Acheleus

I am a few days from being eight months sober and I am feeling stagnant. I got out of an abusive relationship with an alcoholic and I feel kind of lost. My mind feels fuzzy and slow. It has been about two weeks since I have been to a meeting and I want to get back into making a meeting everyday. Does anyone have any advice for me during this period in which I feel sad, alone, and full of self-pity? I do not want to start romanticizing the drink.

doggonecarl

Service.

least

Service, yes. Find somewhere to volunteer. Make a difference. Give your time to a worthy cause.

stevieg46

Hi Acheleus.

Get a pen and paper and write down whats different for this 8 months then compare it with the previous 8 months, assets versus debits , no fears blackouts , showing ups , shakes , dishonesty , lies , etc etc ? have you experienced any of these for past 8 months ?

Gratitude is a great asset , its impossible to be miserable and grateful at the same time , so cultivate gratitude and you won't go wrong . Meetings , do not know why you stopped for couple of weeks , that's not important , what is important is getting back to meetings asap , every meeting is an insurance policy . Do you have a sponsor ? if not ask someone who appears to be applying the AA program for some help and to trust and confide in , do not know if you are male/female so ask someone of the same gender , it will improve so stop feeling sorry for yourself and put action in to maintain your sobriety , take care .

Regards Stevie recovered 12 03 2006 .

words are easy music is much harder .

FarToGo

I'm a smidge further on than you, just over 10 months. I'm really starting to feel good again. Just the last few days, I've really noticed an upward swing in my feelings (not high, just nice and accepting / peaceful). I think we're all different with a different bag of stuff to deal with, but this site repeats many times over how roller coaster the first year can be.
We're not that far from getting to a whole year!!! Come on that's huge.
Hang in there friend, do this with me.
xx

Acheleus

Thank you. I called some aa people and will make a meeting. Need to get off the pity pot. Will work on being grateful.

Anna

Volunteering saved me in those early months.

I'm glad you're feeling a bit more positive.

Soberwolf

Congratulations on your upcoming 8 months & for getting out of a abusive relationship

aasharon90

Good job on your sober time..!!!! That is
some wonderful accomplishments in your
own life and you should feel deep within
your heart and mind so proud.

No one can ever take that away from you.

It belongs to you.

My sponsor often told me that to get out
of myself seeking thoughts I was to go
do something nice for someone else.

And I did and for that time, how ever
long it was, it got me away from thinking
about my own problems and thought
about someone else. So I baked many
awesome goods for most all my meetings
and that became my service work.

I was a mom and wife, so my priorities
were to take care of my little family first
then head to my meetings to get what
I needed to remain sober one more day.

Baking takes time to prepare and getting
to my meetings and to stay for one hour
or so allowed some of my time to put
towards sharing my talent with strangers.

Baking allowed me to be responsible in
my own recovery and do something nice
for others and get me away from thinking
about my little pity problems.

What joy it is to be of service to others.
To help those who may have life a little
tougher than I actually had.

I memorized those AA prayers in the
Big Book of AA along with other childhood
prayers taught to me and could say them
anytime, any place, anywhere's when needed.

Thank You to my HP - Higher Power for
keeping me sober each day that passed that
I didn't drink and Please help me stay sober
each day in the morning.

I practiced this day in and day out as
life continued on and has become a
strong part of my recovery foundation
to live my life upon.

What a joy and what a blessing it is
to be sober, honest, healthy and happy
one day at a time.

Keep up the good work..!!!!

Acheleus

Thank you. I am working on being ok with myself and not worrying about someone else. It still hurts but I will be stronger from learning not to let people mess with me.

Dee74

I think the advice here is pretty good Ach - a little volunteering really helped me get out of my own head, y'know?

D

Acheleus

It does make sense. I am trying to get some self-love and positivity going so I will help others. I will search for volunteer opportunities.

soberclover

Your post made me smile Acheleus. I just love reading when someone reaches out for advice and support BEFORE they drink. You are so awesome

Service is a good idea. Jumping on here more often and responding to other people with your thoughts, experience, and insight is also helpful. It helps me to get out of myself and get real about recovery when I check-in here. Going to a meeting also does that for me too.

I like your plan to volunteer. I volunteer with our Corrections Department; that helps me keep it real too!

Acheleus

Thank you. I feel different these days. I think I have matured a lot and I am finally taking my sobriety seriously. Being sober is the most important thing in my life and nothing will stop me from focusing on my sobriety. It hurts to deal with the past but I can heal one day at a time.

Soberwolf

Congratulations Acheleus