Katchie

Happily divorced is an understatement, but unfortunately there is still a minor involved. I have knowledge that my ex is using the drugs in the title of this post; is this something a person with 8 months to a year of sobriety takes? I don't see him much but he claims to be sober; I get the feeling he isn't and finding he's taking these meds gives me further pause about my kids staying with him over the weekend. My ex did tell me he isn't going to AA and doesn't care what anyone says not everyone needs AA to recover -- well, been there done that too many times and I don't believe it. I only care because my kids like to go there some weekends.
Thoughts?

dandylion

Katchie.....these are drugs that are sometimes ordered by those treating alcoholism and addiction.......
they have to be carefully tailored to an individual patient......

dandylion

Katchie

Thanks dandy

hopeful4

What Dandy said.

I would absolutely doubt him, just my .02

NoelleR

What is it Dandy said regarding doubting the individual?

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hopeful4

No, Dandy said what the drugs are for.

The rest is must my .02 knowing his history.

Katchie

There isn't any trust left in me..I've been burned to many times. This is when I wish I didn't have kids with this man. I love them and wouldn't go back, but crap, it makes life so difficult! I still have to try and protect them. At the same time, I need to make sure they are living in reality -- he's probably still drinking based on the mess and my own intuition when I've seen him at their games. They need to be prepared for worse case scenario so the worst isn't a shock.

SeriousKarma

I'm a bit confused. If Dandy says that these drugs are prescribed by doctors treating addiction, doesn't that imply that he's attempting recovery under a doctors care?

Is that bad? Are you just thinking it's smoke and mirrors?

Katchie

The meds coupled with weightloss and clearing of skin color, now back to weight gain/bloated look and redness of eyes and skin are just all confirmations of what I've suspected based on behavior I've witnessed at games and the few times I've had to meet with him to settle marital things.
I've always had problems trusting my gut. Someday I hope I learn to trust myself.
Now, of course I'm glad if he is sincerely trying to recover, but he admitted to me a few weeks ago he isn't going to AA or anything else - that it's not necessary and he can do it on his own. Well, ya know what, I've watched him knuckle thru lone ranger and fail over and over because he's not like "those people". He can have at it. My only concern is my boys who still spend weekends with him. I want to keep things real with them and not gloss things over.