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what to do
Hi everyone
Not been on for a while been busy with work.
My family have been pestering me to go out for my birthday but i dont feel ready yet. I thought i would be ok after 11 months but i dont want to risk it im scared i will drink. Help xx
Not been on for a while been busy with work.
My family have been pestering me to go out for my birthday but i dont feel ready yet. I thought i would be ok after 11 months but i dont want to risk it im scared i will drink. Help xx
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Hey waterlogged......do ur family know about ur sobriety??? If so I'm sure they'd be happy to support us & perhaps celebrate ur b day doing something that ud enjoy & won't have the worry of having a slip???
It's good that ur questioning how u feel tho & not ignoring it & then getting in a mess!!!! What would YOU like to do for ur b day??? When is it??
It's good that ur questioning how u feel tho & not ignoring it & then getting in a mess!!!! What would YOU like to do for ur b day??? When is it??
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I have enjoyed 6 birthdays soon to be 7 and there was not an ounce of alcohol present.
Sounds like you need to establish some boundaries. My boundary is, "If it is my deal or it is in my house there will be no alcohol." People know this is non-negotiable so they either live by my rules or they are free not to join me.
If a drink is more important than my life then I really don't want them around
Sounds like you need to establish some boundaries. My boundary is, "If it is my deal or it is in my house there will be no alcohol." People know this is non-negotiable so they either live by my rules or they are free not to join me.
If a drink is more important than my life then I really don't want them around
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Thanks for your advice. My family do know about my sobriety & they are supportive
But i dont think im ready plus today is my birthday it is also the day my mum died 26 years ago. xx
But i dont think im ready plus today is my birthday it is also the day my mum died 26 years ago. xx
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Happy Birthday!
Live your life fur you, not for anyone else. The fact that you asked this question, (and the way that you asked it) mean that you already know the answer.
Don't worry, we all need support and validation from those on the journey with us.
Live your life fur you, not for anyone else. The fact that you asked this question, (and the way that you asked it) mean that you already know the answer.
Don't worry, we all need support and validation from those on the journey with us.
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Originally Posted by MIRecovery 
Sounds like you need to establish some boundaries. My boundary is, "If it is my deal or it is in my house there will be no alcohol." People know this is non-negotiable so they either live by my rules or they are free not to join me.
If a drink is more important than my life then I really don't want them around
If a drink is more important than my life then I really don't want them around
Originally Posted by Anna
It's your birthday and you should do whatever you feel comfortable with. If you want a low-key birthday, then that's what you should have.
Happy Birthday!
Happy Birthday!
And I have the same rules as MIRecovery.
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hi waterlogged, I would not hesitate to pass on going out. If you don't trust yourself, then so be it. Its not a big deal. You can probably have a great time at a place you feel comfortable. Its your birthday, right?
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