Before and After
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Before and After
BEFORE
Several mornings a week... sometimes every morning... began with nausea, dizzyness, headaches, shame, regret, despair, anxiety and depression... a need to figure out what the heck I may have done the night before.
AFTER
Mornings begin with quietly reading, journaling, exercising, tending to bills or chores, attending an AA meeting, having coffee with friends or other enjoyable and / or productive things. The only times I've dealt with nausea or dizzyness was when I got the flu. Headaches from time to time... but easily treated. No Shame. No Regret. No despair, anxiety or depression. No need to figure out what I did or said last night.... because I remember.
BEFORE
Debt. Mountains of debt. Bill-shirking. Creditor-dodging. Check-to-check living. Overdrafts. A sense of panic. Trouble with the IRS. Near-constant financial worry.
AFTER
No debt. Some extra cash in the bank at all times. A second home. Bills paid on time. Credit rating back to "good" and rising. No sense of panic. Caught up on taxes - no worries about the IRS. No hiding from creditors. No worrying about a financial disaster befalling me any day now.
BEFORE
DUIs, a Hit-and-run, endangering my life and the lives of others, the possibility of prison just around the corner with one bad decision.... or worse.
AFTER
DUIs and intoxicated driving risks all in the past. Insurance dropped back down after 5 years have passed. Reliable, safe, consistent driver and human being. A person who can be counted on. No longer afraid of being pulled over. No longer ashamed. No longer paying the price or skirting prison, death or worse every other night.
BEFORE
Unreliable. Dishonest. Untrustworthy. Unfaithful. Inconsistent.
AFTER
Honest, consistent, trustworthy, giving, reliable, faithful, loyal, in service to family, community, love and good.
BEFORE
Anxious, depressed, angry, bitter, fearful......
AFTER
Caring, empathetic, confident, grateful, calm, present, aware, joyful....
These are just a few of the BEFOREs and the AFTERs.....
These are my own experiences.....
The BEFOREs of 25+ years of drinking and drugging
The AFTERs of nearly 3 years of sobriety
The AFTERS, it turns out, are SOOOOOO much better than the BEFOREs.
Here's to yourBEFOREs leading you to many Grateful, Joyous and Free AFTERs!!
Several mornings a week... sometimes every morning... began with nausea, dizzyness, headaches, shame, regret, despair, anxiety and depression... a need to figure out what the heck I may have done the night before.
AFTER
Mornings begin with quietly reading, journaling, exercising, tending to bills or chores, attending an AA meeting, having coffee with friends or other enjoyable and / or productive things. The only times I've dealt with nausea or dizzyness was when I got the flu. Headaches from time to time... but easily treated. No Shame. No Regret. No despair, anxiety or depression. No need to figure out what I did or said last night.... because I remember.
BEFORE
Debt. Mountains of debt. Bill-shirking. Creditor-dodging. Check-to-check living. Overdrafts. A sense of panic. Trouble with the IRS. Near-constant financial worry.
AFTER
No debt. Some extra cash in the bank at all times. A second home. Bills paid on time. Credit rating back to "good" and rising. No sense of panic. Caught up on taxes - no worries about the IRS. No hiding from creditors. No worrying about a financial disaster befalling me any day now.
BEFORE
DUIs, a Hit-and-run, endangering my life and the lives of others, the possibility of prison just around the corner with one bad decision.... or worse.
AFTER
DUIs and intoxicated driving risks all in the past. Insurance dropped back down after 5 years have passed. Reliable, safe, consistent driver and human being. A person who can be counted on. No longer afraid of being pulled over. No longer ashamed. No longer paying the price or skirting prison, death or worse every other night.
BEFORE
Unreliable. Dishonest. Untrustworthy. Unfaithful. Inconsistent.
AFTER
Honest, consistent, trustworthy, giving, reliable, faithful, loyal, in service to family, community, love and good.
BEFORE
Anxious, depressed, angry, bitter, fearful......
AFTER
Caring, empathetic, confident, grateful, calm, present, aware, joyful....
These are just a few of the BEFOREs and the AFTERs.....
These are my own experiences.....
The BEFOREs of 25+ years of drinking and drugging
The AFTERs of nearly 3 years of sobriety
The AFTERS, it turns out, are SOOOOOO much better than the BEFOREs.
Here's to yourBEFOREs leading you to many Grateful, Joyous and Free AFTERs!!
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Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 8,637
BEFORE
twice divorced, two marriages complicated and challenged by addiction. Not truly present in relationships. A good father but also not fathering to my potential and at times even risking my fatherhood through my drinking...
AFTER
happily married to a wonderful woman, present and honest and mature and clear in relationship. An outstanding father to my little girls, my stepson, a baby girl on the way. All relationships deeper and made more rich and abundant through sincerity, honesty, integrity and presence. Even the dogs like me better.
twice divorced, two marriages complicated and challenged by addiction. Not truly present in relationships. A good father but also not fathering to my potential and at times even risking my fatherhood through my drinking...
AFTER
happily married to a wonderful woman, present and honest and mature and clear in relationship. An outstanding father to my little girls, my stepson, a baby girl on the way. All relationships deeper and made more rich and abundant through sincerity, honesty, integrity and presence. Even the dogs like me better.
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Join Date: Nov 2016
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Thanks for that. I am 2 weeks in and already feel better and my husband told me tonight I already look better. I'm hoping my financials follow suite. Everyday it becomes clearer to me how bad it really is. 2 weeks ago I don't even remember what brought me here but I know what keeps me coming back and that's all I need.
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