fear in early recovery
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fear in early recovery
just a few thoughts 
i realize that fear, and inactivity caused by fear, has hindered my chances of success in sobriety, and will continue to do so unless i become more willing to act in the face of it. Im hesitant to contribute here because of I'm afraid what i say will sound silly or not be helpful, I'm afraid to seek out others in my community for support for fear of judgment, or social implications, and ultimately I've isolated myself for fear of asking for help. this has lead me to be able to reach certain amounts of sober time but ultimately crack. without a support network in place, i seek solace and approval from the people i used to drink with, and that leads ME to decide to pick up that first drink and start the madness again .. I make that choice because i set myself up for failure.
to any other newcomer here who wishes to avoid the "setbacks" that have derailed my attempts thus far, id advise to let yourself be vulnerable and don't hold back. its important, and people want to help, and they want to listen, and they want to offer experience that you may benefit from. let them!!!!!!
i realize that fear, and inactivity caused by fear, has hindered my chances of success in sobriety, and will continue to do so unless i become more willing to act in the face of it. Im hesitant to contribute here because of I'm afraid what i say will sound silly or not be helpful, I'm afraid to seek out others in my community for support for fear of judgment, or social implications, and ultimately I've isolated myself for fear of asking for help. this has lead me to be able to reach certain amounts of sober time but ultimately crack. without a support network in place, i seek solace and approval from the people i used to drink with, and that leads ME to decide to pick up that first drink and start the madness again .. I make that choice because i set myself up for failure.
to any other newcomer here who wishes to avoid the "setbacks" that have derailed my attempts thus far, id advise to let yourself be vulnerable and don't hold back. its important, and people want to help, and they want to listen, and they want to offer experience that you may benefit from. let them!!!!!!
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FEAR can be a double edge sword.
Fear can keep you from help,but, it can also keep you sober as well.
Depends on how you look at it, and the motivation.
For me, I fear going back to the way things were in the past.
Fear can keep you from help,but, it can also keep you sober as well.
Depends on how you look at it, and the motivation.
For me, I fear going back to the way things were in the past.
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There are many things that keep people addicted, and many that keep people sober. Fear as kept me sober. I'm afraid of heights, but its nothing like the fear I experienced from the impending doom fear I felt during withdrawal.
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Let us know how the meeting goes, Supertired. I'm glad you wanted to talk about your fears - I think most of us have been through a time of self doubt. We're very fragile in the early days of recovery, it's normal.
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oh for sure, a healthy fear of what can happen is a great motivator to keep sober. i heard a guy say tonight he never picked up his year chip etc, because he always wanted to feel like he was a newcomer, to keep the feeling fresh or to guard against complaisancy. i found the meeting to be helpful, and i was able to relax and actually absorb a bit. and i want to keep going back !
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i expended a lot of energy worrying. that energy would have been so better expended talking to people like me. who are afflicted as i am. and focusing
on what i need to do to stay healthy
on what i need to do to stay healthy
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