8 Reasons why socialising sober is better than socialising drunk
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8 Reasons why socialising sober is better than socialising drunk
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Love this article!
It puts me in mind of a few things that I've learned in sobriety.
1. I like leaving an event as the same person who arrived.
2. A quote that I like that rings true, "Want to find out who your real friends are? Get sober".
The last time that I quit for 17 months a very close friend, who I thought I had a lot in common with, stopped texting or calling me. I was hurt. I really thought our friendship meant more than alcohol. When I picked back up, weirdly enough, I received a text from her soon thereafter. It didn't say anything about knowing that I was drinking again but I was aware that she was told. She wanted to know if I wanted to come over to her place that Friday for an adult beverage. We sat and chatted for a while and once the liquid courage was instilled I asked her why she stopped calling me and texting me. Her answer was it was to protect me. I mentioned that I thought our friendship was more than alcohol and she said it was but that she felt it best that since we always drank together that it was better to stay away for a while. For the 19 month period of my drinking we again became friends.
I quit again on May 9th. Haven't heard from her since. Sad to say that I don't fault her but I believe she is protecting me because she doesn't want to socialize without alcohol.
Either way it's sad. You can be friends with anyone who likes to drink just for that reason alone. Doesn't matter if their thoughts and beliefs are the direct opposites of your own and you have nothing in common.
On the positive I've found that relationships built in sobriety are real and rewarding.
Again, great article!
It puts me in mind of a few things that I've learned in sobriety.
1. I like leaving an event as the same person who arrived.
2. A quote that I like that rings true, "Want to find out who your real friends are? Get sober".
The last time that I quit for 17 months a very close friend, who I thought I had a lot in common with, stopped texting or calling me. I was hurt. I really thought our friendship meant more than alcohol. When I picked back up, weirdly enough, I received a text from her soon thereafter. It didn't say anything about knowing that I was drinking again but I was aware that she was told. She wanted to know if I wanted to come over to her place that Friday for an adult beverage. We sat and chatted for a while and once the liquid courage was instilled I asked her why she stopped calling me and texting me. Her answer was it was to protect me. I mentioned that I thought our friendship was more than alcohol and she said it was but that she felt it best that since we always drank together that it was better to stay away for a while. For the 19 month period of my drinking we again became friends.
I quit again on May 9th. Haven't heard from her since. Sad to say that I don't fault her but I believe she is protecting me because she doesn't want to socialize without alcohol.
Either way it's sad. You can be friends with anyone who likes to drink just for that reason alone. Doesn't matter if their thoughts and beliefs are the direct opposites of your own and you have nothing in common.
On the positive I've found that relationships built in sobriety are real and rewarding.
Again, great article!
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