Day One Again!
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Day One Again!
It's funny how you have to prepare yourself mentally to decide to quit. I usually quit when I get physically ill from drinking.
Today I don't feel sick. I actually want to get my life in order more than I want to drink.
I do have a plan.
My husband is considering slacking up on his consumption. I would be thrilled if he would just start with only drinking on the weekends. Right now he drinks daily. He uses the excuse that if I quit he will. lol Typical alcoholic, right?
Today I don't feel sick. I actually want to get my life in order more than I want to drink.
I do have a plan.
My husband is considering slacking up on his consumption. I would be thrilled if he would just start with only drinking on the weekends. Right now he drinks daily. He uses the excuse that if I quit he will. lol Typical alcoholic, right?
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It's funny how you have to prepare yourself mentally to decide to quit. I usually quit when I get physically ill from drinking.
Today I don't feel sick. I actually want to get my life in order more than I want to drink.
I do have a plan.
My husband is considering slacking up on his consumption. I would be thrilled if he would just start with only drinking on the weekends. Right now he drinks daily. He uses the excuse that if I quit he will. lol Typical alcoholic, right?
Today I don't feel sick. I actually want to get my life in order more than I want to drink.
I do have a plan.
My husband is considering slacking up on his consumption. I would be thrilled if he would just start with only drinking on the weekends. Right now he drinks daily. He uses the excuse that if I quit he will. lol Typical alcoholic, right?
My husband tends to drinks daily as well. I wish he wouldn't have it in the house but I can't control what he does. He at least locks up the bottles of alcohol so if I would get something it would be whatever he has the refrigerator (except when I decide screw it and go get my vodka).
You can do this!
It's funny how you have to prepare yourself mentally to decide to quit. I usually quit when I get physically ill from drinking.
Today I don't feel sick. I actually want to get my life in order more than I want to drink.
I do have a plan.
My husband is considering slacking up on his consumption. I would be thrilled if he would just start with only drinking on the weekends. Right now he drinks daily. He uses the excuse that if I quit he will. lol Typical alcoholic, right?
Today I don't feel sick. I actually want to get my life in order more than I want to drink.
I do have a plan.
My husband is considering slacking up on his consumption. I would be thrilled if he would just start with only drinking on the weekends. Right now he drinks daily. He uses the excuse that if I quit he will. lol Typical alcoholic, right?
Regarding your husband, that is definitely alcoholic behavior. Try and focus on your own addiction though, you won't be able to change his actions - he needs to do it himself.
Your sobriety is not dependent on your husband's. Quit for yourself. Maybe you'll influence him with your behavior. I got sober almost 7 yrs ago and don't regret a minute of it.
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Hi Marissa. I am happily on Day 11, and my husband drinks as well daily, and he drinks a lot. But I try to not focus on him but my own sobriety. I told him that I did not want wine in the house, however, since that can be a trigger for me. Guess what? He was drinking last night and put wine on the shopping list! So, I sent him a nice text today asserting that boundary, as well as my rule that he does not cook with any alcohol. I'm pretty sure he will respect these two rules I have to protect my sobriety. If he doesn't, I will most likely be in search for a new husband.
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Hi Marissa. I am happily on Day 11, and my husband drinks as well daily, and he drinks a lot. But I try to not focus on him but my own sobriety. I told him that I did not want wine in the house, however, since that can be a trigger for me. Guess what? He was drinking last night and put wine on the shopping list! So, I sent him a nice text today asserting that boundary, as well as my rule that he does not cook with any alcohol. I'm pretty sure he will respect these two rules I have to protect my sobriety. If he doesn't, I will most likely be in search for a new husband.
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I've had my cravings today! Came this " close. But just stayed busy and lightly took my anxiety meds.
Husband bought beer but did not bring it into the house, but I'm done with beer and would probably buy wine. But I won't! I know how good it feels when you finally make it out of the fog. I've done it before. Since the holidays are coming up I need to be coherent.
Will be trying AA again and reading The Book.
It's amazing how fast everything can go downhill when you can't function!
Thanks for all your support!
Husband bought beer but did not bring it into the house, but I'm done with beer and would probably buy wine. But I won't! I know how good it feels when you finally make it out of the fog. I've done it before. Since the holidays are coming up I need to be coherent.
Will be trying AA again and reading The Book.
It's amazing how fast everything can go downhill when you can't function!
Thanks for all your support!
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Yes, and my life was quickly deteriorating when I was drinking over 11 days ago for the past 3 months. I think I caught it just in time before Hurricane Katrina was going to strike in my life. I went out to dinner with my family for my mom's birthday dinner tonight, and I think they were all shocked at how "normal" I was. I was hiding my drinking from them in the last 3 months so they did not know, but I completely shut them all out and they just accepted that. I was a totally different person tonight - happy and involved, and it is all because I got my Day 1 and then added 10 days to it.
In addition to reading the Big Book, I would also suggest Daily Reflections and Living Sober. And don't just read the one reflection for the day, but then go the beginning and just read. That is what saved me, along with reading Living Sober.
In addition to reading the Big Book, I would also suggest Daily Reflections and Living Sober. And don't just read the one reflection for the day, but then go the beginning and just read. That is what saved me, along with reading Living Sober.
Yes, and my life was quickly deteriorating when I was drinking over 11 days ago for the past 3 months. I think I caught it just in time before Hurricane Katrina was going to strike in my life. I went out to dinner with my family for my mom's birthday dinner tonight, and I think they were all shocked at how "normal" I was. I was hiding my drinking from them in the last 3 months so they did not know, but I completely shut them all out and they just accepted that. I was a totally different person tonight - happy and involved, and it is all because I got my Day 1 and then added 10 days to it.
In addition to reading the Big Book, I would also suggest Daily Reflections and Living Sober. And don't just read the one reflection for the day, but then go the beginning and just read. That is what saved me, along with reading Living Sober.
In addition to reading the Big Book, I would also suggest Daily Reflections and Living Sober. And don't just read the one reflection for the day, but then go the beginning and just read. That is what saved me, along with reading Living Sober.
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