Some things I have learned so far...
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Some things I have learned so far...
1) Stay with and trust your feelings
Do not let anybody tell you that you do not feel what you feel. Your feelings are valid and real. Stop abandoning yourself
2) Ask yourself questions when you feel an emotion
What am I feeling? Why? What is this really about? For instance when I felt a deep, deep loneliness I assumed it was because I was still in love with AXBF. Turns out it was an old childhood wound of being abandoned that was triggered, and due to the way I grew up I associated being abandoned with “love”.
3) Do not attach to your emotions
In other words, when I FEEL bad it does not mean that I AM bad. When I FEEL angry it does not mean that I AM angry. I am a being that is experiencing emotions, but I am not the emotions themselves (hope that makes sense lol).
4) Detach from the other person
This does not mean that you do not still care for them, but have the ability to let them go down their own path, without you. I think of it as an energetic disentanglement. Untangle yourself so that you are not pulled and dragged down with them. Everyone is in charge of their own “level”, meaning no one can drag you down or pull you up unless you let them.
5) When you love and are loved you can FEEL it, there is no question
When I felt there was no emotional connection, it was because there was no emotional connection.
6) Foster self-love
When you start to trust yourself, everything else will start to fall into place, beautifully
7) Always, always trust your gut. Your subconscious mind is picking up far more than you’re able to consciously process. It sees things that you are not aware of, so when it tries to tell you something, LISTEN!
8) Listen to your body
Living in the mind had me overriding what I felt, which I am realizing is far more important.
9) Stop listening to how people say you “should” feel.
How you feel is how you should feel
Do not let anybody tell you that you do not feel what you feel. Your feelings are valid and real. Stop abandoning yourself
2) Ask yourself questions when you feel an emotion
What am I feeling? Why? What is this really about? For instance when I felt a deep, deep loneliness I assumed it was because I was still in love with AXBF. Turns out it was an old childhood wound of being abandoned that was triggered, and due to the way I grew up I associated being abandoned with “love”.
3) Do not attach to your emotions
In other words, when I FEEL bad it does not mean that I AM bad. When I FEEL angry it does not mean that I AM angry. I am a being that is experiencing emotions, but I am not the emotions themselves (hope that makes sense lol).
4) Detach from the other person
This does not mean that you do not still care for them, but have the ability to let them go down their own path, without you. I think of it as an energetic disentanglement. Untangle yourself so that you are not pulled and dragged down with them. Everyone is in charge of their own “level”, meaning no one can drag you down or pull you up unless you let them.
5) When you love and are loved you can FEEL it, there is no question
When I felt there was no emotional connection, it was because there was no emotional connection.
6) Foster self-love
When you start to trust yourself, everything else will start to fall into place, beautifully
7) Always, always trust your gut. Your subconscious mind is picking up far more than you’re able to consciously process. It sees things that you are not aware of, so when it tries to tell you something, LISTEN!
8) Listen to your body
Living in the mind had me overriding what I felt, which I am realizing is far more important.
9) Stop listening to how people say you “should” feel.
How you feel is how you should feel
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