Relapse
Most "relapses" are generally due to either not having a solid recovery plan or not doing the require work to follow said plan. And many times people do plan to drink at a future time certainly.
When I was approaching 180 days sober I thought it would be okay to drink every six months. Twice a year was a whole lot better than drinking every day. I was so looking forward to drinking. Lucky for me, sanity prevailed. Sanity, because it would have been insanity to drink, insane to think I could have quit after one day and not drink for another 6 months.
Recovery means being all in...not drinking when the addiction "plans" otherwise.
Recovery means being all in...not drinking when the addiction "plans" otherwise.
Like Carl, I planned binges far in advance. Same rationale - it's been 4, 5, 6 months - that's better than every day.
Unlike Carl, I carried a few of them out. Wish my sanity would have kicked in sooner.
Is it better than drinking every day? Yeah, a little.
The problem is that's like saying being shackled to the wall by a chain with 10 links is better than being shackled to a wall by a chain with 8 links. Yeah, it's a little better, but you're still not free.
Best of Luck on Your Journey.
Unlike Carl, I carried a few of them out. Wish my sanity would have kicked in sooner.
Is it better than drinking every day? Yeah, a little.
The problem is that's like saying being shackled to the wall by a chain with 10 links is better than being shackled to a wall by a chain with 8 links. Yeah, it's a little better, but you're still not free.
Best of Luck on Your Journey.
Yeah, the first time I was in rehab I knew I was going to drink as soon as I got out of there. I ended up nearly bleeding to death on my couch and back into detox and rehab 2 months later.
Don't. Do. It.
Don't. Do. It.
Like Carl, I planned binges far in advance. Same rationale - it's been 4, 5, 6 months - that's better than every day.
Unlike Carl, I carried a few of them out. Wish my sanity would have kicked in sooner.
Is it better than drinking every day? Yeah, a little.
The problem is that's like saying being shackled to the wall by a chain with 10 links is better than being shackled to a wall by a chain with 8 links. Yeah, it's a little better, but you're still not free.
Best of Luck on Your Journey.
Unlike Carl, I carried a few of them out. Wish my sanity would have kicked in sooner.
Is it better than drinking every day? Yeah, a little.
The problem is that's like saying being shackled to the wall by a chain with 10 links is better than being shackled to a wall by a chain with 8 links. Yeah, it's a little better, but you're still not free.
Best of Luck on Your Journey.
Hi, Tiffany. Do you mean that an event, like a wedding, is coming up and you would like to be able to drink? Something like that?
I gleaned from your earlier posts that you have had periods of sobriety but have always returned to drinking. Perhaps you are thinking that the drinking thing is managable if you plan it and compress it into a window of time, then return to your sobriety?
Not judging, just trying to understand.
Alcohol dependency is complex and individual. What works for one may not for another. I really, really did not want to break up with my friend bourbon, but things were not going well, and it was time to make a change. Like many posters to this site, I hoped I could moderate and keep it under my control. Alas, not so. Abstinence was my way forward.
You are your own person and this is your path to walk. I would think about it hard, though. Peace.
I gleaned from your earlier posts that you have had periods of sobriety but have always returned to drinking. Perhaps you are thinking that the drinking thing is managable if you plan it and compress it into a window of time, then return to your sobriety?
Not judging, just trying to understand.
Alcohol dependency is complex and individual. What works for one may not for another. I really, really did not want to break up with my friend bourbon, but things were not going well, and it was time to make a change. Like many posters to this site, I hoped I could moderate and keep it under my control. Alas, not so. Abstinence was my way forward.
You are your own person and this is your path to walk. I would think about it hard, though. Peace.
Being totally honest with myself, yes, I've done it. I haven't planned it out step by step, but I let the AV take over and just didn't fight it. On a few occasions, I knew I was going to drink on said day, and did nothing about it. As nonsensical said, by doing this, we're in fact proving that alcohol still has control over us, rather than what we think in our minds at the time of 'oh well its been 4 months since I last had a drink, so if i have a drink today, that will be okay right?'
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I've totally planned relapses. But I wasn't in recovery, obviously! I just wasn't drinking. Big difference. I would just 'not drink' for months at a time. Its all pretty insane really.
I also will hold out 'reservations'. I'll drink when.....again, crazy. At this point its one day at a time. And that's not a white knuckling feeling. Done that. Its just living in the moment, doing the next right thing.
I also will hold out 'reservations'. I'll drink when.....again, crazy. At this point its one day at a time. And that's not a white knuckling feeling. Done that. Its just living in the moment, doing the next right thing.
I never planned a relapse, but u certainly ignored the signs I was heading that way. I stopped logging in SR in the past, and then the thoughts of moderation started bubbling. I have learned that moderation does not work for me, and sobriety is more about recovery, and making me the best me, than just not drinking.
Since this thought is in your head, you have the opportunity to do something now to get back on track.
Since this thought is in your head, you have the opportunity to do something now to get back on track.
I will say, tiffany, that you have demonstrated that you are capable of long periods of sobriety. In these circles, that is huge! How about taking that will and determination to the next level, as in stay sober every day? You got this.
it's such a mental disease.
it really messes with my head since my divorce and subsequent relapse. i feel like i'll never be the sober strong person i once was.
i hate to sound this way believe me.
it really messes with my head since my divorce and subsequent relapse. i feel like i'll never be the sober strong person i once was.
i hate to sound this way believe me.
You can do this! What are you doing now to help to deal with your divorce, and to work on your sobriety?
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