caretaker88

Hi All,
I recently started dating a man who is really close to his family. I don't really talk about mine and I am waiting for him to ask why. I went no contact with my toxic brother a couple of years ago and am low contact with the rest of my family. I show up at Christmas, but that is about it. They are very dysfunctional and so judgmental of me that it was destroying every chance I had for a happy life. I am finally at a point that I am able to see my worth and am a happier person than I have ever been; I am proud of my accomplishments!

My question is this: How do I explain to him my lack of contact with my family? My fear is that he will run for the hills, but I guess if he does, he does. I don't want to reveal the exact nature of the abuse I endured at this time, but would like some advice on how to honestly tell him without him coming to the conclusion that there must be something majorly wrong with me??? We are very early in our relationship and if it becomes something more serious, I will reveal my history with my family, but I am just not comfortable doing so this early on.....

Mountainmanbob

Since it's early on in the relationship if asked.
"I'm not very close with my family right now and only see them occasionally."
It's the truth (always best).
Things often change down the road.
M-Bob

KcACA

I think that's perfect. I wouldn't say we don't talk or anything along those lines of you don't want to open communication about the subject. Try to keep it light versus negative.

AnvilheadII

i thought you were going to START a new relationship with NO CONTACT!!! LOL save the hassle later when it doesn't work out!

ok, i can't think of better words than what MountainBob said.....

caretaker88

So, as I feared, he brought it up... but, I guess I really had nothing to be afraid of! Maybe this guy is normal! LOL!!! He said that he respects my privacy and that he believes I am an intelligent person, so I must have a good reason for it! AWESOME!!!

Thanks for all your help guys!

EveningRose

I just say, 'There's some dysfunction there--alcoholism--I try to steer clear.'

Maudcat

Or, "seeing my family wreaks havoc on my serenity. I have learned that staying away is best."