I need help
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: CT
Posts: 38
I need help
Hi, I've known for awhile that I need help. I can't stop drinking. I can't stay stopped. I feel like I have no control. My daughter is 17 and it is her last year at home. I want to get sober and give her good memories of my recovery. We had a big fight last night over my drinking and me hiding it, again! She said some very hurtful things. Most true. I can't do this anymore, but I can't seem to stop. My world is so small now. I can't seem to find the purpose. I know I need help and am so scared. Going to counseling this morning. I'll talk about it with her. Thanks for listening.
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Southern Oregon U.S.
Posts: 1,023
Hi Wilde. I didn't think I'd be able to stop at first but I finally realized it wasn't worth it. It really is nice now being sober. I still have stress and worries, just not a single one about alcohol:-)
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Lakeside, Ca
Posts: 10,208
Originally Posted by Wilde8673 
We had a big fight last night over my drinking and me hiding it, again! She said some very hurtful things. Most true.
I can't do this anymore,
I'm sure that your daughter would like for you to attend a meeting.
AA has helped many to recover.
M-Bob
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Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: Charleston, SC
Posts: 62
AA has been a blessing to me during the last 2 weeks. I have 11 days and it feels
So different this time. I'm bought in, have a sponsor with 16 years. Checked my
Ego at the door and have been really
Benefitting from it. Doing 90 in 90 or better. Give it a shot.
So different this time. I'm bought in, have a sponsor with 16 years. Checked my
Ego at the door and have been really
Benefitting from it. Doing 90 in 90 or better. Give it a shot.
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: CT
Posts: 38
Thank you all for the supportive words. Yes I do need to go to a meeting. I get a lot of anxiety when I have gone and I am terrified to talk to people. Gotta work on how to get past that. Coming here will help....
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 508
Coming here and reading about how to get sober, and stay sober is what helped me.
I stopped drinking, eventually, when my daughter was 11, she was the catalyst.
I am sober because I learnt how to NOT pick up that first drink, it becomes easier over time.
Choose to go to a meeting or any other route just learning DO NOT DRINK is the start....
Please....
You can do it!
Driving my wagon of hope through beautiful views on my road to myself
I stopped drinking, eventually, when my daughter was 11, she was the catalyst.
I am sober because I learnt how to NOT pick up that first drink, it becomes easier over time.
Choose to go to a meeting or any other route just learning DO NOT DRINK is the start....
Please....
You can do it!
Driving my wagon of hope through beautiful views on my road to myself
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 508
Originally Posted by Wilde8673
Thank you all for the supportive words. Yes I do need to go to a meeting. I get a lot of anxiety when I have gone and I am terrified to talk to people. Gotta work on how to get past that. Coming here will help....
You don't have to speak to anyone, I've been to meetings and just listened.
A plan is a good idea.
Have you tried to get sober before?
Driving my wagon of hope through beautiful views on my road to myself
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Join Date: Mar 2015
Location: Florida
Posts: 874
If you call AA ahead of time, I believe they will talk with you over the phone and maybe set up someone to meet you - that might help relieve some stress.
This may help: I used to start at 5:00. Then I put it off until 6:00 then 7:00, etc. just one hour at a time. I also changed my habits. If you're normally home, try going to the library or a movie. Or take a cooking class or go to church or something. Changing my routine helped me.
I pulling for you!
This may help: I used to start at 5:00. Then I put it off until 6:00 then 7:00, etc. just one hour at a time. I also changed my habits. If you're normally home, try going to the library or a movie. Or take a cooking class or go to church or something. Changing my routine helped me.
I pulling for you!
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,439
Welcome to SR Wilde 
this is a great place for support., When I first came here I had No confidence in myself and being able to quit but the support and advice I got here not only made that possible, but it's made it possible to continue now for several years.
There really is hope
D
this is a great place for support., When I first came here I had No confidence in myself and being able to quit but the support and advice I got here not only made that possible, but it's made it possible to continue now for several years.
There really is hope
D
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
There is a purpose in life and have
found it in my own life. However,
I had to be taught first about my
own addiction to alcohol and its
affects on my own mind, body and
yes, my soul.
Mentally, physically and spiritually.
My family sought help for me
26 yrs ago when I wasn't capable
of wanting or needing help. It took
them doing for me when I didn't,
couldn't, wouldn't do for myself.
I was placed into the hands of those
capable of teaching me about my
addiction and giving me a program
of recovery to learn and incorporate
in all areas of my life each day I
remained sober.
I learned that if I didn't remain sober
using an effective program of recovery
as my guideline to live by then I surely
wouldnt have anything else. No sobriety,
recovery, then no family, job, home, health,
no nothing and most of all, no life.
