Asking for help... I have lost myself to loving an addict.
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Asking for help... I have lost myself to loving an addict.
Any advice for someone still trying to love an addict to sobriety?
He knows it is what he needs but he can't seem to figure out how to do it.
I don't know if I am enabling or helping sometimes.
I have lost sight of who I am and who I am meant to be.
All I have ever wanted to do is help people.
So now I finally am, helping just one amazing person. And I can't do it.
I need more tools. I need more knowledge. I need more strength.
Can anyone share... Anything they have learned? I'll take anything .
How do you force yourself to be strong?
He knows it is what he needs but he can't seem to figure out how to do it.
I don't know if I am enabling or helping sometimes.
I have lost sight of who I am and who I am meant to be.
All I have ever wanted to do is help people.
So now I finally am, helping just one amazing person. And I can't do it.
I need more tools. I need more knowledge. I need more strength.
Can anyone share... Anything they have learned? I'll take anything .
How do you force yourself to be strong?
Last edited by reetz; 04-07-2016 at 07:36 PM. Reason: Seemed too discouraging for newcomers like myself to read
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Welcome reetz.
You may want to check out the friends and family section.
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com
You might also want to check out www.al-anon.org or www.nar-anon.org for face to face meetings.
You may want to check out the friends and family section.
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com
You might also want to check out www.al-anon.org or www.nar-anon.org for face to face meetings.
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Originally Posted by reetz 
Any advice for someone still trying to love an addict to sobriety?
He knows it is what he needs but he can't seem to figure out how to do it.
I don't know if I am enabling or helping sometimes.
I have lost sight of who I am and who I am meant to be.
All I have ever wanted to do is help people.
So now I finally am, helping just one amazing person. And I can't do it.
I need more tools. I need more knowledge. I need more strength.
Can anyone share... Anything they have learned? I'll take anything .
How do you force yourself to be strong?
He knows it is what he needs but he can't seem to figure out how to do it.
I don't know if I am enabling or helping sometimes.
I have lost sight of who I am and who I am meant to be.
All I have ever wanted to do is help people.
So now I finally am, helping just one amazing person. And I can't do it.
I need more tools. I need more knowledge. I need more strength.
Can anyone share... Anything they have learned? I'll take anything .
How do you force yourself to be strong?
If he is trying to get well, be supportive and let him do his thing.. It'll take time and patience on ur part and also understanding that the program will help more than you can.. We can't fix anyone. Meanwhile I "suggest" u don't obsess over it but try to use the experience to grow and get a sponsor and write the issues out and examine it together thru the steps. You will most likely find strength peace and happiness if u are openminded to the process. Hugs.
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Originally Posted by ScrewdUpInDe
Welcome reetz.
You may want to check out the friends and family section.
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com
You might also want to check out www.al-anon.org or www.nar-anon.org for face to face meetings.
You may want to check out the friends and family section.
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com
You might also want to check out www.al-anon.org or www.nar-anon.org for face to face meetings.
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