Struggling a bit lately
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Struggling a bit lately
I haven't reached out forever it seems. Always trying to do this on my own. But, I need some help. We're waiting to hear if my husband has some kind of a bone cancer. He's fractured several vertebrae and the MRI doesn't look good. He tells me to drink because he is taking pain killers and it helps with the worry. Ever my Enabler
I know that will lead to nothing positive for me but I feel like I'm caving. Went to my acupuncturist - she is so lovely! - and tonight I have more resolve. Washed all my windows, put books away, fed the chickens......
Just tell me something that makes sense, okay?
I know that will lead to nothing positive for me but I feel like I'm caving. Went to my acupuncturist - she is so lovely! - and tonight I have more resolve. Washed all my windows, put books away, fed the chickens......Just tell me something that makes sense, okay?
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For me doing this on my own never worked, I needed support, I needed something outside of my own alcoholic mind to keep me focused on the task at hand.
Therein lies the issue, we know it's no good for us but we continue anyway, the real sign of an addiction, continuing despite the consequences.
I needed a plan, not just leaving things to chance, get more support into my day, make plans to cut alcohol out of my life and slowly things began to change.
You can draw a line under alcohol also, it can be done!!
Therein lies the issue, we know it's no good for us but we continue anyway, the real sign of an addiction, continuing despite the consequences.
I needed a plan, not just leaving things to chance, get more support into my day, make plans to cut alcohol out of my life and slowly things began to change.
You can draw a line under alcohol also, it can be done!!
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Join Date: Jul 2016
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Greetings Inchworm.
Don't know if this makes sense, but may be best to keep a clear head now. You'll be able to feel and process your emotions better, I think. Mine go all wonky when I drink. Also I don't know why, but in times like this I become very focused and calm, probably because I may have to make very important decisions.
I haven't been able to pray for 2 years, but I want to now. Faith isn't really very logical, but it can't hurt?
Take care of yourself
Don't know if this makes sense, but may be best to keep a clear head now. You'll be able to feel and process your emotions better, I think. Mine go all wonky when I drink. Also I don't know why, but in times like this I become very focused and calm, probably because I may have to make very important decisions.
I haven't been able to pray for 2 years, but I want to now. Faith isn't really very logical, but it can't hurt?
Take care of yourself
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Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Soberville, USA
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Inch,
I relate to your burden. When you love someone, when they hurt, you hurt.
Prayer is what I offer to help.
It is a mystery how it works. The mystery of faith.
It is how I wake up and go to sleep, how I find contentment when things are getting creepy.
It is the only thing that works for me.
Prayers.
I relate to your burden. When you love someone, when they hurt, you hurt.
Prayer is what I offer to help.
It is a mystery how it works. The mystery of faith.
It is how I wake up and go to sleep, how I find contentment when things are getting creepy.
It is the only thing that works for me.
Prayers.
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