I'd be dead which is what I almost
wanted to succumb to yrs ago.
My purpose today and over the yrs
has been to live. To be alive, healthy,
happy, free from my addiction, that
sickness, illness, disease that kept me
sick for a number of yrs.
Once I got the key to unlock that
madness of addiction and learned
how to live without it, I became free
and now its my own passion and
responsibility to pass on, help others
who are still struggling with addiction
with all that has been taught to be for
the past 26 yrs.
It was suggested to me, taught to me,
that I cant keep what ive acquired thru
out this process, the gifts that come
with living a recovery life, the Promises
as written for us in the Big Book of AA,
if I don't give it away. Pass It On.
Its amazing how I feel after I share
my own ESH - experiences, strengths
and hopes of what my life was and is
like, before, during and after alcohol
with others. It's a feeling worth living
for. It allows me to get out of my own
selfishness, selfseeking motives, off my
pity pot and focus on another that is
far more important than I at any given
moment.
Listen....Learn....Absorb.....Apply
some sort of recovery program
to find and acquire a purpose in life.
My hope passed on to you and others
is if I can do all this along with many
many others and remain sober
every single day then so can you.
found it in my own life. However,
I had to be taught first about my
own addiction to alcohol and its
affects on my own mind, body and
yes, my soul.
Mentally, physically and spiritually.
My family sought help for me
26 yrs ago when I wasn't capable
of wanting or needing help. It took
them doing for me when I didn't,
couldn't, wouldn't do for myself.
I was placed into the hands of those
capable of teaching me about my
addiction and giving me a program
of recovery to learn and incorporate
in all areas of my life each day I
remained sober.
I learned that if I didn't remain sober
using an effective program of recovery
as my guideline to live by then I surely
wouldnt have anything else. No sobriety,
recovery, then no family, job, home, health,
no nothing and most of all, no life.
I'd be dead which is what I almost
wanted to succumb to yrs ago.
My purpose today and over the yrs
has been to live. To be alive, healthy,
happy, free from my addiction, that
sickness, illness, disease that kept me
sick for a number of yrs.
Once I got the key to unlock that
madness of addiction and learned
how to live without it, I became free
and now its my own passion and
responsibility to pass on, help others
who are still struggling with addiction
with all that has been taught to be for
the past 26 yrs.
It was suggested to me, taught to me,
that I cant keep what ive acquired thru
out this process, the gifts that come
with living a recovery life, the Promises
as written for us in the Big Book of AA,
if I don't give it away. Pass It On.
Its amazing how I feel after I share
my own ESH - experiences, strengths
and hopes of what my life was and is
like, before, during and after alcohol
with others. It's a feeling worth living
for. It allows me to get out of my own
selfishness, selfseeking motives, off my
pity pot and focus on another that is
far more important than I at any given
moment.
Listen....Learn....Absorb.....Apply
some sort of recovery program
to find and acquire a purpose in life.
My hope passed on to you and others
is if I can do all this along with many
many others and remain sober
every single day then so can you.
Member
Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: MN
Posts: 93
Welcome!
You CAN do this. My purpose is my kids. They are older - 14, 12, 10 and I do not want them to spend their last years at home with what I have become.
But I am doing it for me as well. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.
And I have known for years I have had a problem. Sure, I am pretty sure lots of people know/knew I have a problem - but have never said anything - probably behind my back but not to me.
Coming here and saying, I am an alcoholic seemed kind of the defining moment for me. I have never said this to anyone and especially not out loud and to myself. It was always "I abuse alcohol. I am not an alcoholic. I can be like the "normal" drinkers." I can't. I am an alcoholic.
You CAN do this. My purpose is my kids. They are older - 14, 12, 10 and I do not want them to spend their last years at home with what I have become.
But I am doing it for me as well. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.
And I have known for years I have had a problem. Sure, I am pretty sure lots of people know/knew I have a problem - but have never said anything - probably behind my back but not to me.
Coming here and saying, I am an alcoholic seemed kind of the defining moment for me. I have never said this to anyone and especially not out loud and to myself. It was always "I abuse alcohol. I am not an alcoholic. I can be like the "normal" drinkers." I can't. I am an alcoholic.
Blue Belt
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Soberville, USA
Posts: 4,174
Wild,
The lack of control is addiction. Physical and mental.
There is alot of damage to your body and mind.
Read the stickies. Eat when you crave. Hydration and rest are important.
You will be messed up for a while.
It gets better everyday.
The lack of control is addiction. Physical and mental.
There is alot of damage to your body and mind.
Read the stickies. Eat when you crave. Hydration and rest are important.
You will be messed up for a while.
It gets better everyday.
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