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Old 03-02-2016, 11:59 AM
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Finally.

Found a cute place, more in my budget, submitted my app... waiting to hear on approval.

I subtly suggested a three month separation to my AH and to my surprise, he agreed. However, he said only three months and then I must come back to "reunited". I just agreed and will keep on trucking.

I have a connection to a family law attorney who agreed to meet with me and waive his initial consult fee.

I feel like things are falling into place and I am cautiously getting excited, while feeling a little fearful and nervous at the same time. But when I do that, I walk myself through the process. When done in baby steps and I break it down, its not that scary afterall.
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Old 03-02-2016, 12:02 PM
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learning to be afraid and DO IT ANYWAYS is very courageous, and also liberating, as we are no longer prisoners of our own minds. you are doing amazingly well, i really commend your recovery!!!
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My counselor told me... the presence of anxiety does NOT mean you shouldn't do it or keep moving forward... you just need to acknowledge it and set it aside. Yes fear, I see you there, I feel you there, but I'm going to just keep doing what I'm doing, you just stay out of my way.
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Old 03-02-2016, 12:51 PM
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Love this thread...and love your attitude. Get em!!!! You are doing great
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Thanks Fourourgirls.... I love reading your threads because you inspire ME!
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Good job! I also like how you handled his "condition": "Of course." Once you are safely out, you can do exactly as you please. Much better for you not to engage him in an argument or dispute whether you are coming back. Let him think whatever gets you out.

Your counselor is right on the money, too. You look at anxiety, pay attention to anything that requires you to adjust your actions, and then set it aside and move on.
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Old 03-02-2016, 02:14 PM
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Congrats on moving forward! I am in the same position, so I know how you are feeling. Just take it one day at a time and know you are moving that much closer to peace.
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Bravo ... your courage inspires me and others. As you said, "keep on trucking" and, I suggest, try to avoid discussions about it.
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armartin, good to see you here again! I'm so glad to hear you're making progress, and I wish you strength and clarity to keep on moving ahead.

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They also say that fortune favors the brave . . . so

You are doing great!
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Old 03-03-2016, 08:34 AM
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He keeps saying... so you are coming back, RIGHT?! So then we can be happily married again. Uhh, yep.
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