Positivity - is that a word?
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Positivity - is that a word?
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During my drinking time I did the minimum. I forced myself to do what it took to just get by. Just enough to survive at times. I'm surprised I made it as far as I did.
My first year sober was a rough one. Lost a job and had other things going on. I was still in disbelief over what had transpired in the previous months. I was still trying to figure out how to get by in a sense. A drastic lifestyle change had to take place. I had periods of wondering exactly how I was going to get by - but sober none the less.
Second year I started out with many questions. What do I want to be when I grow up? Am I going to have to sell my house rather than default on a mortgage etc. And a few other questions about where I was heading.
Starting my third year. Motivation and determination have entered my life. Something I rarely had. I am beginning to do things now, not because I have to, but because I want to. Having the desire to improve myself and my situation is the key. I am no longer willing to settle for what life throws at me. I am now going after what I want. This attitude would have never even dared to show itself when I was getting drunk daily.
I've seen many stories of how folks have suddenly awakened to themselves after they sobered up. Stick with it. Whenever you hear, "It gets better" and you say 'sure it does' in an off handed way, trust that it will get better. It takes time. Some are more prepared than others to move ahead. And some get it faster than others.
The important thing is to never give up and never doubt yourself.
There is nothing like having a positive outlook on life.
During my drinking time I did the minimum. I forced myself to do what it took to just get by. Just enough to survive at times. I'm surprised I made it as far as I did.
My first year sober was a rough one. Lost a job and had other things going on. I was still in disbelief over what had transpired in the previous months. I was still trying to figure out how to get by in a sense. A drastic lifestyle change had to take place. I had periods of wondering exactly how I was going to get by - but sober none the less.
Second year I started out with many questions. What do I want to be when I grow up? Am I going to have to sell my house rather than default on a mortgage etc. And a few other questions about where I was heading.
Starting my third year. Motivation and determination have entered my life. Something I rarely had. I am beginning to do things now, not because I have to, but because I want to. Having the desire to improve myself and my situation is the key. I am no longer willing to settle for what life throws at me. I am now going after what I want. This attitude would have never even dared to show itself when I was getting drunk daily.
I've seen many stories of how folks have suddenly awakened to themselves after they sobered up. Stick with it. Whenever you hear, "It gets better" and you say 'sure it does' in an off handed way, trust that it will get better. It takes time. Some are more prepared than others to move ahead. And some get it faster than others.
The important thing is to never give up and never doubt yourself.
There is nothing like having a positive outlook on life.
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Positivity is absolutely a word....
But more than a word, it's an intentional perspective.
Even when we feel like crap and are ill-convinced we have much to be positive about, we can choose positivity and BAM!!! Life turns better.
Sometimes only imperceptible.... sometimes gradual..... sometimes it takes a little time.... but it works.
#hellyeah
#positivity
But more than a word, it's an intentional perspective.
Even when we feel like crap and are ill-convinced we have much to be positive about, we can choose positivity and BAM!!! Life turns better.
Sometimes only imperceptible.... sometimes gradual..... sometimes it takes a little time.... but it works.
#hellyeah
#positivity
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Originally Posted by LBrain 
I've seen many stories of how folks have suddenly awakened to themselves after they sobered up. Stick with it. Whenever you hear, "It gets better" and you say 'sure it does' in an off handed way, trust that it will get better. It takes time. Some are more prepared than others to move ahead. And some get it faster than others.
The important thing is to never give up and never doubt yourself.
There is nothing like having a positive outlook on life.
The important thing is to never give up and never doubt yourself.
There is nothing like having a positive outlook on life.
Thanks for the thoughtful post, Brain.
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Lbrain, your post inspired me, and truthfully depressed me. Because you are absolutely right. Being a drunk left me scared....constantly. Being sober has brought me a self confidence. In my opinion, sobriety allows you to look another person in the eye and say what you think without feeling like you are being on the edge. I truly being an alcoholic creates fear in many, if not most, fear. In some is creates sociopathic tendencies.
Very nice to hear things are going well.
ps. One thing that has helped me is that without alcohol I remember everything very clearly, therefore, when I get into a conversation with someone and there is a dispute, I remember the most minute details in which leaves the adversary with no defense. That includes my family members. I'm no longer a drunk, and they are having to adjust to that.
Very nice to hear things are going well.
ps. One thing that has helped me is that without alcohol I remember everything very clearly, therefore, when I get into a conversation with someone and there is a dispute, I remember the most minute details in which leaves the adversary with no defense. That includes my family members. I'm no longer a drunk, and they are having to adjust to that.
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Hey LBrain
I also agree wholeheartedly about keeping a positive state of mind. Like you, I am in my third year of sobriety too ! Its been a real journey, emotion wise, so far. I feel like I have finally gotten some maturity (despite being middle aged in years) and am getting some perspective on what matters in our lives. My perspective differs to yours but the conclusion is the same
I also agree wholeheartedly about keeping a positive state of mind. Like you, I am in my third year of sobriety too ! Its been a real journey, emotion wise, so far. I feel like I have finally gotten some maturity (despite being middle aged in years) and am getting some perspective on what matters in our lives. My perspective differs to yours but the conclusion is the same
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