MAYA1

I found this talk so helpful. It break downs dynamics of codependent VS alcoholic/addict and it's cause.

I can relate to many patterns of the codependent behaviour. Even the look at childhood fits. It helped me understand a lot of my actions /reactions while living with an addict and puts light in it.

Here is the link for those who are interested:

- https://youtu.be/F2P3qknUN4k

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If you like discussions on codependents and who they are attracted to and vice versa I would also recommend Lisa Romano, Ross Rosenberg and Richard
Grannon. Richard can be pretty heavy duty so maybe save him for last haha

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Wow thanks for sharing that by the way... really shows you how tricky it is dealing with an A and their lies!!

MAYA1

Thabks a lot for the tips. Yes I do like it as it helps me see my own mistakes and points at my own issues I need to work on. Quite an eye opener.

I realized this was my second codependent relationship and because my first ex didn't have alcohol/addiction issues I didn't know/notice. The last ex was heavy duty and it finally hit me after 1,5 year of terrible relationship. I still tried to work on it and forgave every episode.

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I was so there with you! I didn't want to have an regrets but ended up with them anyway lol huge lessons learned

thephoenixrises

This is great stuff-thank you.

MAYA1

Yes, HUGE lesson learned. Perphaps the worst experience ever. BUT if it serves to look at our own issues and enlighten us on what we shoudl work on... its life. To better future!