zlhzlh

I just asked my husband to buy me some wine. I'm scared, I haven't done this before since quitting. In 6 months I've had thoughts but never asked my husband to buy me wine....i am angry and feel nervous about the way i feel. Its all because I am decorating my bathroom and I just really want to have a glass of wine whilst doing it.
My husband quite rightly refused and said he will be no part in me ever drinking again. I dont want to be feeling like this and feel like I have failed and I haven't even drank yet. Help.....

Opivotal

Learning to recognize your triggers and how to deal with them is imperative in recovery.

Leave the redecorating for another time. Go for a walk, exercise, occupy your mind with anything you have to. Your AV is trying to trick you !

You haven't failed, we all hear that voice from time to time. You don't have to act on your thoughts.

H.A.L.T

sugarbear1

or just paint WITHOUT the wine. you will surprise yourself?!!?

soberclover

I thought I couldn't do a lot of things without wine.....but I was very wrong......it may have been challenging at first but it go easier!

uncorked

On a positive note, you'll do a better job painting without the wine! But yeah, there are certain situations that feel like they call for a drink. Sort of like an abusive boyfriend -- when you look back on it, sometimes you can only see the good things. Glad your husband took a stand. It means he loves you.

madgirl

I dont want to be feeling like this and feel like I have failed and I haven't even drank yet. Help.....

Ok, you caved to the AV but you didn't go out to buy it yourself - you asked your husband, and he said no. Now move on from the moment. You are sober, right? Just move on.

zlhzlh

Thanks all, the painting got finished ! I went to bed shortly after.......but did not Drink.

Soberwolf

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Opivotal

Glad you didn't drink, zlhzlh.

Anna

Good that you got through that! The first time doing something like that without alcohol is hard, but next time will be much easier.

zlhzlh

I have my hubby to thank, he is my strength when I feel weak. I am finding sobriety really tough atm. I seem to have reached a point where triggers are everywhere and anywhere. I hope it will pass.

Soberwolf

it will keep checking in x