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Old 02-12-2016, 03:30 PM
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Help me to stop drinking

Please help me.
I am falling apart.
Panic and anxiety.
I want to stop.
I did it in the past and it felt great.
I need to stop today and I don't have the strength.
I am panicking.
Please help me.
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Old 02-12-2016, 03:33 PM
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Patricia, we're here for you and we understand how hard this is.

You can stop, now, today. Yes, there will be anxiety for sure, but you can get through it. Can you get rid of the alcohol you have?
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Old 02-12-2016, 03:33 PM
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But you DO have the strength to stop drinking. Just don't drink today. And if you've been drinking, stop and pour out what's left.

It's up to you, how you live your life. You hold the power. Believe in yourself.
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least I don't believe in myself, that's the problem. I think I can't do this. I am scared. I want to be sober so bad but the panic is killing me.
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Old 02-12-2016, 03:41 PM
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Patricia, we're here for you and we understand how hard this is.

You can stop, now, today. Yes, there will be anxiety for sure, but you can get through it. Can you get rid of the alcohol you have?
Anna how do I stop drinking? How do I stop the terrifying thoughts?
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Old 02-12-2016, 03:43 PM
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Did you try any of those negative self talk exercises Patricia?

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Old 02-12-2016, 03:46 PM
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Patricia, have you considered a medical detox; your withdrawal and anxiety could both be monitored.
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Old 02-12-2016, 03:49 PM
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Did you try any of those negative self talk exercises Patricia?

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OCD, superstition, fear, are stronger than those exercises right now Dee. Fear is controlling me right now and I don't know how to stop it. I am thinking that everything will work out in the end. but on the other hand I think that this panic is too much to handle. Annd if I don't drink I won't be able to handle it. I look pale and drunk. And In 3 hours my husband is going to be home. He will find out that I've been drinking. I am scared. I have 1/4 of a bottle left and I am scared that I won't be able to handle it. I am scared Dee.
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Old 02-12-2016, 03:51 PM
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Originally Posted by SoberLeigh View Post
Patricia, have you considered a medical detox; your withdrawal and anxiety could both be monitored.
I can't afford it. And I'm scared I'm going to lose custody of my child. I am a permanent resident. Not a citizen. What if my husband uses that against me to get full custody?
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Old 02-12-2016, 03:52 PM
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Yeah, I think any exercises are going to take time to work Patricia.

Right now your panic is being amplified by the alcohol.

Dump what's left right now, drink some water and try and have a lie down.

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Old 02-12-2016, 03:56 PM
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Yeah, I think any exercises are going to take time to work Patricia.

Right now your panic is being amplified by the alcohol.

Dump what's left right now, drink some water and try and have a lie down.

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Am I going to be ok if I don't drink Dee?
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Can you drink plenty of water and get to bed? Can you make tomorrow Day 1? When you wake up, drink more water; eat small, light meals; try to get some fresh air even if its only for a few minutes; take naps; try listening to the tapes that Dee suggested; check-in with SR and talk with us as often as you need.

Be sure to pour out the rest of the alcohol.

I am so sorry that you are struggling, Patricia.
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Patricia have you ever tried a grounding exercise? Here's one that helps me:

Blog :: :: 5-4-3-2-1 COPING TECHNIQUE :: therapistsb
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Old 02-12-2016, 03:58 PM
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OCD, superstition, fear, are stronger than those exercises right now Dee. Fear is controlling me right now and I don't know how to stop it. I am thinking that everything will work out in the end. but on the other hand I think that this panic is too much to handle. Annd if I don't drink I won't be able to handle it. I look pale and drunk. And In 3 hours my husband is going to be home. He will find out that I've been drinking. I am scared. I have 1/4 of a bottle left and I am scared that I won't be able to handle it. I am scared Dee.
P68, I somewhat understand what you are experiencing. I can only offer my experience. Alcohol will create extreme FEAR in all of us. More often than not, once the alcohol is cut off, over a period of time the fear will subside. Take the first step, stop drinking alcohol, you'll get better quickly.
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Old 02-12-2016, 04:00 PM
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Patricia, I felt the same way at the end of my drinking career. I was living to drink - never drew a sober breath. I stayed close to SR for the first week - it really helped with the anxiety. Once it gets out of your system you will begin to heal.
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Old 02-12-2016, 04:02 PM
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Am I going to be ok if I don't drink Dee?
holistically speaking - more than OK Patricia

But, if you're asking me medically - I don't know Patricia - but I certainly think you need to stop.

Do you feel as if you need a Dr? are you still taking benzoes as well?

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Old 02-12-2016, 04:07 PM
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Hey you're going to be ok. This will pass. Alcohol warps the mind. I can't tell you how anxious I was all the time when I was drinking. Put down the bottle. It's not helping you any. Take a deep breath. You can do this. Big hugs to you 💗
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Old 02-12-2016, 04:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Dee74 View Post
holistically speaking - more than OK Patricia

But, if you're asking me medically - I don't know Patricia - but I certainly think you need to stop.

Do you feel as if you need a Dr? are you still taking benzos as well?

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Yes Dee. I don't know how to handle anxiety without alcohol and benzos. I think the reason for this relapse is because I am scared that my Dr won't prescribe me any more. Same reason I've been relapsing for the past 3 years.

I like your holistic approach better than the medical approach Dee. My Drs don't seem to understand my problem.

Antidepressants or supplements, and the only help is in my mind. I need to trust, I need to have faith. But right now I am scared. And I hate myself for that. I am 47 years old! I should know how to handle this!

Dee please tell me how to deal with the next 24 hours with my over critical husband and huge amounts of stress.

I want to do this...
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Old 02-12-2016, 04:32 PM
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I wish I had the answer for instant anxiety relief , but all I can suggest is what I've already suggested Patricia.

Dump the rest of the booze. It's not helping. Maybe try some of soberwolf's breathing exercises too?

In the longer term, booze and benzoes are a really bad mix. I knwo you realise that.

Does your Dr know that you drink? I really think speaking with your Dr is a good idea. If you have spoken to them already and they seem unworried, I'd speak to another Dr.

this is a bad cycle to be in - but you can get out... but I think you'll need some help?

Is your son with your husband today?

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Old 02-12-2016, 04:42 PM
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My doctors dismiss the problem. They show me a chart and they tell me that if I moderate I will be fine. I am about to give up on them. They don't understand. I have a bottle right now that I only bought because it makes me feel safe to have in case the panic gets out of control. I don't want to open it.

Dee I know you had stressful life problems. Can we deal with them without alcohol? Without medication? Can I deal with life huge problems being clean and sober? I am about to lose my house. One stupid little mistake and i am going to lose my house. Where do I get the faith that things are going to get better? How do I trust myself again?
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