I'm On Day 3 Here.
Living the life
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Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1,211
I'm On Day 3 Here.
Hi all. I guess a short intro is in order if I am going to try and be part of this community. I have been a moderate/heavy drinker (with mostly daily drinking - guess you could call me a functioning alcoholic) for oh, maybe 40 years.
I worked in a tough male over-represented field that worked hard and played hard. This really instilled the concept of "reward drinking" into my psyche. I have no qualms drinking alone and in fact do most of my drinking at home alone. As many know this is not so unusual for women. I have been retired for a year and I am drinking much more than is healthy - between 1/2 and 1 1/2 bottles of wine a day. And perhaps a cocktail or two depending. I have tried to quit countless times in my life, with the longest being about six months. I have made more bad choices than you could imagine while drinking and still go back to it. Although there hasn't been a specific thing that has happened recently to trigger this round of attempted sobriety, I need to start taking better care of my health and it is time for a change.
I have no interest in a program, but find I do well with other things when I can do daily readings and such, so I'm hoping that joining here will give me the boost and the resources I need to stay dry. I have the best resource imaginable in that my husband is a substance abuse worker, but I'm not there yet and have mixed feelings about dealing with my husband on a professional level. I can go to him if I decide I want a more formal community support.
So. There it is lol. Hi!
I worked in a tough male over-represented field that worked hard and played hard. This really instilled the concept of "reward drinking" into my psyche. I have no qualms drinking alone and in fact do most of my drinking at home alone. As many know this is not so unusual for women. I have been retired for a year and I am drinking much more than is healthy - between 1/2 and 1 1/2 bottles of wine a day. And perhaps a cocktail or two depending. I have tried to quit countless times in my life, with the longest being about six months. I have made more bad choices than you could imagine while drinking and still go back to it. Although there hasn't been a specific thing that has happened recently to trigger this round of attempted sobriety, I need to start taking better care of my health and it is time for a change.
I have no interest in a program, but find I do well with other things when I can do daily readings and such, so I'm hoping that joining here will give me the boost and the resources I need to stay dry. I have the best resource imaginable in that my husband is a substance abuse worker, but I'm not there yet and have mixed feelings about dealing with my husband on a professional level. I can go to him if I decide I want a more formal community support.
So. There it is lol. Hi!
quat
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: terra (mostly)firma
Posts: 4,822
Congratulations on your decisoin and welcome aboard 
SR is a very supportive environment, a community of 'peers', glad you found it. Through finding SR I was made aware of RR and AVRT( there are great threads on these topics here on SR in the Secular Connections forum) , those ideas really resonated , maybe take a look and see what you think.
Check in often, read ,post ask and check in often
wish you well and hope to see you around
Best advice I'd give : don't attempt sobriety, do it, You Can , rootin for ya !
SR is a very supportive environment, a community of 'peers', glad you found it. Through finding SR I was made aware of RR and AVRT( there are great threads on these topics here on SR in the Secular Connections forum) , those ideas really resonated , maybe take a look and see what you think.
Check in often, read ,post ask and check in often
wish you well and hope to see you around
Best advice I'd give : don't attempt sobriety, do it, You Can , rootin for ya !
Living the life
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Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1,211
I started bowling for the season today. I would normally have a beer while bowling, which wouldn't be a problem except I would then get home and continue drinking for the rest of the night. I can "maybe" have one but if I have two I want a dozen. Heck that happens even after one many times lol. So I'm a little bit proud of myself for drinking water while bowling today. Having said that I have been here many times before so we will see. I don't usually make it past five or six days so it's very early days here.
Thanks to everyone for all the support
Thanks to everyone for all the support
Friendly Folk
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Powers Lake, Wisconsin
Posts: 21,705
Welcome! You have come to the right place because sooo many of us can and will relate to you. You will find that no matter what you are going thru you are never alone and never judged here. We all have been in similar
situations and can relate and be compassionate. Glad you found SR. ♡CR
situations and can relate and be compassionate. Glad you found SR. ♡CR
South Asian
Join Date: Sep 2015
Posts: 121
Welcome. Good luck. I suspect you may find you can launch a thousand ships and do so much more with booze completely out of the equation. I am only on Day 5 here after multiple failed attempts. I think a plan is essential. Quite a meticulous one. My lapses have happened almost seamlessly. Have a good weekend.
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Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1,211
I'm up to day four - go me! Slept pretty good last night and I feel ready for the day.
One of my ways I legitimize my drinking is by having wine with meals. But what this actually looks at is a couple of glasses while cooking a nice meal, another couple while eating it and then what the heck I might as well keep going. Last night I had my daughter over for dinner and I took the open bottle of wine in the fridge and used it to make a pepper sauce. Tasty but with (presumably) no alcohol after simmering for ten minutes or so. Seemed like a good way to get rid of the wine that didn't freak out the cheap bastard in me by pouring it down the drain.
I keep hearing people say "what are you going to do differently". For the last three days I've been having a nice cold glass of milk with my dinner. Strangely satisfying.
One of my ways I legitimize my drinking is by having wine with meals. But what this actually looks at is a couple of glasses while cooking a nice meal, another couple while eating it and then what the heck I might as well keep going. Last night I had my daughter over for dinner and I took the open bottle of wine in the fridge and used it to make a pepper sauce. Tasty but with (presumably) no alcohol after simmering for ten minutes or so. Seemed like a good way to get rid of the wine that didn't freak out the cheap bastard in me by pouring it down the drain.
I keep hearing people say "what are you going to do differently". For the last three days I've been having a nice cold glass of milk with my dinner. Strangely satisfying.
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