Confused
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Confused
Been in a relationship for 6 months with a recovering alcoholic of 20 years, he was so very loving and daily told me he loved me, as he knew I was a little hesitant about trusting..
So I eventually believed him and fell in love deeply with him. Now though he says we are over.
My emotional spirituality is in tatters, his recovery and alcoholism were never an issue for me I love him and accept him for who he was and is now.
Don't know what to do.
So I eventually believed him and fell in love deeply with him. Now though he says we are over.
My emotional spirituality is in tatters, his recovery and alcoholism were never an issue for me I love him and accept him for who he was and is now.
Don't know what to do.
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Sorry to hear that, Cope!
IMHO, sometimes it's best to wait until we've known someone for longer than that. As someone who has trouble trusting, I can say that the difficulty is that it can be an all or nothing kind of thing. Either I didn't trust at all but then would end up trusting too much and get hurt badly.
I'd suggest doing things with other people in group situations and next time take things much more slowly.
Good luck!
IMHO, sometimes it's best to wait until we've known someone for longer than that. As someone who has trouble trusting, I can say that the difficulty is that it can be an all or nothing kind of thing. Either I didn't trust at all but then would end up trusting too much and get hurt badly.
I'd suggest doing things with other people in group situations and next time take things much more slowly.
Good luck!
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we lick our wounds and move on. that is ALL we CAN do. i''m sorry it didn't work out.....very sorry.
a recent study in the UK found that women on average will have 7 relationships in their lives - an average of 3 of a year or less in duration, 2 of a year or more. and fall in love twice and get their heart broken twice.
yet we tend to think that EACH relationship we get into is THE ONE and will last FOREVER. best to not hold on TOO fiercely.
you'll be ok, give it time. be nice to yourself.
a recent study in the UK found that women on average will have 7 relationships in their lives - an average of 3 of a year or less in duration, 2 of a year or more. and fall in love twice and get their heart broken twice.
yet we tend to think that EACH relationship we get into is THE ONE and will last FOREVER. best to not hold on TOO fiercely.
you'll be ok, give it time. be nice to yourself.
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Here's the link to the full article....
Average woman will kiss 15 men and be heartbroken twice before meeting 'The One', study reveals - Telegraph
Average woman will kiss 15 men and be heartbroken twice before meeting 'The One', study reveals - Telegraph
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Not much you can do really except heal and move on. In my opinion trust takes a long while to build, at 6 months into dating we can be overly infatuated but if we are deeply in love then maybe that has to be looked at especially if we have trust issues. Falling so hard so fast may be leading to your trust issues.
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