Hopelessly hopeful
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Hopelessly hopeful
Only 2 days in. Feeling sick and so very tired and trying to hold it together. At 51 my battle with booze has been beating me up since I was in my teens. I've had brief periods of sobriety my longest being 6 months. But that was only because I was in jail for a 3rd DUI. I don't want to do this anymore yet there is a part of my brain that is reluctant to let go and keeps whispering "just once more". I'm tired of feeling tired, cloudy, guilty, etc. I feel like there is no more options for me, I've tried them all.
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Welcome.
That's your addiction, the part of your brain that doesn't care about quitting, doesn't care about the misery it brings to your life.
Here's where you make your stand and tell your addiction, "No, I don't drink. I'll never drink again."
Now do everything in your power to support that decision to quit.
Originally Posted by 4theLuv 
I don't want to do this anymore yet there is a part of my brain that is reluctant to let go and keeps whispering "just once more".
Here's where you make your stand and tell your addiction, "No, I don't drink. I'll never drink again."
Now do everything in your power to support that decision to quit.
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Washington State
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The greatest thing from my sobriety (celebrated one year yesterday) is that I don't have that foggy, tired, feeling anymore. Everything is so clear and I love it . When I feel the urge to drink I just remember this feeling of clarity that I know I would lose if I drank.
Keep posting here. We are here for you! Congrats on making the decision to sober up. One day at a time (cliche but it's the truth because forever is daunting but one day at a time is doable)
-Leasha
Keep posting here. We are here for you! Congrats on making the decision to sober up. One day at a time (cliche but it's the truth because forever is daunting but one day at a time is doable)
-Leasha
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You don't have to listen to your Addictive Voice. It can, and will, keep twittering on. You can't shut it up as such, but the longer the time is between now and your last drink, the weaker and quieter it will be. Just don't feed it!!
You say you have tried 'everything'. What does your everything look like? What have you tried so far?
Wishing you all the best for your sobriety and recovery. BB
You say you have tried 'everything'. What does your everything look like? What have you tried so far?
Wishing you all the best for your sobriety and recovery. BB
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A lot of us have felt we tried everything and nothing could ever work. I felt that way for several years. The truth is I was doing everything right and it would have worked if I had just spent more time doing those things.
I discovered if I spent a long time on this board as well as reviewing my reasons not to drink, first thing in the morning, I wouldn't slip up that day.
However, the thing about this condition is that our minds can slip backward into alcoholic thinking, even when we don't want a drink. Alcoholic thinking is when we're downplaying our alcoholism so that it doesn't feel like we have a big problem that needs to be worked on immediately.
Here's a plan you could try.
1) Accept that you have a serious condition that needs your attention every day.
2) Accept that one drink can lead to more drinks, no matter how convinced you are when you're sober that won't happen.
3) Accept that you can't moderate as moderation will just lead to unplanned urges. (Moderation meaning you decide to only drink every two weeks after handing your keys to someone else. For example.
4) Get an accountability partner you can be honest with, who you report to each day to tell them when you drank last.
5) Spend several hours each day working on this thing. Working on it means coming to this forum to read and write, going to AA meetings or something of that nature. Whatever it is that helps you stay sober on certain days, spend more time doing those things.
No matter how long you stay sober, that does not mean your brain will change so that you can drink normally again. Once a line is crossed, there is NO going back.
Well this is the plan I followed more or less, that finally got me sober.
AA meetings can be very helpful even if you decide not to follow the program and there are many available in most areas. I don't follow the program but go to meetings at least twice a week and they're very helpful, plus gave me new sober friends
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You CAN do this like many others have. Wishing you the best.
I discovered if I spent a long time on this board as well as reviewing my reasons not to drink, first thing in the morning, I wouldn't slip up that day.
However, the thing about this condition is that our minds can slip backward into alcoholic thinking, even when we don't want a drink. Alcoholic thinking is when we're downplaying our alcoholism so that it doesn't feel like we have a big problem that needs to be worked on immediately.
Here's a plan you could try.
1) Accept that you have a serious condition that needs your attention every day.
2) Accept that one drink can lead to more drinks, no matter how convinced you are when you're sober that won't happen.
3) Accept that you can't moderate as moderation will just lead to unplanned urges. (Moderation meaning you decide to only drink every two weeks after handing your keys to someone else. For example.
4) Get an accountability partner you can be honest with, who you report to each day to tell them when you drank last.
5) Spend several hours each day working on this thing. Working on it means coming to this forum to read and write, going to AA meetings or something of that nature. Whatever it is that helps you stay sober on certain days, spend more time doing those things.
No matter how long you stay sober, that does not mean your brain will change so that you can drink normally again. Once a line is crossed, there is NO going back.
Well this is the plan I followed more or less, that finally got me sober.
AA meetings can be very helpful even if you decide not to follow the program and there are many available in most areas. I don't follow the program but go to meetings at least twice a week and they're very helpful, plus gave me new sober friends
.You CAN do this like many others have. Wishing you the best.
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Originally Posted by 4theLuv
there is a part of my brain that is reluctant to let go and keeps whispering "just once more".
I first remember hearing it in 1986. In 30 years it hasn't told me one true thing. Not one. It is a liar and a thief. It would kill me if I let it.
I quit taking advice from a known liar and my life got a lot better. I highly recommend it.
YOU can do this.
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Hi and welcome 4theluv 
SR really changed things for me - the support and encouragement here is amazing. I used to drink everyday...this year coming (2017) will be my tenth year sober.
Glad you found us!
Change really is possible
D
SR really changed things for me - the support and encouragement here is amazing. I used to drink everyday...this year coming (2017) will be my tenth year sober.
Glad you found us!
Change really is possible
D
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