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"Drinking is fun" and other lies....

Old 02-09-2016, 06:36 PM
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"Drinking is fun" and other lies....

Thought I'd start a thread to expose the lies of our AVs. Feel free to add on!

AV: You're no fun anymore because you don't drink. Nobody likes you sober.
Me: Was it really that fun to embarrass yourself in front of all those people? What about puking? That was real fun. People who love me and know me, real friends, like me better sober.

AV: You were a better mother drunk. You are more easygoing and relaxed after you've had a few.
Me: Would I have been a better mother if my son had been injured after I passed out? If he had been killed as a result of my driving impaired?

AV: you're not an alcoholic.
Me: If I'm not an alcoholic, then why am I so obsessed? Why couldn't I quit? Why was wine the one and only thing I looked forward to?
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Old 02-09-2016, 06:45 PM
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Here's a few classics my AV trots out: everyone drinks, you'll only have fun with alcohol, that last blackout was a fluke, you can control it this time.....lies!!
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Old 02-09-2016, 06:48 PM
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Mine tries to get me to drink to escape my life. But I don't listen to it anymore. I'm in charge now.
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Old 02-09-2016, 06:56 PM
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AV: You can just have 1 or 2.
ME: Yeah, right, like that would do me any good, why bother.
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Old 02-09-2016, 07:01 PM
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AV: Drinking's no big deal. Everyone drinks.
Me: yea, tell that to me tomorrow morning when I'm hungover and back at day 1
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Old 02-09-2016, 07:02 PM
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AV: you can't do this.
Me: but I am. :p
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Old 02-09-2016, 07:09 PM
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Addiction isn?t ?fun?: The problem with moderation manifestoes - Salon.com
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Old 02-09-2016, 07:18 PM
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Thanks for the link. Awesome.
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Old 02-09-2016, 07:23 PM
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Nice article, Endgame. If they couldn't convince us how "fun" it is, they would probably become much more acutely aware of the consequences.
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Old 02-09-2016, 07:35 PM
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AV: You can't sing sober. You get too nervous and your voice cracks.
Me: Since I quit drinking, I've gotten A LOT more compliments on my singing.
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You can quickly cure a hangover by drinking again.

I hated like hell to wake up in withdrawals, shaking. So glad those days are over...
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AV: Go ahead, buy that bottle of wine. A couple of glasses surely won't hurt you.

Me: Oh, really??? Everytime I decided to have a couple of glasses of wine after several months of sobriety, I went back to full-on, everyday drinking within 2 weeks. Why would I want to go through the misery of withdrawal again?
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Old 02-09-2016, 09:31 PM
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I don't drink as much as the friends I meet drinking, I must not have a problem if they don't. Just one more, yeah that will do it...

I think with any addiction we try to rationalize and minimize it to the point it makes sense in our diluted minds. I know when I first started drinking it made me feel as if a weight had been lifted and turned me from an introvert to a social extrovert. The shyness, inhibition, etc where simply lifted and I was under the guise of the intoxicated self was the true me. As in adding alcohol completed me, made me a whole person. I realize now it also changed my perception of myself which was a skewed version of how I thought it was. I think looking back and actually lifting those rose colored glasses of good fun and including the down afterwards it wasn't as peachy. It's our AV that is telling us what great fun it was, when in reality it might have been after the first few, but as an alcoholic a few didn't cut it for long. We craved more and it moved into the front spot of thought process, and controlled us. It became our higher power...
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Old 02-10-2016, 04:37 AM
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AV: Have some... Nobody will know.

ME: I will know!!!

AV: you will "connect better with your husband".

ME: And then we will disconnect because I'm being a butt!

Seriously though: my AV ALWAYS uses the first one, the "no one will know". I hate that one. I will know and I am the one that matters the most!

Thanks for this thread. I like it.
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Old 02-10-2016, 04:45 AM
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Originally Posted by Nowsthetime View Post
AV: Have some... Nobody will know.
I get that one a lot too!
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AV: you've managed a month off the booze, see, you can control it. And what's all this nonsense about being alcoholic, you're a normal person. It wasn't all that bad anyway, you're being over dramatic. A few drinks never hurt anyone, right?

Me: not this time buddy!

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AV: You don't have to quit totally....You weren't that bad...you didn't drink that much.....

Me: Define MUCH !
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Old 02-10-2016, 05:09 AM
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All of these sound so familiar!
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Old 02-10-2016, 05:11 AM
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AV: just have a drink already. I'll prove to you that you can control and moderate this time. Stop being silly.

Me: You had your chance to prove that to me while I was still drinking and couldn't quit. No more chances.
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