Jem
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Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 6,902
Glad you found us. Welcome.
Dee's thread about making a plan might be a good place to prepare yourself. .. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...y-plans-1.html
Most people find that in order to achieve a sobriety that is comfortable enough to be sustainable they need to address their alcoholic thinking as well as the drinking. If we just try to take away the drinking and don't do anything to fill the void, or develop new and better ways of coping with things, we can end up in a painful place.
I imagine that at the moment you are feeling a little sad and scared about saying goodbye to the booze. Thing is, much as it pretends to be our friend, alcohol is anything but. It steals so, so much from us. At the end of our drinking we have an idea about some of the things we've lost, although we often blame them on other people and circumstances rather than our drinking. The longer we are sober, the more of these things that we list start coming back to us, and we can see just how much of a thief active alcoholism is.
This is not the end of something wonderful. 1st January 2017 can be the start of something wonderful though. A life of clarity, and freedom, and self-worth, and health, of more manageable finances and home life, of being emotionally available for those you love and care for, of waking up without the feeling of shame and fear and wondering who you need to avoid and why.... the list could go on and on.
Wishing you all the best for your sobriety and recovery. BB
Dee's thread about making a plan might be a good place to prepare yourself. .. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...y-plans-1.html
Most people find that in order to achieve a sobriety that is comfortable enough to be sustainable they need to address their alcoholic thinking as well as the drinking. If we just try to take away the drinking and don't do anything to fill the void, or develop new and better ways of coping with things, we can end up in a painful place.
I imagine that at the moment you are feeling a little sad and scared about saying goodbye to the booze. Thing is, much as it pretends to be our friend, alcohol is anything but. It steals so, so much from us. At the end of our drinking we have an idea about some of the things we've lost, although we often blame them on other people and circumstances rather than our drinking. The longer we are sober, the more of these things that we list start coming back to us, and we can see just how much of a thief active alcoholism is.
This is not the end of something wonderful. 1st January 2017 can be the start of something wonderful though. A life of clarity, and freedom, and self-worth, and health, of more manageable finances and home life, of being emotionally available for those you love and care for, of waking up without the feeling of shame and fear and wondering who you need to avoid and why.... the list could go on and on.
Wishing you all the best for your sobriety and recovery. BB
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Norfolk, VA
Posts: 10,962
Welcome!
I'm sure when you set the date, your sobriety, in your mind, was as good a set in stone. However, a planned quit date is just a plan to keep drinking for the time being. A lot can happen between now and the new year. It mostly gives your addiction time to work against your plan to quit.
Hope you will reconsider. In the meantime, read around the site. Lot of good information to prepare you for when you do quit drinking.
Originally Posted by jemtonks 
going sober on 1/1/2017.
Hope you will reconsider. In the meantime, read around the site. Lot of good information to prepare you for when you do quit drinking.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,442
Welcome Jem 
Good advice here,. I remember many many times setting 1/1 as my sobriety date and then drinking some more as a last hurrah and then suddenly realising it was March or April....
If you want to improve your life by not drinking, why wait? start today
D
Good advice here,. I remember many many times setting 1/1 as my sobriety date and then drinking some more as a last hurrah and then suddenly realising it was March or April....
If you want to improve your life by not drinking, why wait? start today
D
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