skipper123

tomorrow will be 21 days for me doesn't seem like that much time since I did make it to over 100days last summer. Anyway, I'm not having the incredible sugar cravings this time around but seem to be very very sensitive. Got made at a gf I never have gotten mad at before and extremely mad at my new husband over something I would have shrugged off had I been drinking.

Seem to have lost my self confidence and easy going way. Just wondering if this is normal.

Dee74

Hi Skipper

every time sober was a little different for me - by the end of my drinking days I was pretty sensitive for a while too.

It will get better -m it takes a little time to get used to feeling things again, but you will find your emotional default level.

Until that happens, maybe look at why you're angry and whether it's reasonable or not. If it's not reasonable there's no point ion staying angry. If it is reasonable , its better to talk it out than stay angry anyway right?

have you thought of something like a gratitude list or journal?

I found thinking about the good things I had really helped when I was irritable or a little sorry for myself?

D

Anna

Congratulations on 21 days sober. You're doing great!

Try to hang in there through the emotional ups and downs and allow yourself to feel what's going on. It helped me to remember that I didn't have to let the emotions pull me in. I could feel them and let them go.

LostLilly

Congrats!!! I also crave/eat sugar and everyone and everything bothers me. Trying gratitude, prayer, expressing my feelings. Emotions are a roller coaster and it can be normal. My situation is a bit different because I am literally dealing with the fallout of bad choices this week and am scared out of my mind.

Lilly

northernsoul

Hope it all works out for you, Lilly.

HopeandFaith1

I'm so glad you posted this. I was pondering this exact same question before I logged in. I think we both probably know this behavior is "normal" in early recovery but it helps to have people with lots of sobriety confirm it and that it will get better. If it's any consolation, I cried all morning about everything, and nothing at all. Snapped at my sweet mom when she called and overreacted at work yesterday to two Co workers who upset me. It is no fun but I still believe it is better than being drunk. I wish you lots of luck on your recovery. And incidentally, it is nice to see you back Dee. Hope all is well.

Berrybean

Yep, it's normal. We're pretty raw in early recovery. All those feelings that we have to manage without any running away to oblivion. And that's where the 'recovery' stuff comes in. As we learn to deal with life on life's terms. I made the mistake of thinking that the learning (recovery) would just happen if I stayed sober and waited. I sat in my emotional tsunami for months and months before I decided to actually get of my arse and work on it. And once I started doing some work, things got much better.

What the 'work' looks like varies from person to person, depending on their recovery plan. It's well worth reading some of the links about making a plan, and trying some of the suggestions that you will read and hear.

Sounds like you're doing great though.