again2016

I had to start a new post, my son in rehab 9 days decides today to call and say hes scared but he wants to call some of the extended places cause he knows he has to. I say ok I have some of them, he says I wanna do myself, ok you have to anyway I cant answer questions and your an adult.....mom ill call you back in alittle bit and get the numbers I don't have a pen and I will get you at lunch for information.... sounds good ...............next thing call from counselor your name of emergency list and he walked out not allowed to even be telling you this so sorry...

Really, that is it I know it isn't jail.........I run home practicing In my head what I have to say, that he cant be here omg why walk out he was so close to moving on to next location scared I guess or wants to use so not an adulty such a young man, my son I hate this disease

dandylion

again2016......this happens, commonly. Do not enable him, though.....
I am assuming that h e is over 18yrs.?

dandylion

AnvilheadII

rehab is VOLUNTARY.

not sure why you HAD to race home? i know this is your son, but learning how to DETACH from knee jerk reactions to HIS every move will go a long way for YOUR sanity. you also get to choose just how INVOLVED you want to continue to be in all of this. he's made his opinion pretty clear about things............

hopeful4

I am sorry, it has to be very disappointing.

However, this is pretty common I hate to say. Breathe. Stay strong.

ardy

then there are times I look to heaven and scream Why God Why did you have to have the female be the one that has to bear so much.. Babe all of us are on your shoulder your side and near your back.. sometimes you just have to let go and .. cry yourself to sleep... and again I scream to the Heavens Why God to the Mothers have to bear it all ... sorry.. know just what you are feeling. prayers from a Mom..

Plink

Whoa....ardy!! Rough day here for this Mom whose B-day is tomorrow.....

Ann

Not letting him come home will give him the opportunity to discover the lessons consequences can bring. He made a bad decision, now he gets to live with the consequence.

I pray he finds his way back to rehab and a better path of sobriety.

Hugs from my heart to yours.

again2016

thanks for all the comments and support , I don't know how id function without this site. fast forward to I made a mistake called me within 2 hours and asked what to do I said call the center and see if they will take you back and they agreed. but if he got high they will kick him out tomorrow. Praying he didn't said he left at big 21 years of age over an argument with an employee at center. no one gonna tell him...blah blah.... so for tonight hes safe they said they are not sure if he was high or not but test will show until tomorrow I guess I made it known back here is not an option for sure I hope he was listening......................................... .......

again2016

thank you and back to you

again2016

thanks ann! so much

again2016

Thanks so much!!

again2016

Thanks and yes the knee jerk reaction is what I need not to do Race home cause I thought for sure he would just show up here than id have to do the whole you cant be here conversation but fortunately for this moment it didn't have to go this way............tomorrow will be telling

again2016

yes he is 21 ... I don't want to enable him any more im thankful he called and they took him back

Bekindalways

Ardy, you have said a mouthful here. I know Dads can suffer too but mostly you moms.

God bless you all and extra prayers for you Again. May you have courage beyond courage and peace beyond peace.

again2016

thanks so much....I know dads suffer too....

PlasticInsanity

My LO walked out of rehab after about 3 weeks - well, she went to go visit her boyfriend at his mom's, and didn't go back that night. She was shocked when they wouldn't let her in the next morning, lol.

It's frustrating, but your son isn't going to "get it" until he hits bottom. Each addict's bottom is different, but he won't hit bottom as long as you keep saving him. Limit contact if you have to - not because you hate him, but because you love him (sounds hypocritical I know, but trust me on this).

ardy

Hi All.. have a sight for Moms of military uniforms I chat with.. this is a huge problem with these young people too.. when did we start referring to the young people over 18 as kids.. the right to vote .. pay taxes and most make more money then I ever did at that age.. and its the kids.. nope ... its so hard.. was so afraid my son at 34 was loosing his path. and then he joined the army... so some of my fears went south.. it has been good for him.. prayers Dear Hearts to all of your families in these trying Days. of 2016

again2016

cant believe they took him back when he asked. was clean when he arrived back in, said he just got scared, aka no one would pick him up....but non the less he is back in. asked for an extended center out of state to get best chance of recovery if the insurance will cover than that is what will happen....I do hate this disease and I told him he cant come back here it is not healty for him or me. I love and respect him enough to know he has to do this on his own. thanks again sr team.....you always provide me strength

ardy

Hi so glad to hear he maybe on a good path.. hold tight kiddo its a bumpy road called life.. love ardy

hopeful4

Glad to hear this!