8 weeks sober
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8 weeks sober
Today marks 8 weeks sober for me.
The quitting drinking was easy, dealing with all the anxiety, depression and physical changes was the hard part.
I feel I am going to make it to feeling somewhat normal again. The holiday season is always stressful for me. Just have to get through this next week!
I have zero cravings for alcohol. I was at the supermarket with my wife yesterday and we walked through their huge section full of beer and wine (my wife still drinks everyday and was picking up liquor) and it didn't even interest me.
I am in full mindset that my alcohol consuming days are over and that alcohol does not help me cope with life.
Thanks to everyone for your support and good luck with your own sobriety.
The quitting drinking was easy, dealing with all the anxiety, depression and physical changes was the hard part.
I feel I am going to make it to feeling somewhat normal again. The holiday season is always stressful for me. Just have to get through this next week!
I have zero cravings for alcohol. I was at the supermarket with my wife yesterday and we walked through their huge section full of beer and wine (my wife still drinks everyday and was picking up liquor) and it didn't even interest me.
I am in full mindset that my alcohol consuming days are over and that alcohol does not help me cope with life.
Thanks to everyone for your support and good luck with your own sobriety.
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Congrats on your own sober time. That
in itself is a personal accomplishment and
achievement.
Remember that this is your recovery,
your journey learning healthier ways
to live a happy, content, rewarding way
of life for many more sober days ahead
of you.
Refrain from placing myself in situations
where alcohol is available or I'm surrounded
by it has helped me remain sober each day.
I can go shopping at the grocery store, but
don't have to walk down the alcohol isle
to make myself feel uncomfortable, uneasy.
For me, I'm grateful that I can go shopping
with my husband who is also living a sober
life with me and not have to worry about,
think about filling the basket up with spirits
or poison.
Im pretty sure if I were in your situation
id be quite squirrely going shopping
with my spouse and he would be picking
up spirits, alcohol for the day, holidays,
future, even today after yrs of sobriety.
Why, because I love it. However, after learning
about my addiction to it and its affects on me
personally and those around me, I now know
that it can kill me and today I choose life and not
death.
I no longer sit and day dream about it because
I know first that it wont do me a bit of good and
second it is dangerous thinking.
If I had a spouse that drinks successfully then
he would have to go on his own to buy his
liquor. If I have to live with his drinking,
I have to accept it, yet I don't have to place
myself around him while he drinks because
it is my own responsibility to do whatever
I need to do to remain sober and not his.
Of course with marriage comes respect,
communication, understanding between
each other for long term success when
living a life in and out of recovery.
Take care of your needs accordingly
using the tools and knowledge of your
addiction and an affective program of
recovery as your guideline to achieve
many awesome gifts to enjoy and cherish
down the road.
in itself is a personal accomplishment and
achievement.
Remember that this is your recovery,
your journey learning healthier ways
to live a happy, content, rewarding way
of life for many more sober days ahead
of you.
Refrain from placing myself in situations
where alcohol is available or I'm surrounded
by it has helped me remain sober each day.
I can go shopping at the grocery store, but
don't have to walk down the alcohol isle
to make myself feel uncomfortable, uneasy.
For me, I'm grateful that I can go shopping
with my husband who is also living a sober
life with me and not have to worry about,
think about filling the basket up with spirits
or poison.
Im pretty sure if I were in your situation
id be quite squirrely going shopping
with my spouse and he would be picking
up spirits, alcohol for the day, holidays,
future, even today after yrs of sobriety.
Why, because I love it. However, after learning
about my addiction to it and its affects on me
personally and those around me, I now know
that it can kill me and today I choose life and not
death.
I no longer sit and day dream about it because
I know first that it wont do me a bit of good and
second it is dangerous thinking.
If I had a spouse that drinks successfully then
he would have to go on his own to buy his
liquor. If I have to live with his drinking,
I have to accept it, yet I don't have to place
myself around him while he drinks because
it is my own responsibility to do whatever
I need to do to remain sober and not his.
Of course with marriage comes respect,
communication, understanding between
each other for long term success when
living a life in and out of recovery.
Take care of your needs accordingly
using the tools and knowledge of your
addiction and an affective program of
recovery as your guideline to achieve
many awesome gifts to enjoy and cherish
down the road.
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Join Date: Sep 2013
Posts: 1,095
I will admit my wife's drinking bothers me - especially when she gets drunk and we can't communicate.
We were both alcoholics when we met, we drank together for over 22 years and just because I choose sobriety I have no right to tell anyone else to do the same.
I will just try to make the best of it and take it day by day. She knows she drinks too much and she knows I am not thrilled with her behavior but the more I show my dislike for her drinking the more she will drink to show me I can't control her.
We were both alcoholics when we met, we drank together for over 22 years and just because I choose sobriety I have no right to tell anyone else to do the same.
