Recreating Myself Journal
Recreating Myself Journal
Today marks day 2 of my sobriety.
I've been going through heavy anxiety due to my drinking and cigarette smoking. It has come to the point that i almost feel paralyzed the next day due to the hangover, shakes and headache caused by the previous night of heavy drinking. Simple things like going to the barber shop, gym and even the super market has become a nightmare just thinking about it. The lost of my grandmother, suicide of a friend and lost of a women who i thought was the one at the time caused me to hit rock bottom again.
I handled the lost of my grandmother well but I was dealing with an unstable women who i taught was a God sent gift and turned out to be the total opposite. At first everything was great but then things took a 180. She started talking to me about other men, got mad at me because i did not buy her best friend a gift for her birthday and then became very jealous and would question me alot. She would talk down on me on how conservative and quiet I was and how giving i was to my family as if they were taking advantage of me. Even thoe we only talked for about 3 months, i feel hard for this girl. To make matters worst, I ended hooking up with one of her best friend, got drunk and called her to tell her sort of like a payback for playing with my emotions.
The guilt caused a great deal of anxiety to the point that i don't ever want to be around her. I seen her best friend at a bar and she acted like nothing happen. Too much confusion.
Now that I look back at it, i don't deserve this. I can be so self destructive but now i want my sobriety back. I want to go back to the gym, read, meditate and work on myself. Ive been getting random text from my family telling me how important to the family and that they care for me. Im good to everybody and sometime i see my generosity and kindness being taking advantage of.
Now back to my recovery plan. This is what worked for me before and I plan on working it again.
It's time to bury the old me and recreate myself.
Thank you for reading.
I've been going through heavy anxiety due to my drinking and cigarette smoking. It has come to the point that i almost feel paralyzed the next day due to the hangover, shakes and headache caused by the previous night of heavy drinking. Simple things like going to the barber shop, gym and even the super market has become a nightmare just thinking about it. The lost of my grandmother, suicide of a friend and lost of a women who i thought was the one at the time caused me to hit rock bottom again.
I handled the lost of my grandmother well but I was dealing with an unstable women who i taught was a God sent gift and turned out to be the total opposite. At first everything was great but then things took a 180. She started talking to me about other men, got mad at me because i did not buy her best friend a gift for her birthday and then became very jealous and would question me alot. She would talk down on me on how conservative and quiet I was and how giving i was to my family as if they were taking advantage of me. Even thoe we only talked for about 3 months, i feel hard for this girl. To make matters worst, I ended hooking up with one of her best friend, got drunk and called her to tell her sort of like a payback for playing with my emotions.
The guilt caused a great deal of anxiety to the point that i don't ever want to be around her. I seen her best friend at a bar and she acted like nothing happen. Too much confusion.
Now that I look back at it, i don't deserve this. I can be so self destructive but now i want my sobriety back. I want to go back to the gym, read, meditate and work on myself. Ive been getting random text from my family telling me how important to the family and that they care for me. Im good to everybody and sometime i see my generosity and kindness being taking advantage of.
Now back to my recovery plan. This is what worked for me before and I plan on working it again.
- Reading
- Meditating
- Posting here daily (seeking and giving support)
- Learning new skills
It's time to bury the old me and recreate myself.
Thank you for reading.
Hi Ghost, sorry to hear you didn't quite make it. I'm not an expert on relapses or how to get back on the sobriety horse. But your life sounds pretty chaotic right now.
I know it's a cart and horse thing, but believe me, once sobriety sticks, all the other insanity starts to disappear. Having a life that is manageable again is priceless and you deserve it.
I know it's a cart and horse thing, but believe me, once sobriety sticks, all the other insanity starts to disappear. Having a life that is manageable again is priceless and you deserve it.
Continue to build a life on things that you will not be able to do if you drink. Find that you love them and eventually drinking will just seem ridiculous. That is a least what I did over the long haul. At 57 I am active, even took up Refereeing Soccer and and pretty involved a couple years later. I like to run, enjoy my job and family and have found that just relaxing is well..........relaxing.
There is nothing wrong with drinking for others, but it works differently for me. I have accepted this and it is not a big deal any longer. I just do something else besides drink. I think honestly one of the keys is just to keep your eye on the prize. Keep putting one foot in front of the other until you find yourself where you want to be.
