Think I'm going to need you today
Think I'm going to need you today
Hi my friends,
I've kinda been dreading today for a while. It's pre-Christmas drinks with my husband's family. In previous years (when I was drinking), we'd go round to theirs and we've all drunk to blackout and stayed over. Since I've been sober, it's been harder, and I've ended up doing the driving, but my husband and his brother just drink for hours and hours until the whole evening descends into chaos.
After the last time, I said I would never do it again. Yet, somehow I've been manipulated into changing things this time and they are coming to ours today.
Hubby has said we will do it at lunchtime, so they will hopefully be gone by evening, and he's promised not to get drunk.
I'm not very well at the moment, on antibiotics for a chest infection, so I'm feeling a bit weepy.
I am not worried that I will be tempted, but being around drunk people who are irrational makes me very upset. I hate it, and I will have nowhere to go if it gets too much.
I wish today was already over and it's only 7.30 am
I've kinda been dreading today for a while. It's pre-Christmas drinks with my husband's family. In previous years (when I was drinking), we'd go round to theirs and we've all drunk to blackout and stayed over. Since I've been sober, it's been harder, and I've ended up doing the driving, but my husband and his brother just drink for hours and hours until the whole evening descends into chaos.
After the last time, I said I would never do it again. Yet, somehow I've been manipulated into changing things this time and they are coming to ours today.
Hubby has said we will do it at lunchtime, so they will hopefully be gone by evening, and he's promised not to get drunk.
I'm not very well at the moment, on antibiotics for a chest infection, so I'm feeling a bit weepy.
I am not worried that I will be tempted, but being around drunk people who are irrational makes me very upset. I hate it, and I will have nowhere to go if it gets too much.
I wish today was already over and it's only 7.30 am
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Hi, my friend.
Sorry that this Sunday is turning through an unnecessary trial for you.
But you have all my support, best vibes and anything else in my power to make you feel that you are not alone in this.
It's not fun to be around drunk people.
Take one minute at a time. Don't let involve you into any kind of drama.
I will be online most of the day - drop a line here or on FB if you need an extra motivation, encouragement and help.
Rooting for you.
Hugs.
Sorry that this Sunday is turning through an unnecessary trial for you.
But you have all my support, best vibes and anything else in my power to make you feel that you are not alone in this.
It's not fun to be around drunk people.
Take one minute at a time. Don't let involve you into any kind of drama.
I will be online most of the day - drop a line here or on FB if you need an extra motivation, encouragement and help.
Rooting for you.
Hugs.
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That sounds pretty tough to be honest - like you say you know you won't drink, I've been there knowing that is not going to happen but being around everyone doesn't sound like a comfortable place to be, I had similar last NYE and to be honest have made sure I swerved anything similar since, I stuck close to this place that night and eventually made an excuse that I wasn't feeling well at all and headed off upto bed, at least being in your own house I guess you have that option - you've alreaady said you're not feeling well and have a chest infection - I'd be sowing the seeds early doors with your hubby that you really don't feel upto it and could really do with a lie down - by late afternoon early evening if things are getting too much then there's your excuse that you really are going to have to get in bed for a bit and sorry but as nice as it is to see you all I really don't feel well at all.
Just a thought of a way to make an exit if you really feel the need and don't have the option of telling your husband how you really feel about things.
Just a thought of a way to make an exit if you really feel the need and don't have the option of telling your husband how you really feel about things.
Hi jeni. You can do this and you will get through the day. Stay strong and stay with us.
Can you maybe go to bed early evening as you are ill if things do get unbearable. Or a walk this asfternoon. It's your house you don't need their permission.hope all goes well though and hopefully they'll be gone by late afternoon.
Thinking of you.x
Can you maybe go to bed early evening as you are ill if things do get unbearable. Or a walk this asfternoon. It's your house you don't need their permission.hope all goes well though and hopefully they'll be gone by late afternoon.
Thinking of you.x
It's more difficult as it isn't my family. If it was mine I'd already 'made up' a previous arrangement I had for the evening. Actually there's a local AA meeting at 6, and I would have gone to that.
But I feel more awkward and there is such a history of drinking that I fear the worst.
I did contemplate coming clean with them about my alcoholism. But there are people who are closer to me that I feel should know first...plus hubby wasn't keen on them knowing.
I guess I will just have to grin and bear it.
But I feel more awkward and there is such a history of drinking that I fear the worst.
I did contemplate coming clean with them about my alcoholism. But there are people who are closer to me that I feel should know first...plus hubby wasn't keen on them knowing.
I guess I will just have to grin and bear it.
I hope it's all done and dusted by the time you get home
If not, I think the idea to go to bed early is a good one...or just tell them you have a previous appointment and go to the AA meeting - your husband would keep your confidence wouldn't he? - and then go to bed early.
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If not, I think the idea to go to bed early is a good one...or just tell them you have a previous appointment and go to the AA meeting - your husband would keep your confidence wouldn't he? - and then go to bed early.
D
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You don't have to tell them - if your husband is supportive and understands then speak to him and tell him how you are feeling and ask that he understands if you feel that it's becoming uncomfortable, if that's not an option then definitely start hinting how unwell you are feeling - need to make it look like it's getting worse as the day wears on.
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I second going to bed early.
Also you are still recovering from chest infection and need rest and sleep. I think family or not they should understand this.
Also you are still recovering from chest infection and need rest and sleep. I think family or not they should understand this.
It's more difficult as it isn't my family. If it was mine I'd already 'made up' a previous arrangement I had for the evening. Actually there's a local AA meeting at 6, and I would have gone to that.
But I feel more awkward and there is such a history of drinking that I fear the worst.
I did contemplate coming clean with them about my alcoholism. But there are people who are closer to me that I feel should know first...plus hubby wasn't keen on them knowing.
I guess I will just have to grin and bear it.
But I feel more awkward and there is such a history of drinking that I fear the worst.
I did contemplate coming clean with them about my alcoholism. But there are people who are closer to me that I feel should know first...plus hubby wasn't keen on them knowing.
I guess I will just have to grin and bear it.
Either that or, if you feel poorly and weepy then excuse yourself and get to bed. That is okay.
Hello Jeni,
I'm sorry you have to deal with this, especially when you're not feeling well.
I agree, being around drunk people is so unpleasant. I think your idea of going out, or better yet, heading to bed as you've been unwell is a good one. Sometimes just being physically unwell can make one weepy and emotional.
Thinking of you. Be good to yourself.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this, especially when you're not feeling well.
I agree, being around drunk people is so unpleasant. I think your idea of going out, or better yet, heading to bed as you've been unwell is a good one. Sometimes just being physically unwell can make one weepy and emotional.
Thinking of you. Be good to yourself.
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