A year later
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A year later
I cannot believe it's been exactly a year since I moved out. Today I am wondering where did I find all that strength, because it sometimes seems superhuman, moving everything alone, including pets, thinking of work deadlines, and walking in a minefield of my ex's undermining and emotional and verbal abuse. I guess that adrenaline is not such a bad thing when you really need it.
Funny thing, and this is something I noticed recently, I am not thinking of our joint dates, anniversaries, birthdays, and holidays anymore. These are now replaced with the date of our last argument, my move out date, and our divorce anniversary. I really needed that one year to start breathing again and start living on my own. And no, I do not feel ready for another relationship. I am very greedy when it comes to my time and personal space.
The greatest thing of all is that I am making friends, AGAIN! My very own friends and acquaintances, exchanging phone numbers, chatting to neighbors, adding new Facebook friends who are actually real-life people I met during the past year.
And no drama. Nothing.
Just eating what I want, when I want, enjoying living in my nice little clean den with my awesome dog buddy. In the evenings, we watch shows together and share snacks. In the afternoons, we take naps. Since I get up rather early, the afternoon naps are the best energy booster. Yes, my dog taught me this.
Even my Amazon shopping obsession is gone because I am happy with everything I have!
And I do not even have anything to complain about. So, how cool is that?
Just wanted to share this. I just feel great.
Funny thing, and this is something I noticed recently, I am not thinking of our joint dates, anniversaries, birthdays, and holidays anymore. These are now replaced with the date of our last argument, my move out date, and our divorce anniversary. I really needed that one year to start breathing again and start living on my own. And no, I do not feel ready for another relationship. I am very greedy when it comes to my time and personal space.
The greatest thing of all is that I am making friends, AGAIN! My very own friends and acquaintances, exchanging phone numbers, chatting to neighbors, adding new Facebook friends who are actually real-life people I met during the past year.
And no drama. Nothing.
Just eating what I want, when I want, enjoying living in my nice little clean den with my awesome dog buddy. In the evenings, we watch shows together and share snacks. In the afternoons, we take naps. Since I get up rather early, the afternoon naps are the best energy booster. Yes, my dog taught me this.
Even my Amazon shopping obsession is gone because I am happy with everything I have!
And I do not even have anything to complain about. So, how cool is that?
Just wanted to share this. I just feel great.
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Healthyagain.....I hope that everyone who is filled with despair and hopelessness, right now, reads this post!!
I want them to see that it is possible to change their life if they bel ieve in themselves and don't give up.
You are an example of what I have learned, also---that no matter how fearful we are.....that our courage will show up at just the minute that we need it.....
We have the ability the whole time (hibernating)...and, like Magic---it arrives at the second that we need it....
Healthyagain....lol....you call it "adrenalin".......and, I call it faith.....
Healthyagain, I am so happy and proud of you!
dandylion
I want them to see that it is possible to change their life if they bel ieve in themselves and don't give up.
You are an example of what I have learned, also---that no matter how fearful we are.....that our courage will show up at just the minute that we need it.....
We have the ability the whole time (hibernating)...and, like Magic---it arrives at the second that we need it....
Healthyagain....lol....you call it "adrenalin".......and, I call it faith.....
Healthyagain, I am so happy and proud of you!
dandylion
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