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Old 02-10-2016, 05:03 AM
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I have been sober now approx 10 days. I have been here before and every time I find some tribial excuse to drink. I am under no illusion that I can drink like other people , today , however , I often believe that my period of sobriety enables me to do so. Hopefully , I can stay on the wagon this time. Here but for the grace of god go I!
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Old 02-10-2016, 05:10 AM
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It's very typical to start feeling better and then start thinking that maybe my drinking wasn't so bad and that I can moderate my drinking and just have a couple. It never turns out to be true. That's your AV doing the thinking.

Hang in there and talk back to the AV.
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Old 02-10-2016, 05:23 AM
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I know I can't drink at all.
So I won't entertain any debate in my head on that.
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Old 02-10-2016, 05:45 AM
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Congrats on ten days sober and welcome to the family.
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Old 02-10-2016, 06:43 AM
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Welcome Ndatenda congrats on day 10
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Old 02-10-2016, 06:48 AM
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I think there is a period when you believe that you can stop, then return to normal drinking. There may be cases of that working out, but I think most people don't manage to do that, and if they do, the obsession to drink is still there and it takes enormous energy to 'manage' the drinking.

I hope you keep posting and become firm in your commitment to stop drinking for good.
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Old 02-10-2016, 07:10 AM
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Well done on 10 days. 1 thing that has helped me greatly this time which I didn't do on previous attempts is something I think soberwolf posted. DON'T DRINK ! DON 'T THINK ABOUT DRINKING ! It mad sense to me the longer you entertain the thought of drinking the more likely you are to act on it. Now if the thought does ever enter my head, which is becoming less and less, I just stamp on it, or do some exercise, or put on some music and do some house work. Whatever I need to do to get that thought out of my head. Mainly I just stamp on it !
Sending you strength.
Keep it up.
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Old 02-10-2016, 01:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Ndatenda View Post
I have been sober now approx 10 days. I have been here before and every time I find some tribial excuse to drink. I am under no illusion that I can drink like other people , today , however , I often believe that my period of sobriety enables me to do so. Hopefully , I can stay on the wagon this time. Here but for the grace of god go I!
Hi and welcome ndatenda

yeah - I had to learn that abstinence does not equal control.
There's no amount of time that will reset me or turn me into a normal drinker.

I drink alcoholically and I always will.

If you can accept that, you're well on your way to permanent sobriety

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Old 02-10-2016, 02:08 PM
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Hi N. I am completing an online recovery programme and it points out that all human behaviour can be traced back to either seeking pleasure or avoiding pain. There is an exercise where you write a list of all the painful, embarrassing, harmful things that have come from your relationship with alcohol...the Before You...really feel the difficult emotions these memories conjure up. Then write a list of all the positive things you can do now you're sober...the New You...the goals you can achieve, the relationships you can repair, the dreams that are now possible. Associate as much pain as you can with alcohol and as much pleasure as you can living sober. This may help remind you of what you stand to gain by staying sober and what you stand to lose my drinking...keeping you firmly on the wagon.

Wishing you well on your journey x
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