Reflecting so much.
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Reflecting so much.
It isn't a problem exactly but I find myself thinking, a lot.
While my daughter is around i'm busy and chatting away to her as you have to with a young child but after she's gone to bed I find myself withdrawing and thinking about, well everything and anything.
I guess this is all part of recovery and as I said it's not a problem but it is something i've not done in a while.
When drinking i was happy to pass the time chatting about trivia and what was on TV, now it's as if I have deeper stuff to contemplate. Can anyone relate to this?
33 days and going strong.
While my daughter is around i'm busy and chatting away to her as you have to with a young child but after she's gone to bed I find myself withdrawing and thinking about, well everything and anything.
I guess this is all part of recovery and as I said it's not a problem but it is something i've not done in a while.
When drinking i was happy to pass the time chatting about trivia and what was on TV, now it's as if I have deeper stuff to contemplate. Can anyone relate to this?
33 days and going strong.
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Oh yes. I understand. I get lost in my thoughts as the clarity of sobriety starts to return. Reflection on the past and images of the future. It is almost surreal.
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Originally Posted by earthsteps 
Oh yes. I understand. I get lost in my thoughts as the clarity of sobriety starts to return. Reflection on the past and images of the future. It is almost surreal.
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Yes, I did that too in the early months of recovery. I still do, but not as much. I distracted myself with tv, music - whatever noise I could find - just to occupy my mind. I found myself dredging up the past & dwelling on regrets - I hope you won't do that to yourself. 
It all got much better as my new life kicked in. Congrats on your 33 days, Everydaysabonus.
It all got much better as my new life kicked in. Congrats on your 33 days, Everydaysabonus.
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Originally Posted by Hevyn
Yes, I did that too in the early months of recovery. I still do, but not as much. I distracted myself with tv, music - whatever noise I could find - just to occupy my mind. I found myself dredging up the past & dwelling on regrets - I hope you won't do that to yourself. It all got much better as my new life kicked in. Congrats on your 33 days, Everydaysabonus.
It all got much better as my new life kicked in. Congrats on your 33 days, Everydaysabonus.I'm not maudling over them in an unhealthy way though. If anything i'm more planning the way forward and just seem to be considering others a lot more too. Which can't be bad I guess.
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I have thought more in the past year than I have in the previous 22 years. There is much to contemplate about life, lots of revelations and epiphany's to be had.
For me, drinking shut my reflective self down, I didn't like what I saw.
It felt kind of disconcerting in the beginning to find myself with so much to think about but as time went on and I gained more clarity I was able to really appreciate being able to have quality thinking time with myself, so to speak.
It sounds like your thinking is a positive thing
For me, drinking shut my reflective self down, I didn't like what I saw.
It felt kind of disconcerting in the beginning to find myself with so much to think about but as time went on and I gained more clarity I was able to really appreciate being able to have quality thinking time with myself, so to speak.
It sounds like your thinking is a positive thing
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Thanks everyone, I don't have any family support,active alcoholic husband and absent parents but my best friend who I see most days is teetoral and i'm predisposed to look on the brightside.
I do really appreciate the lovely people I've met on here.
I do really appreciate the lovely people I've met on here.
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Originally Posted by Everydaysabonus
It isn't a problem exactly but I find myself thinking, a lot.
While my daughter is around i'm busy and chatting away to her as you have to with a young child but after she's gone to bed I find myself withdrawing and thinking about, well everything and anything.
I guess this is all part of recovery and as I said it's not a problem but it is something i've not done in a while.
When drinking i was happy to pass the time chatting about trivia and what was on TV, now it's as if I have deeper stuff to contemplate. Can anyone relate to this?
33 days and going strong.
While my daughter is around i'm busy and chatting away to her as you have to with a young child but after she's gone to bed I find myself withdrawing and thinking about, well everything and anything.
I guess this is all part of recovery and as I said it's not a problem but it is something i've not done in a while.
When drinking i was happy to pass the time chatting about trivia and what was on TV, now it's as if I have deeper stuff to contemplate. Can anyone relate to this?
33 days and going strong.
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I thought about the deeper stuff in early recovery and a lot of my thoughts were negative, having to do with guilt and shame. Journaling really helped me , and as Least mentioned, gratitude.
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I know the signs now. As soon as the little whiny guilt/reflection voice comes squiggling along and attempts to highjack my thoughts, I just stamp it out and replace it with thoughts, hopes, and PLANS for the future. Oh, and also what a blessing it is to be thinking so clearly for once in my life, with no "fog-glasses" on.
It just keeps getting better and better, believe me.
It just keeps getting better and better, believe me.
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Originally Posted by OceanGuy
I know the signs now. As soon as the little whiny guilt/reflection voice comes squiggling along and attempts to highjack my thoughts, I just stamp it out and replace it with thoughts, hopes, and PLANS for the future. Oh, and also what a blessing it is to be thinking so clearly for once in my life, with no "fog-glasses" on.
It just keeps getting better and better, believe me.
It just keeps getting better and better, believe me.
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Originally Posted by 2ndhandrose
I have thought more in the past year than I have in the previous 22 years. There is much to contemplate about life, lots of revelations and epiphany's to be had.
For me, drinking shut my reflective self down, I didn't like what I saw.
It felt kind of disconcerting in the beginning to find myself with so much to think about but as time went on and I gained more clarity I was able to really appreciate being able to have quality thinking time with myself, so to speak.
It sounds like your thinking is a positive thing
For me, drinking shut my reflective self down, I didn't like what I saw.
It felt kind of disconcerting in the beginning to find myself with so much to think about but as time went on and I gained more clarity I was able to really appreciate being able to have quality thinking time with myself, so to speak.
It sounds like your thinking is a positive thing
Thanks for posting this. I've been beating myself up for not being as social as usual. But I'm actually really enjoying this time and the reminder is good.
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