stay away from the drink.........chicken egg deal, I suppose.

Find a way........it's there for the taking - nothing special around here. Just made a decision and put the action first above all else.

Kaily

Hi Dee
The course is about learning what to expect if and when we get a detox or rehabilitation, also by attending we are showing commitment to truly wanting to get better.
I am also going to a Smart meeting weekly and seeing a counselor every fortnight.

Dee74

Sounds like the makings of a good plan so far Kaily

D

Delilah1

Hi Kaily,

Just wanted to send you some well wishes. I hope you are able to get into rehab soon. I found this site to be an incredible support and it helped me to get sober. I spent a lot of time on here, especially in the beginning. So you have plans to keep you busy this weekend?