HopingForCure

I finally called my ExAB and told him that I will not be talking to him anymore and that our break up is final. Today is his birthday.
Over the last few weeks, I felt like he was getting too comfortable. He would randomly call and we would end up talking. But as much as I loved hearing from him, I was getting worried about falling for him again. So today, I just ended it. No contact starts tomorrow. Please pray for me.

SparkleKitty

I'll be thinking of you, HfC. I hope you can take some time and do something very nice for yourself this week.

TimeForMe

HFC - That must have been very hard to do. You showed incredible strength by doing that. Sending you peace and healing.

atalose

Why can't no contact begin right now today at this moment!

Wells

Good luck, I know how hard it is, struggled with it myself lately but realized that much like the addict goes to the bottle for the drink, it's sweet followed by sour, over and over again.

No matter what you said, I'm sure he knows why you needed to do this.

You are in my thoughts, it's tough but it can be done.

thephoenixrises

Thinking of you...but really, don't guilt yourself-you have nothing to feel guilty about-esp breaking his heart on his birthday when he broke yours every single day and didn't give a damn.

Praying for you and wishing you strength and wisdom!

SmallButMighty

Every positive thought I can muster is being pushed in your direction..... oh how I have been there. I am sorry for your pain but happy for your freedom.

Deep, deep breaths....in through the nose an out trough the mouth. You've got this. ( we've got you)

HopingForCure

Thank you. Thank you to each one of you for sending positive vibes and strength towards me. You are right, I should not feel guilty about doing this on his birthday when he broke my heart every single day and lied to me every single day.

Big Hugs!

AnvilheadII

it might be helpful for you if you took the "broke his heart" part of your inner script. you simply said NO MORE. which you have every right to do. whatever he may feel about it, he owns.

thephoenixrises

Anvilhead: that is such a great way to look at it!!