I made a statement yesterday.
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I made a statement yesterday.
Some of you know, I have a fractured family at the moment. Yesterday being Fathers Day, the family was getting together at my brothers place to barbecue and swim in the pool....and drink. I didn't really want to go, but felt I should deliver their cards in person and wish my own father and my brother who is a father a happy fathers day. They all had been drinking since brunch, and when I arrived I could tell as much. A TON of peer pressure came my way, my favorite drink was mixed and sitting in front of me in seconds. A swimsuit and towel were brought out for me and an extra steak was purchased. I rarely talk to my brother. I was dumbfounded how badly they wanted me to stay. A year and half ago I was the one they were hoping wouldn't show up, and if I did, I wouldn't stay long.
I stuck to my guns, had a bottled water, some brief useless chatter and came back home. They need to understand my sobriety is not a "phase" I'm going through. And you know what, today I feel pretty good about it.
I stuck to my guns, had a bottled water, some brief useless chatter and came back home. They need to understand my sobriety is not a "phase" I'm going through. And you know what, today I feel pretty good about it.
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I won't lie I dreaded reading as I was but you done utterly amazing by not drinking your right it's not a phase to you but to them it is but that don't matter what you do does and right now I think you done the right thing by not only handling it well but sharing with us and getting it off your chest
Big congrats on a awesome commendable attitude
Big congrats on a awesome commendable attitude
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I was thinking along the same lines as Tomsteve.
Good on you for not giving into to any AV crap. Dismissing the idea that it is a phase and practicing a commitment to abstinence becomes a 'first' nature way of being, the 'orientation' becomes ingrained , livable, and comfortable with time. Or at least it has for me and I'm sure others, too.
Thanks for the post, as I read it I realized its been quite a few gatherings , family and otherwise where I 'forgot' I don't drink, the first year or more going meant I was at some level thinking about it, knowing the AV would be throwing up missing it, depriving myself ect yada.. But I can honestly say that at some point that I didn't even notice until now, I 'just go places and do things', and I think that can be all chalked up to time.
So as long as the idea of anything being just a phase is really out the window, at some point in time you're going to turn around and realize you just went for a bbq and some swimming and then you may read a post and thank the poster , with a contented little smile.
Good on ya
Good on you for not giving into to any AV crap. Dismissing the idea that it is a phase and practicing a commitment to abstinence becomes a 'first' nature way of being, the 'orientation' becomes ingrained , livable, and comfortable with time. Or at least it has for me and I'm sure others, too.
Thanks for the post, as I read it I realized its been quite a few gatherings , family and otherwise where I 'forgot' I don't drink, the first year or more going meant I was at some level thinking about it, knowing the AV would be throwing up missing it, depriving myself ect yada.. But I can honestly say that at some point that I didn't even notice until now, I 'just go places and do things', and I think that can be all chalked up to time.
So as long as the idea of anything being just a phase is really out the window, at some point in time you're going to turn around and realize you just went for a bbq and some swimming and then you may read a post and thank the poster , with a contented little smile.
Good on ya
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Originally Posted by Frickaflip233 
I'm glad Jeff. Its amazing to me that anyone would put a drink in front of a recovering alcoholic. They do know, right?
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I'll admit to this much, if it would have been Saturday and not Sunday it would have been 3 times harder to walk away from that drink.
I haven't had alcohol on a Sunday in like 5 years. (probably 1-2 exceptions in there).
I haven't had alcohol on a Sunday in like 5 years. (probably 1-2 exceptions in there).
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Great job Jeff!! I am going out to visit a good friend on Thursday and she asked what I was drinking these days. I told her water, Coke Zero and my favorite fri k is Arizona Green Zero. She asked about alcohol, I said, nope still none since New Year's Eve, but don't worry I am still as entertaining and sassy as ever. Her response was "Wow, I'm proud of you. " I said since my glass of wine normally resembled more the size of a bottle and based on some health issues I have dealt with, alcohol is no longer an option.
It will make the visit much easier, because she knows in advance, and if she chooses to drink that is ok too, but I know she would never push or even offer it to me now.:-)
It will make the visit much easier, because she knows in advance, and if she chooses to drink that is ok too, but I know she would never push or even offer it to me now.:-)
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