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Please Help
My husband has been in out of recovery for most of his life. He is an alcoholic and drug addict. Since I've known him I've never seen him drink or take drugs until now I believe.
He is itching, nodding out.his pupils are,pinned as well as being deceptive about finances.
I want to help but I don't know how to approach the situation with him. Please please please help!
He is itching, nodding out.his pupils are,pinned as well as being deceptive about finances.
I want to help but I don't know how to approach the situation with him. Please please please help!
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Shazz...
I see this is only your third post, so Welcome to the Board. Let's cut to the chase.
One of the hardest lesson the loved ones of addict have to learn (often the hard way) is there is really no way we can help the addict. In your AH's case, by your own admission, he's been drinking and drugging for most of his life, and it sounds like he's active again.
The only thing you can do is protect yourself. I would assume from this point forward that whatever comes out of his mouth is BS. I would also assume he's tapping your shared financial resources to fuel his happen. Based on these two things alone, you have a decision waiting to be made. We can't make that for you, but we can help get you to a place where you listen to your own moral compass such that you make the best decisions you can for yourself.
Read as many of the posts here as you can. The more you know, the more likely you'll make better decisions.
Keep us posted, and again, Welcome to the Board.
I see this is only your third post, so Welcome to the Board. Let's cut to the chase.
My husband has been in out of recovery for most of his life. He is an alcoholic and drug addict...I want to help but I don't know how to approach the situation with him.
The only thing you can do is protect yourself. I would assume from this point forward that whatever comes out of his mouth is BS. I would also assume he's tapping your shared financial resources to fuel his happen. Based on these two things alone, you have a decision waiting to be made. We can't make that for you, but we can help get you to a place where you listen to your own moral compass such that you make the best decisions you can for yourself.
Read as many of the posts here as you can. The more you know, the more likely you'll make better decisions.
Keep us posted, and again, Welcome to the Board.
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My husband has been in out of recovery for most of his life. He is an alcoholic and drug addict. Since I've known him I've never seen him drink or take drugs until now I believe.
He is itching, nodding out.his pupils are,pinned as well as being deceptive about finances.
I want to help but I don't know how to approach the situation with him. Please please please help!
He is itching, nodding out.his pupils are,pinned as well as being deceptive about finances.
I want to help but I don't know how to approach the situation with him. Please please please help!
What I have learned with my husbands meth addiction was no matter how hard I tried or no matter what I did pr said to try and get him to stop he wasnt going to.It just made matters worst.They will stop when they are ready. Addiction is hard especially for us that have to go through it because we love them so much and hate seeing them not themselves or hurting.
Hello Shazz,
I found several articles on this site very helpful. I am linking one.
Addiction, Lies and Relationships
Secondly, I preferred Melody Beattie's writing and Codependent No More changed how I dealt with the chaos in my life.
Peace,
I found several articles on this site very helpful. I am linking one.
Addiction, Lies and Relationships
Secondly, I preferred Melody Beattie's writing and Codependent No More changed how I dealt with the chaos in my life.
Peace,
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