There is nothing wrong with drinking for others, but it works differently for me. I have accepted this and it is not a big deal any longer. I just do something else besides drink. I think honestly one of the keys is just to keep your eye on the prize. Keep putting one foot in front of the other until you find yourself where you want to be.
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The lost of my grandmother, suicide of a friend and lost of a women who i thought was the one at the time caused me to hit rock bottom again.
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I handled the lost of my grandmother well but I was dealing with an unstable women who i taught was a God sent gift and turned out to be the total opposite. Now that I look back at it, i don t deserve this. I can be so self destructive...
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I handled the lost of my grandmother well but I was dealing with an unstable women who i taught was a God sent gift and turned out to be the total opposite. Now that I look back at it, i don t deserve this. I can be so self destructive...
As is true of me and so many others, you tend to make poor decisions when you're drinking. And though it's great that you've made a plan, it would be even better were you to seek help to protect yourself from acting on your destructive impulses.
I believe it's true of most people that, as long as we rationalize our drinking based on unpleasant or unwanted life events, it will always be extremely difficult for us to stay sober.
Hi GhostFace
I think your plans a great start but there's apart from posting here there's not a lot that specifically addresses drinking
I'm not trying to be harsh, but if you drank again, did the plan really work?
That self destructive side - how might you deal with that if it resurfaces for example?
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I think your plans a great start but there's apart from posting here there's not a lot that specifically addresses drinking
Now back to my recovery plan. This is what worked for me before and I plan on working it again.
Reading
Meditating
Posting here daily (seeking and giving support)
Learning new skills
It's time to bury the old me and recreate myself.
Thank you for reading.
Reading
Meditating
Posting here daily (seeking and giving support)
Learning new skills
It's time to bury the old me and recreate myself.
Thank you for reading.
That self destructive side - how might you deal with that if it resurfaces for example?
D
Hi GhostFace
I think your plans a great start but there's apart from posting here there's not a lot that specifically addresses drinking
I'm not trying to be harsh, but if you drank again, did the plan really work?
That self destructive side - how might you deal with that if it resurfaces for example?
D
I think your plans a great start but there's apart from posting here there's not a lot that specifically addresses drinking
I'm not trying to be harsh, but if you drank again, did the plan really work?
That self destructive side - how might you deal with that if it resurfaces for example?
D
Whats is really hard for me is Thursday - Sunday. I just need to keep myself busy and avoid certain places and people in order to make this work..
Good morning,
Today is day 3 and this is when things get tough. I'm at work right now and as soon as I get home im going to workout, read and take a coding course. Thursday are tough as the weekend is near and I start feeling anxious to go out. I start feeling good and since the weekend is near i want to step out but i need to relax and work on me.
Im feeling good today and i don't know if that's a good or a bad thing. What kills me about sobriety is the loneliness. I got used to being alone at first but then i got back into my comfort zone and all things went down hill.
Dee74 was right about my plan and now im worried if it's going to work out. Im not the one to go to AA meeting but i will take AVRT and see how that goes. Im open to suggestions.
Thanks for reading.
Today is day 3 and this is when things get tough. I'm at work right now and as soon as I get home im going to workout, read and take a coding course. Thursday are tough as the weekend is near and I start feeling anxious to go out. I start feeling good and since the weekend is near i want to step out but i need to relax and work on me.
Im feeling good today and i don't know if that's a good or a bad thing. What kills me about sobriety is the loneliness. I got used to being alone at first but then i got back into my comfort zone and all things went down hill.
Dee74 was right about my plan and now im worried if it's going to work out. Im not the one to go to AA meeting but i will take AVRT and see how that goes. Im open to suggestions.
Thanks for reading.
These two links are pretty good for plans - you'll definitely come away with new ideas on making a better plan
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html
If you've decided AVRT is your thing, but you haven't really investigated it beyond the idea of an AV, I recommend you read up on it.
There's some material in our Secular Connections forum on it - e.g.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ined-long.html
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http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html
If you've decided AVRT is your thing, but you haven't really investigated it beyond the idea of an AV, I recommend you read up on it.
There's some material in our Secular Connections forum on it - e.g.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ined-long.html
D
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