For those who are alone on Xmas Eve
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For those who are alone on Xmas Eve
Hi, SR friends.
Xmas is a family holiday and is heavily charged with society-conditioned expectations about how it should be spent.
But real life is not about commercials or fairy tales. It can serve us the most unbelievable and unconditional circumstances, relatives, and friends who don't fit into the perfect picture.
And there is most vulnerable category - people who find themselves alone amidst all the Xmas frenzy.
All the emotional tender points start hurting, and old wounds - bleeding. Too much time and room for thoughts who rush out of all the doors previously locked by business of life.
No one around to give a hug, unconditional love, and say that spending Xmas alone doesn't serve as measure of our worthiness.
For us, people in recovery, it can be a huge trigger. Level of pain can be so high that all that matters at the moment is to make it go away.
I want to tell you that you are not alone.
First, you are not alone in being alone. There are lots of people like you and me. We just don't see each other.
Second, there is the entire Universe - sky, snow, ocean, sun, birds, trees, wind. You can breath it, touch it, listen, and let it fill you and take the place occupied by pain.
And, there is SR. Lots of incredible, understanding, non-judgemental, wise, and overall cool people here. You can imagine yourself wherever you want - you are where your emotional heart is.
And today my emotional heart is with SR.
Happy Xmas to all those who are celeberating!
Xmas is a family holiday and is heavily charged with society-conditioned expectations about how it should be spent.
But real life is not about commercials or fairy tales. It can serve us the most unbelievable and unconditional circumstances, relatives, and friends who don't fit into the perfect picture.
And there is most vulnerable category - people who find themselves alone amidst all the Xmas frenzy.
All the emotional tender points start hurting, and old wounds - bleeding. Too much time and room for thoughts who rush out of all the doors previously locked by business of life.
No one around to give a hug, unconditional love, and say that spending Xmas alone doesn't serve as measure of our worthiness.
For us, people in recovery, it can be a huge trigger. Level of pain can be so high that all that matters at the moment is to make it go away.
I want to tell you that you are not alone.
First, you are not alone in being alone. There are lots of people like you and me. We just don't see each other.
Second, there is the entire Universe - sky, snow, ocean, sun, birds, trees, wind. You can breath it, touch it, listen, and let it fill you and take the place occupied by pain.
And, there is SR. Lots of incredible, understanding, non-judgemental, wise, and overall cool people here. You can imagine yourself wherever you want - you are where your emotional heart is.
And today my emotional heart is with SR.
Happy Xmas to all those who are celeberating!
can't wait to spend another SR Christmas with you & all our guests, members & friends
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I like this thread.
And I'll weigh in as well - with a Merry Christmas to all who may open and read this.... to all who may be alone tonight.
You're among family; the family of sobriety. The family of recovery. The family of Love and presence and awareness.
You're a child of the universe that was forged of love and spirit.
You are loved and you are never truly alone.....
stay strong, stay sober.
And I'll weigh in as well - with a Merry Christmas to all who may open and read this.... to all who may be alone tonight.
You're among family; the family of sobriety. The family of recovery. The family of Love and presence and awareness.
You're a child of the universe that was forged of love and spirit.
You are loved and you are never truly alone.....
stay strong, stay sober.
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Thank yo for the OP, Midnight! 
I’ll be alone. I'm pretty much of a recluse so no surprise. Except for my mom calling me, my phone has not even rung for days. I can't wait for Christmas to be over. The hardest thing is remembering past Christmases that were so fun and full of friends.
*you*
I’ll be alone. I'm pretty much of a recluse so no surprise. Except for my mom calling me, my phone has not even rung for days. I can't wait for Christmas to be over. The hardest thing is remembering past Christmases that were so fun and full of friends.
*you*
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Nice post Midnight!
I'm alone and will be until mid tomorrow. I called the family in Cali...they are all going to one of my brothers' houses for dinner tomorrow. I'm SOOOOOO infinitely glad I'm not going to be there ! Haha.
So I found the first 2 seasons of 6 feet under at Walmart for 14 bucks.....marathon!
Happy Holidays guys!
I'm alone and will be until mid tomorrow. I called the family in Cali...they are all going to one of my brothers' houses for dinner tomorrow. I'm SOOOOOO infinitely glad I'm not going to be there ! Haha.
So I found the first 2 seasons of 6 feet under at Walmart for 14 bucks.....marathon!
Happy Holidays guys!
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Thanks Midnightblue for the kind words. First Christmas Eve sober in fifteen years or so. I suppose I should feel more lonely than I do but I also feel optimism for next year which makes it better. Merry Christmas SR!
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My Xmas usually involves visiting relatives in the morning and then spending the afternoon/evening by myself at home, I don't live with anyone.
But it's something I've gotten used to, my own company, plenty of TV, nice food, and I just enjoy the day!!
Great post MidnightBlue!!
But it's something I've gotten used to, my own company, plenty of TV, nice food, and I just enjoy the day!!
Great post MidnightBlue!!
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Hello Peeps:
I'm sitting here with my two dogs, watching some comedy on Netflix. I was hoping not to indulge my sugar monster, but, lost that battle. I was invited out for xmas dinner, thinking it was tomorrow, so have already stuffed myself with crap and I get this text from my friend wondering where I am. Oh well - I apologized for thinking xmas dinner meant xmas day. So, now I have an entire pumpkin pie in my fridge, because I was bringing over the dessert.
Does anyone know if pumpkin pie freezes?
Today is actually not much different than any other days, except I know my family is gathering around their tree and enjoying each other. They live a long way off from me and it's really difficult to get there in the winter. Even when I was married, I was "alone" during these holidays. So - I haven't really enjoyed these holidays for about 30 years now.
So - to everyone on this site tonight and tomorrow - thanks for hanging around and if any of you thinks a drink will make you happier, or less lonely, move that thought aside and remind yourself that you do NOT drink.
Hugs to all.
I'm sitting here with my two dogs, watching some comedy on Netflix. I was hoping not to indulge my sugar monster, but, lost that battle. I was invited out for xmas dinner, thinking it was tomorrow, so have already stuffed myself with crap and I get this text from my friend wondering where I am. Oh well - I apologized for thinking xmas dinner meant xmas day. So, now I have an entire pumpkin pie in my fridge, because I was bringing over the dessert.
Does anyone know if pumpkin pie freezes?
Today is actually not much different than any other days, except I know my family is gathering around their tree and enjoying each other. They live a long way off from me and it's really difficult to get there in the winter. Even when I was married, I was "alone" during these holidays. So - I haven't really enjoyed these holidays for about 30 years now.
So - to everyone on this site tonight and tomorrow - thanks for hanging around and if any of you thinks a drink will make you happier, or less lonely, move that thought aside and remind yourself that you do NOT drink.
Hugs to all.
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