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Day 3....arent u over this!!!!!!

Old 02-03-2016, 06:23 PM
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Day 3....arent u over this!!!!!!

Day 3 and my wife is already making me feel like I should be healed already. This is my fifth attempt (3,5,6, and 9 months ) so I realize I have put her through the ringer. I at times feel as if I can't be irritated or frustrated with the kids because she's going to think " here we go again, miserable daddy ". She doesn't drink. Actually she will have a sip of wine once a year and say " wow, that went right to my head, I better stop ". WTH. Isn't that the point. As soon as I feel that, look out, it's game on. I feel terrible that I keep putting her through this but she always sticks by me. I think part of it is I do fairly well and she likes the lifestyle. The other part is she may actually love me. I just feel like for the first 30 days I just want to be by myself and be angry at the world and rough it out. Then I'll start to heal after that. With the responsibility of two kids, that isn't an option. I wish for 5 minutes she could understand what I'm going through. Oh what I'd give to be a " Normy ". Thanks for listening.
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Old 02-03-2016, 06:29 PM
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But she probably can't ever understand it from your perspective. That's why it's so nice having SR to go to. We understand completely.

Congrats on three days sober. Keep on keepin' on. It gets better.
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Old 02-03-2016, 06:34 PM
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I know it's hard to get through those early days, but you can do it.
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Old 02-03-2016, 06:35 PM
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Hi MB

As you go on and gain more and more sober time, I'm sure you and your partner and your kids will adjust to the new 'normal'

There's a lot of understanding here.

A gratitude list is not a bad tool either - write down all the things you're grateful for today - focus on those

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Old 02-03-2016, 06:39 PM
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Thank you guys for responding. This site worked miracles in my first four attempts and I leaned on it heavily. My key now is not going back. Although that first initial buzz is incredible, and what kept drawing me back, the rest is all garbage. Not worth it. Thanks.
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Old 02-03-2016, 06:44 PM
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Maybe your wife would benefit from a support group, too.
Congrats on your progress!
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Congratulations on day 3 MB8
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