Day 8
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Day 8
Things are going well, I'm really excited and really thankful. I know I can't ever take a drink again or I'll be back on the road to death.
I was amazed at the stories I've read. I thought I was the only person who's had such a terrible struggle...it turns out my story is pretty typical.
My S/O doesn't know the depth of my problem. I don't want to drink on Valentines Day, but I'm afraid I'll say, "okay, I'll have just one beer." Right now that's the darkest cloud on the horizon.
I just couldn't be any happier about the decision I've made to stay sober.
I was amazed at the stories I've read. I thought I was the only person who's had such a terrible struggle...it turns out my story is pretty typical.
My S/O doesn't know the depth of my problem. I don't want to drink on Valentines Day, but I'm afraid I'll say, "okay, I'll have just one beer." Right now that's the darkest cloud on the horizon.
I just couldn't be any happier about the decision I've made to stay sober.
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Eight days is AWESOME!
It looks as if you haven't posted here much. Here's a couple good threads to join:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post5789211
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post5789095
It looks as if you haven't posted here much. Here's a couple good threads to join:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post5789211
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post5789095
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Originally Posted by Outonthetiles 
My S/O doesn't know the depth of my problem. I don't want to drink on Valentines Day, but I'm afraid I'll say, "okay, I'll have just one beer." Right now that's the darkest cloud on the horizon.
It's a Zero Tolerance zone. Not one drop, ever. Not drinking alcohol is more important than anything else in the world right now. Valentine's Day must be 100% alcohol-free and based on what you said, I'd recommend you not even be in its presence. Some folks can stay sober around it and others can't but if you think there's the slightest chance you might be tempted...don't be around it! And by the way, this is WAY WAY WAY more important than having a good Valentine's Day.
If you go into the day even slightly entertaining the thought that you "might" drink just this one last time, odds are good you'll be right back drinking again. So set your mind firmly now -- no booze on Valentine's Day.
Offer a romantic dinner you prepare yourself, along with a massage and pedicure performed by your own gifted hands.
Good luck!
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Thanks, soberin syracuse, this is exactly what I needed to hear. I know myself, and this is the first time I've realized that I just can't have any alcohol if I expect to live. I'm worried about feeling confident enough by Sunday to risk a beer..it's just been too easy to say yes in the past, and frankly, I don't have any tools other than my resolve that I can't even have one beer.
I want to add that I'm really happy right now. I feel like I'm starting over in life..who knew such a simple, obvious (yet difficult) decision about sobriety could make such a huge difference in my life. I know, I know..it's the honeymoon stage!
I want to add that I'm really happy right now. I feel like I'm starting over in life..who knew such a simple, obvious (yet difficult) decision about sobriety could make such a huge difference in my life. I know, I know..it's the honeymoon stage!
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It might be a good idea to confide in your SO about how hard you're working on this. You might get some welcome support, and if not, at least you will have been honest about your situation regarding alcohol.
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Welcome to SR, outonthetiles; glad you found us.
Coldfusion posted some really links to some really great threads.
Start thinking about what you will drink instead of beer on Valentine's Day. Pick up some sparkling water(some lemons and limes) or your favorite soda.
Coldfusion posted some really links to some really great threads.
Start thinking about what you will drink instead of beer on Valentine's Day. Pick up some sparkling water(some lemons and limes) or your favorite soda.
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8 days - that is wonderful, Out. 
Yes, the 'just one beer' thing doesn't work for us. The last time I told myself that, it took me years to get my sobriety back. You're doing great, and we're proud of you.
Yes, the 'just one beer' thing doesn't work for us. The last time I told myself that, it took me years to get my sobriety back. You're doing great, and we're proud of you.
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Originally Posted by jryan19982
If you are happy now, you need to hold onto that, and remember that you are happy because you are sober.
What prompted you to quit drinking?
What prompted you to quit drinking?
A lot of the stories I've read on this forum the last few days sounded very familiar!
One thing I want to add is that despite everything I know about alcohol, I really had no idea how insidious it is. I really had no idea how much trouble I was in when I was at my bottom.
Another thought I had this afternoon is that alcohol can seem like a fun little toy...something fun to play around with and joke about in college and later, but it's deadly serious stuff.
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Originally Posted by Hevyn
8 days - that is wonderful, Out.
Yes, the 'just one beer' thing doesn't work for us. The last time I told myself that, it took me years to get my sobriety back. You're doing great, and we're proud of you.
Yes, the 'just one beer' thing doesn't work for us. The last time I told myself that, it took me years to get my sobriety back. You're doing great, and we're proud of you.
It's great that everyone understands the anxiety I have about going out on Sunday. It seems like such a dumb problem.... I mean, DON'T ORDER ANY BEER, how hard is that? But I'm terrified of going back to what I was (just mere days ago!)
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Originally Posted by Outonthetiles
I realized I was getting to the end of my tether...I was becoming nonfunctional. I was reeeaaally tired of living a lie and being secretive. I also have noticed some mental fogginess and memory problems and my health was declining.
A lot of the stories I've read on this forum the last few days sounded very familiar!
One thing I want to add is that despite everything I know about alcohol, I really had no idea how insidious it is. I really had no idea how much trouble I was in when I was at my bottom.
Another thought I had this afternoon is that alcohol can seem like a fun little toy...something fun to play around with and joke about in college and later, but it's deadly serious stuff.
A lot of the stories I've read on this forum the last few days sounded very familiar!
One thing I want to add is that despite everything I know about alcohol, I really had no idea how insidious it is. I really had no idea how much trouble I was in when I was at my bottom.
Another thought I had this afternoon is that alcohol can seem like a fun little toy...something fun to play around with and joke about in college and later, but it's deadly serious stuff.
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Evening of Day 8. I made it home without stopping for ....um...supplies....at any of my dozens of usual bodegas, quickie marts, gas stations, liquor stores, etc. I'm safely in for the night. I can't say I was really tempted, just fleeting pangs of wanting to stop for beer. It was muscle memory on the steering wheel more than anything.
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