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Old 05-21-2016, 03:10 AM
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When do you stop becoming a new comer?!

Just a question, when do you think you are past the new comer stage here and in AA, six months sober and I still feel like a new comer lol
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First, congratulations on 6 months! That's awesome!

Why do you think you still feel like a newcomer?
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Old 05-21-2016, 04:37 AM
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hey blue, i have 13 years in, and i want to stay stupid!

always be a newcomer (stay humble)

and best wishes on your journey
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Old 05-21-2016, 04:49 AM
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5 years here, I want to stay a newcomer, too!
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Old 05-21-2016, 04:51 AM
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Hmmm... Good Question. Congratulations on 6 months from a newcomer at heart!
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6 years and still a newcomer. I know more than I did and less than I should. Congrats on 6 month and never stop learning
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Old 05-21-2016, 06:54 AM
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I'm comfortable here, so I stay here. Congrats on 6 months.
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Old 05-21-2016, 06:58 AM
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Originally Posted by blueberry2015 View Post

when do you think you are past the new comer stage here and in AA,
They say in AA that after 30 days one is no longer a new comer.
A lot to learn in sobriety and that is a continuing process.
Sometimes quickly and sometimes slowly.
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Old 05-21-2016, 07:20 AM
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Lol I guess I feel a newcomer coz im still learning yeah i think I'd like to stay humble man, definately I dont ever want to feel like ive "cracked" it because being over complacency can lead to relapse.
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Old 05-21-2016, 08:54 AM
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When you have more posts than Wolfie?
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Old 05-21-2016, 09:33 AM
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Well, I'm not in AA, but I still hang out in the Newcomers forum here.
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Old 05-21-2016, 09:35 AM
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Old 05-21-2016, 10:20 AM
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AA seems to really embrace those under 30 days and for the right reason, they are the most likely to relapse again.

I still learn a lot from attending those meetings on occasion, I still feel like a newbie. I feel even more like a newbie when they have me run those meetings from time to time. I never know what to say and am ultimately surprised what comes out of my mouth in those meetings.
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Old 05-21-2016, 01:43 PM
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It depends upon the day and the situation.

No, I don't always feel like a newcomer any longer. However, when I am around some of my friends in NA who have 20-35 years clean... yeah, I feel a bit more like a newcomer. Not in a "less than" sort of way, but these are the guys I go to who have experience with living life clean and with recovery for a long period of time.

I still consider myself to be in early recovery, just the back half of it...
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Old 05-21-2016, 01:48 PM
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imo, theres newcomers to aa then theres newcomers to recovery.
not new to aa here
but still new to recovery.
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Old 05-21-2016, 02:11 PM
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Congratulations! In a sense I'm always new because I've become teachable. 10 months and not stupid just because I don't know it all...who does.
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Old 05-21-2016, 02:58 PM
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Really important to stay humble in recovery, the moment we think we know it all is when the ego kicks back in, and we all know where the ego can take us right?!
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I like coming to the newcomers section as it reminds me how far I've come and the nightmare i'd face if I ever started drinking again. So for me, it doesn't matter how much time I have under my belt, this is the section I like and the section that works for me.
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Old 05-21-2016, 07:18 PM
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Great question Blueberry and I love the responses.

The Buddhists have something like reverence for what they call "Beginner's Mind."
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I'm still a newcomer

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