I will just try to make the best of it and take it day by day. She knows she drinks too much and she knows I am not thrilled with her behavior but the more I show my dislike for her drinking the more she will drink to show me I can't control her.
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Never hesitate to ask us anything that
can help guide you along in your journey
as you remain sober each day.
Do you go to AA meetings? or someone
that attends meetings that you can talk
to?
For me, surrounding myself with
folks just like me, esp. in early recovery
learning new ways to avoid stress or
holiday emotions that go up and down,
definitely helped me make it thru each
day sober.
Even here in SR, we have an awesome
support system of many knowledgeable,
experienced folks taking it a day at a
time helping each other work thru
many of lifes situations that can cause
us discomfort but nothing bad enough
to want to go back out and drink or
have our misery refunded from drinking.
You know what I mean?
can help guide you along in your journey
as you remain sober each day.
Do you go to AA meetings? or someone
that attends meetings that you can talk
to?
For me, surrounding myself with
folks just like me, esp. in early recovery
learning new ways to avoid stress or
holiday emotions that go up and down,
definitely helped me make it thru each
day sober.
Even here in SR, we have an awesome
support system of many knowledgeable,
experienced folks taking it a day at a
time helping each other work thru
many of lifes situations that can cause
us discomfort but nothing bad enough
to want to go back out and drink or
have our misery refunded from drinking.
You know what I mean?
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Originally Posted by aasharon90 
Do you go to AA meetings? or someone
that attends meetings that you can talk
to?
I have been to AA, Alanon and even Alateen when I was a kid (my father was an abusive alcoholic). I am not sure if I need it right now.
I am in a really good frame of mind and have zero craving or desires to drink. After 27 years of daily drinking I have had my fill.
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Originally Posted by ZenLifter
Congrats on 8 weeks! 
Just stay vigilant, I didn't have any serious cravings until about 6 months. They can sneak up on you. Everybody's different though.
Just stay vigilant, I didn't have any serious cravings until about 6 months. They can sneak up on you. Everybody's different though.Thanks.
I have tried to quit before but my heart was never really in it.
This time things are different. I feel I really hit rock bottom this past October. I was physically and mentally spent and I seriously believe that alcohol would have eventually been the cause of my death if I didn't end the madness.
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Originally Posted by Doug39
Today marks 8 weeks sober for me.
The quitting drinking was easy, dealing with all the anxiety, depression and physical changes was the hard part.
I feel I am going to make it to feeling somewhat normal again. The holiday season is always stressful for me. Just have to get through this next week!
I have zero cravings for alcohol. I was at the supermarket with my wife yesterday and we walked through their huge section full of beer and wine (my wife still drinks everyday and was picking up liquor) and it didn't even interest me.
I am in full mindset that my alcohol consuming days are over and that alcohol does not help me cope with life.
Thanks to everyone for your support and good luck with your own sobriety.
The quitting drinking was easy, dealing with all the anxiety, depression and physical changes was the hard part.
I feel I am going to make it to feeling somewhat normal again. The holiday season is always stressful for me. Just have to get through this next week!
I have zero cravings for alcohol. I was at the supermarket with my wife yesterday and we walked through their huge section full of beer and wine (my wife still drinks everyday and was picking up liquor) and it didn't even interest me.
I am in full mindset that my alcohol consuming days are over and that alcohol does not help me cope with life.
Thanks to everyone for your support and good luck with your own sobriety.
Is your relationship with your wife still the same since she is still drinking? Just curious
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CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Those first months can be rough, but you sound determined. Yes, it can be done with a spouse who drinks, although like you, I had to learn to keep my eyes on my side of the street and my mouth firmly closed. My husband still drinks and it's always in the house, although he no longer drinks every day...probably because he can't fool himself anymore as to where those empties are coming from!
You're doing great!!!
Those first months can be rough, but you sound determined. Yes, it can be done with a spouse who drinks, although like you, I had to learn to keep my eyes on my side of the street and my mouth firmly closed. My husband still drinks and it's always in the house, although he no longer drinks every day...probably because he can't fool himself anymore as to where those empties are coming from!
You're doing great!!!
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Originally Posted by SWTPEA61
Doug
Is your relationship with your wife still the same since she is still drinking? Just curious
Is your relationship with your wife still the same since she is still drinking? Just curious
I quit drinking for 4 months in 2013 and my marriage suffered. Part of the reason I started drinking again was to save my marriage. But I was different then. I complained when she drank and she drank more just to spite me.
This time I am keeping my mouth shut and letting her do as she pleases. We still go to bars on occasion but I just don't drink. I have even gone to the store and bought alcohol for her. She knows she drinks too much but just doesn't want to talk about it.
I am sure that deep down she believes that this is just "another one of my quit drinking phases" and she thinks I will someday start up again - but that is not happening. My drinking days are done.
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