Could use some encouragement please
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Could use some encouragement please
Day 2 and my husband is at our friends house at a party where there is A LOT of drinking going on. I decided to stay home because honestly that's just too hard for me now. I can't shake the feeling that I'm somehow missing out on something as I sit here by myself. Realistically I know I'm really just missing out on making myself sick, setting off the insatiable need for more and more alcohol, a possible blackout, and feeling like death tomorrow both physically and emotionally. I'm trying to stay positive but could really use some reinforcement ...
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you aren't missing a thing, hon. people drinking too much, getting loud, obnoxious, at least one person ends up puking in the bushes, and MASSIVE hangovers tomorrow. there really IS more to life than that.
besides your addiction now CANCELS out the privilege of ENJOYING alcohol. it wants to OWN you.
pfft, screw that. don't be owned. be FREE!
besides your addiction now CANCELS out the privilege of ENJOYING alcohol. it wants to OWN you.
pfft, screw that. don't be owned. be FREE!
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Tonight you just have to take it one minute, then one hour at a time and tomorrow will be day 3. When you wake up in the morning you'll be so proud you made it through last night. You can do it...... Try to stay busy with anything. Post more here, read a lot here, bake maybe, go for a walk, take yourself out for ice cream!? Just stay busy!
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There's nothing in it for us anymore, Eliasson. The days of being able to enjoy it are long gone, & they aren't coming back. Plus, as Anvil says - you aren't missing a thing. We can't risk the danger & uncertainty it leads to - stay free. Keep posting & let us know how you are.
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Elliason, I know its so much easier said than done, but try and get the alcohol "thing" out of your head. For us, its a road to nowhere. Not only the potential regrets of what comes out of our mouths or the way we act, but our health. It kills people. It's a big hurdle to overcome, I get it. When you get over that hurdle, it will become very clear (hopefully).
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So...blacking out literally means you can't recall a period of time, yet you're missing out when you're NOT drunk? Pure craziness! The only time you're missing out is when you're blacked out or hung over! Trust me. I was a blackout drinker for 12 years, yet every time I tried to stay sober for a night or two I'd wind up in tears because I felt like I was missing out on all the fun. Totally nuts.
In the last few years I've done more and had more fun sober than I did in my 12 years drunk. Just hang in there and I'm sure you'll experience the same for yourself.
In the last few years I've done more and had more fun sober than I did in my 12 years drunk. Just hang in there and I'm sure you'll experience the same for yourself.
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I've realized that even though I'll be able to attend events where there will be alcohol, under no circumstance will I ever attend an event where the total goal for people is to get trashed. What a waste of life!
Eliasson, were you aware that there was going to be a party? What I used to do was to plan things to do so I wasn't at home bored and thinking about what people were doing at the party.
I'm glad you posted and I hope to see you and Optimist posting this morning about how good it is to wake up feeling great.
Eliasson, were you aware that there was going to be a party? What I used to do was to plan things to do so I wasn't at home bored and thinking about what people were doing at the party.
I'm glad you posted and I hope to see you and Optimist posting this morning about how good it is to wake up feeling great.
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Well done for playing the tape forward, and for asking for support. Its all good.
My OH still goes drinking all weekend and returns with very tedious tales of who did and said what, and how bored or peed off he got (but never thinks to stop and come home, as I once didnt).
Have you got any sober friends? Life got better for me when I made a few close sober pals. I've also realised that going to the cinema or the theater alone is a pretty good solitary treat. Or buying a few pamper items and watching something my OH would hate, and generally making the most of having the flat to myself.
My OH still goes drinking all weekend and returns with very tedious tales of who did and said what, and how bored or peed off he got (but never thinks to stop and come home, as I once didnt).
Have you got any sober friends? Life got better for me when I made a few close sober pals. I've also realised that going to the cinema or the theater alone is a pretty good solitary treat. Or buying a few pamper items and watching something my OH would hate, and generally making the most of having the flat to myself.
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You made a fantastic choice, staying home.
That is the kind of choosing and honoring of yourself that will yield results in sobriety and in a rich and joyful life.
You won't always have to make choices to avoid situations where drinking will be happening. It will change over time and you will not feel this 'left out' feeling. But in the early days it is incredibly wise and shows commitment.
Keep it up, you're on the right track.
That is the kind of choosing and honoring of yourself that will yield results in sobriety and in a rich and joyful life.
You won't always have to make choices to avoid situations where drinking will be happening. It will change over time and you will not feel this 'left out' feeling. But in the early days it is incredibly wise and shows commitment.
Keep it up, you're on the right track.
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