I've never even had 30 days before.
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I've never even had 30 days before.
Until now! Actually where I'm at, I'm halfway through day 32.
I can't believe it. Is it really 2016? Have I been in a coma for that long? To be honest, I don't really know what I did differently. It would be amazing to come here with the information "Once I did this, THAT is what finally got me to make it to 30 days after trying to hit that benchmark for YEARS." I wish I could be more helpful to those who are in their first week, but I just don't know what has changed. I thought that the 30 days, if I ever even made it, would be this big emotional struggle and it wasn't. It was just simply living my life without drinking. Telling my tinder dates that 'no I don't drink' with no worrying about what they would think, it just seemed that the words were a fact like George Washington's birthday-- there's no room for debate, I just don't drink anymore. I'm almost afraid that I didn't do enough, I almost feel like I didn't struggle enough in the 30 days. I told my father last night that it almost "feels too easy." This feeling is causing me to reevaluate because I don't want to get cocky and end up not getting to 60 days because I didn't do enough to support my recovery. I do something daily before bed that is recovery related, just to remind myself what I am. I mean it has been YEARS that I've been actively trying to get sober. I've been trying every single day for years to make this one count.... so it's not as if I wasn't learning the whole time. Maybe all of that experience, finally paid off? I don't know, but I'm not going to over think it. I'm sober for a month today and feel great. Anyone else have the experience that they really didn't do anything differently (except for not drink), but something just "clicked" ?
I can't believe it. Is it really 2016? Have I been in a coma for that long? To be honest, I don't really know what I did differently. It would be amazing to come here with the information "Once I did this, THAT is what finally got me to make it to 30 days after trying to hit that benchmark for YEARS." I wish I could be more helpful to those who are in their first week, but I just don't know what has changed. I thought that the 30 days, if I ever even made it, would be this big emotional struggle and it wasn't. It was just simply living my life without drinking. Telling my tinder dates that 'no I don't drink' with no worrying about what they would think, it just seemed that the words were a fact like George Washington's birthday-- there's no room for debate, I just don't drink anymore. I'm almost afraid that I didn't do enough, I almost feel like I didn't struggle enough in the 30 days. I told my father last night that it almost "feels too easy." This feeling is causing me to reevaluate because I don't want to get cocky and end up not getting to 60 days because I didn't do enough to support my recovery. I do something daily before bed that is recovery related, just to remind myself what I am. I mean it has been YEARS that I've been actively trying to get sober. I've been trying every single day for years to make this one count.... so it's not as if I wasn't learning the whole time. Maybe all of that experience, finally paid off? I don't know, but I'm not going to over think it. I'm sober for a month today and feel great. Anyone else have the experience that they really didn't do anything differently (except for not drink), but something just "clicked" ?
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I felt that way too - that it seemed "too easy." I just hit 100 days. I did a couple of AA meetings very early, but found they almost made me want to drink, in a way. I think it was just because (obviously) that's the focus. At home and around supportive people, I was able to put it out of my mind.
I do make myself remember where I was and why I wanted to stop, as I don't ever want to go back to that place, or have to do this again.
Congrats on 30 days!
I do make myself remember where I was and why I wanted to stop, as I don't ever want to go back to that place, or have to do this again.
Congrats on 30 days!
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Nice post Serper.
I am doing s lot of things different this time round, but it all started with a click during a relapse.
Relapse was heading for about 10 drinks, but halfway through the third can I got the click too.
After that I started really working on recovering and have a plan in full swing now, kind of the same thing you said, but instead of doing it to remind of me who I am, I'm doing it to remind me of who I want to and will be.
Well done for reaching the month, seems to me like you are in he right mind frame to do it this time!
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I am doing s lot of things different this time round, but it all started with a click during a relapse.
Relapse was heading for about 10 drinks, but halfway through the third can I got the click too.
After that I started really working on recovering and have a plan in full swing now, kind of the same thing you said, but instead of doing it to remind of me who I am, I'm doing it to remind me of who I want to and will be.
Well done for reaching the month, seems to me like you are in he right mind frame to do it this time!
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Originally Posted by Optimini 
That is so inspiring. I cannot wait to get to 30 days. Treat yourself to something fun, like a massage or whatever things you like!
This is a huge FIRST for me, I've never had anyone say that I inspired THEM.... because it's really hard to be an inspiration to someone when you can't even get past day 4 or 5 most of the time.
This is awesome, thanks for letting me know
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Originally Posted by Serper2014
This is a huge FIRST for me, I've never had anyone say that I inspired THEM.... because it's really hard to be an inspiration to someone when you can't even get past day 4 or 5 most of the time.
This is awesome, thanks for letting me know
This is awesome, thanks for letting me know
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I felt the same way! I'm on day 50 and was thinking "this ain't so bad"! Which kinda scared me! Like what am I missing here? BUT I do remember the first two weeks were just hell! The obsession that is. Great job on a month sober. I never thought I would see it either.
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Originally Posted by Optimini
Well, your post got me thinking when I read it this morning. I'm on day 9. Since I really lost control in July I've gained 10lbs, but I was thinking ahead to how I will feel in 30+ days because of your post, so accomplished, healthy etc. I decided to be very pro-active today, I went to a kickboxing class I was nervous to try - AND I LOVED IT - and then treated myself to scallops for lunch. So thank you and please keep up the good work!
Well I've been at the gym every single day since I got sober... weight lifting, running, biking, swimming. I've lost 10lbs already... and I've kept it off.... I'm going for another 5-7 lbs for this next month. I've always enjoyed exercise, but its nearly impossible while in withdrawal and I had the habit of drinking everyday in my earlier drinking years and every 4 days in my later drinking years... so I was always in withdrawal. I've gained 50lbs since I started drinking.... I'll lose it all every pound.... mark my words
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Originally Posted by Serper2014
Well I've been at the gym every single day since I got sober... weight lifting, running, biking, swimming. I've lost 10lbs already... and I've kept it off.... I'm going for another 5-7 lbs for this next month. I've always enjoyed exercise, but its nearly impossible while in withdrawal and I had the habit of drinking everyday in my earlier drinking years and every 4 days in my later drinking years... so I was always in withdrawal. I've gained 50lbs since I started drinking.... I'll lose it all every pound.... mark my words
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