not sure what to do
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not sure what to do
Hi all,
Today my wife's Mother died, it wasn't sudden we all knew it would happen, she had been fighting cancer for several years, and entered hospice last week. I know this will be difficult for my wife, and I will be there for her and I will be sober, and strong for her. I'm getting cliser to 60 days sober, and even this stress will not drive me back.
I now understand what my duties as a husband are, before I would get drunk, and not be of any help or say something stupid, but now being sober I feel I can really be there for her on a whole new level.
Thanks for listening, for all you new folks out there being sober is so much better, one day at time it just gets better.
Mick
Today my wife's Mother died, it wasn't sudden we all knew it would happen, she had been fighting cancer for several years, and entered hospice last week. I know this will be difficult for my wife, and I will be there for her and I will be sober, and strong for her. I'm getting cliser to 60 days sober, and even this stress will not drive me back.
I now understand what my duties as a husband are, before I would get drunk, and not be of any help or say something stupid, but now being sober I feel I can really be there for her on a whole new level.
Thanks for listening, for all you new folks out there being sober is so much better, one day at time it just gets better.
Mick
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Originally Posted by Frickaflip233 
I'm sorry for your loss. And you won't regret being sober for your wife and yourself. Consider it a very positive way to honor your MIL's memory!
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Originally Posted by Mick75
I now understand what my duties as a husband are, before I would get drunk, and not be of any help or say something stupid, but now being sober I feel I can really be there for her on a whole new level.
Great job of stepping up.
Went through a similar situation about 5 years ago. Mrs Non's grieving process took years longer than I anticipated. Listen, and encourage talking.
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I am so sorry for your loss, even when it is expected that does not make it any easier to deal with.
Being sober and able to truly be there for you wife is amazing and that you recognize how with sobriety is allowing you to be there for your wife and to be able to be the one taking care of her, being there and being able to be the type of husband you have wanted to be.
Being sober and able to truly be there for you wife is amazing and that you recognize how with sobriety is allowing you to be there for your wife and to be able to be the one taking care of her, being there and being able to be the type of husband you have wanted to be.
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