Our village loses another lost soul
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Our village loses another lost soul
I,m sad to say alcohol claimed another life in our village ,that's 2 guys in less than a year both of whom were daily drinking white cider and super lager on the street bench, .
He was only 35 and a nicer fellow you couldn't meet . I used to have long talks with him in and he did try quite a few times to get sober , he wouldn't go to AA and had no internet .
Such a sad existence and early death .
RIP H .
He was only 35 and a nicer fellow you couldn't meet . I used to have long talks with him in and he did try quite a few times to get sober , he wouldn't go to AA and had no internet .
Such a sad existence and early death .
RIP H .
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Sorry for your loss.
That's what happens. A lot of addicts die every day. The difference with this one is that you knew his name.
Sometimes I get overwhelmed by the deaths of those I have met, and by the painful relapses of others. There is no truth to the idea that some must suffer and die in order for others to live and find recovery. If i needed examples of how bad addiction is, all i need to do is look back upon my own life.
So I can't tell you that you can make sense out of another pointless death from addiction. The best I can do is decide that I don't want to end up that way, leaving behind a group of people to ask why. I didn't need the reminder, but there it is.
To be honest, this is the part of recovery that I have a difficult time with. I didn't want to start to care about a group of people, some of whom were going to die of the disease or relapse and suffer other self-inflicted consequences. But it comes with the territory.
And to be honest, the rest of the territory is pretty darned good. So I'll take it.
That's what happens. A lot of addicts die every day. The difference with this one is that you knew his name.
Sometimes I get overwhelmed by the deaths of those I have met, and by the painful relapses of others. There is no truth to the idea that some must suffer and die in order for others to live and find recovery. If i needed examples of how bad addiction is, all i need to do is look back upon my own life.
So I can't tell you that you can make sense out of another pointless death from addiction. The best I can do is decide that I don't want to end up that way, leaving behind a group of people to ask why. I didn't need the reminder, but there it is.
To be honest, this is the part of recovery that I have a difficult time with. I didn't want to start to care about a group of people, some of whom were going to die of the disease or relapse and suffer other self-inflicted consequences. But it comes with the territory.
And to be honest, the rest of the territory is pretty darned good. So I'll take it.
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Yes its a strange day i'm having today ,bad news earlier then fun with family later I suppose thats life . He wasn't what you would call a close friend , everyone knew him and he would always stop and chat if he saw me in the garden or the street .
The thing that bothers me a bit is I was more of a closet drinker trying my damndest to not let the public know what I was really doing where as he was always on the street benches with some others . However I was taught in AA a few years back to always add the word YET to statements like " I dont drink like that " . I cant explain it properly ,just that we both had an alcohol problem and performed in different ways and i feel strange sense of guilt for being so devious and thinking he was much worse than me .
The thing that bothers me a bit is I was more of a closet drinker trying my damndest to not let the public know what I was really doing where as he was always on the street benches with some others . However I was taught in AA a few years back to always add the word YET to statements like " I dont drink like that " . I cant explain it properly ,just that we both had an alcohol problem and performed in different ways and i feel strange sense of guilt for being so devious and thinking he was much worse than me .
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Sorry about your friend Thomas. I think a lot of us can relate to how you are feeling. This disease holds no prisoners and doesn't discriminate. How we present ourselves to the outside world is as different as the people we are. My drinking habits were no different from your friend on the bench, but the outside world would never know what I was hiding.
Sorry again for your loss.
Sorry again for your loss.
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I think what i'm trying to say is I was not any different from him but more fortunate in that I have a strong family around me he had no one really , he did have a house albeit a very lonely one .
Thank you all for your kindness
Thank you all for your kindness
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